he masturbated with a stuffed octopuss..........he's a fucking lunatic, get away from the family before he rapes you, and your pic gets on sixty minutes before they find your partially decomposed body in they're basement where he has been raping your lifeless corpse...
well this seems like a problem an professional has to solve. i suggest you are nice to him and treat him well because he clearly struggles with something. i think he`ll find out of it himself but it may take years...
And his parents already have to be aware of it. So they are either in denial, or are doing things that people are not aware of.
There is only one thing you can do, and that is call in the law on the sexual abuse. They will look into things, and if they find evidence of sexual abuse, and there is someone willing to press charges, he will be arrested.
I am going to say something that I don't even like saying
But it sounds to me like this kid is seriously disturbed and needs help ASAP.
I once went to a seminar on pedophilia before volunteering somewhere, and at least one of the actions you have described fits the bill for someone who is likely to become a pedophile older in age. (the molestation of his sister)
I would recommend reporting what is going on. but don't tell his parents it was you who did it. report it anonymously.
As much as that sounds like a bad thing, it might actually need to happen for them to open their eyes and realize the seriousness of this situation. Like what others have said, if he's doing things at this age, then who knows what he will do later on. This screams all types of warnings.
Act now rather than hope things get better. As sucky as it may be with the possibility of the family falling apart, you or your boyfriend NEED to go to someone else that can do something with this situation, because based on what you've typed, all the parents are doing is putting their fingers in their ears and going "LALALALALA NOT LISTENING".
That's why the whole family should be seeing a psychologist, so they can learn how to handle this properly. Even though the sexual abuse with his sister was in the past, report it anyway. This kid could go on to molest someone else, or worse.
It doesn't matter what it will do to the family. They will be able to overcome it. What matters is that this kid gets help and stops abusing his sister so that she won't have to suffer through it anymore.
The brother may be crying out for help subconsciencously, because he has issues that he doesn't know how to deal with, so he acts out to cope. Like he is "testing" people to see if they will remain loyal to him even if he does these things. He may not realize what he is doing himself. It sounds like he is screaming for attention, to say the least. Doing all of those sexual things is a sign of insecurity, which he may feel about himself.
He needs to see a psychiatrist in a controlled setting. The parents may have to dump him off at a ward so he can get observed in-depth by hospital staff. The longer he lives like this without treatment, the harder it will be for him to stop doing those things.
Well then the parents are partly to blame for his behavior. Because that is what being a parent means - addressing the needs of the children. Their refusal to do anything and denial of his needs will only encourage him to keep acting out, until he gets to the point where he will no longer be able to stop even if he wanted to.
Some parents are just so damn prideful. I can see what the father would say now. He would say "There is NOTHING wrong with MY kid. Your kid is the one who's messed up, and if anyone says different I'll beat the everlasting snot outta them, until there is no one left to say different." and when someone takes the father up on his offer, and beats the snot out of him, he would say "I'm soooooo sueing you!!!!" like the pussy he probably is. Come to think of it, maybe the apple didn't fall far from the tree in this case.
Sounds kinda like him actually. Well these things have all been brought to his attention at one point or another, but he either denied it or blamed my boyfriend for it who was the one who always brings these things up (he tried to blame the carving things into walls and even the octopus incident on him. Saying that my boyfriend should have somehow stopped him even though he wasn't there for any of these things.) So yeah he seems to have the "there is nothing wrong with him, it's you who has the problem" mentality.
He needs to see a psychologist immediately. That isn't normal behaviour, and he may have a serious metal issue that no one in the family is acknowledging because they're so used to it by now.
What he has done with his sister is abuse, as everyone has already said. And the thing with the knives is scary to say the least. Also the neck rolling and licking his lips compulsively could be tics, which many kids with tourettes and certain variations of autism develop.
Yeah I thought maybe autism and tourettes but the only thing is the neck rolling stopped after a while as well as the lip licking. So it doesn't seem to be a continuous thing. Autism is likely thought he has some friends and seems to interact with them fine, so that isn't conducive to autism.
Maybe he's a sociopath? All the symptoms listed above would seem to fit the bill, with outright rule breaking and disregard for authority. Also, since you said he gets along with he friends (and people?) fine, I don't think it would be autism.
His dad is the type that thinks mental heathcare is for pussies. Even when any of these things were brought to his attention he either brushed it off, or blamed it on someone else, most of the time my boyfriend.
Tell your boyfriend to tell the parents what hes done with his sister. That is ABUSE. If they don't do anything I would personally go to child protection services and the police and report them. Force them to realise it.
It sounds like they're nervous and ignoring it, but I think they know he is mental.
They have seen it or at least have been told about it from what my boyfriends said, but they didn't do anything.
The "touching" was more like wrestling but it always seemed to be a bit more than just horsing around. Like they would start out wrestling but they would always end up in an inappropriate position, and usually the sister would start telling him to stop but he wouldn't. My boyfriend would usually have the get him to stop.
I know he desperately needs to be evaluated, but I know his parents won't do it and if I were to bring it up they would take is as some horrible insult on there part.
Believe me I'm not trying to cover his tracks. I was further explaining the situation, that he isn't blatantly fondling her, but it is inappropriate all the same. More so to explain why his parents don't see it, that they pass it off as horsing around.
Also he doesn't do anything with her anymore, at least not that I've heard of. It's turned into the acting out sexually in other ways like the incident with the octopus.
Not to be rude, but just because he's acting out sexually in other ways doesn't mean he couldn't prey on her again. At 15, he's developed much more physically and could easily overpower an 11 year old girl.