My dad technically lives at home. He works in a camp in a different province on a construction site. He just stays in a small bunker with like 300 different people from around the world so if I was to live with my dad.. it would be living at home alone with my mom.. Which doesn't work as she can be dangerous.
i was thing my life sucks, but your life is really bad, you do not have your real family, and your boyfriend´s family is dangerous for you and your son...
i can not do anything for you because i am just a person on internet but take this council; do not do nothing stupid, really, that just make worse your situation (for example my family never care for me, i am depressive, they never believe me when i tell them about my problems, i do not have any friend and i do not go to the school... and i am very ill, really) i tried to kill myself two times and had a car accident, that only do worse my situation, my family not care about me anyway and i am just more sick and hurt. so do not try that or some similar (i feel stupid then), and if you can live with other family do that. do the better for you!
the people here just can listen to you (or read hehe), if you tell your problems to other people you will feel a little better and vent of your problems, and receive another point of view or maybe receive help, search help in your city or on your own neighborhood, i do not believe in god or some similar but i find some help in a great guy, he is christian (not catholic) but he is the only person who really help me in my worse moments, so do not be a stupid atheist and try to find help in different type of people.
I understand what you mean.. I have attempted to kill myself when I was younger, and I'm glad I never got to do it. Whether my life is really difficult and harsh at times I love my son, my boyfriend, my dad, and my mum and even if my mom isn't like she was, I still have wonderful memories of her before she got really sick.. Thanks for the advice but I am feeling a lot better about the situation as I know that even if they don't always show it, they care a lot about me.
Since I am out of school, I literally have no real life friends at all. Not even one. Most of them stopped wanting to be around me when I got pregnant since I was only 14 (thats elementary school). The few I had left didn't like me anymore because I came mature and didn't want to party and couldn't handle how they behaved. But thank you for praying for me. It means a lot.
I don't have any direct advice for you, but have you considered going to the police and seeing what social programs are out there for you? Police aren't just there to solve crimes, they're also there to help a community.
They're usually programs sponsored by the government or your province to help out those in these kind of situations. I know Canada has quite a few programs relating to youth, such as job placement programs, mental health programs, housing programs, day care programs, etc. I don't know what province you live in, but it's worth either going to the police or looking around on your province's website for these sort of things. Canada tends to be pretty good with social welfare and I'd be shocked if there wasn't a single thing out there for your situation right now.
Yeah I live in Ontario and its worth a look. Cant sign up for things like disability (not old enough) or welfare (can't work) but I'm sure theres something that can help. Thanks, I'll look up Ontarios website right now.
What's also worth a shot is try going to a local university and see what sort of student support programs they have. Even though you're not a student, they might know of some stuff that can help you anyways.
Not too sure what they could offer me considering I am 3 years away from even being allowed to go to a college. And the closest university is 2 hours away.. Which is pretty far to find out dsomething like that but I'm sure their website might have something.
If you're serious about it and not a troll (sorry but there are lots of those, one can never be sure), well, I really don't have much advice.
When will you be a legal adult? Some countries state an age of 21, some others 18, and everything in the middle. Is that too far in the time?
About your toddler. I don't have my own son to even relate to what you're going through. If things keep getting worse, I can only advice to watch some youtube videos of 'supper nanny' and shows like that, maybe you can get ideas or guidelines for taking your kid through the right path.
About the depression, I've dealt with that but it wasn't that serious, and it was more about having a fucked-up, imbalanced brain. I even refused to take medication from my therapist, and with my ups and downs, I got through it. Sometimes I still have some 'downs', but nothing too serious. XP Is there something you love to do and is calming at the same time? I've seen you mentioned you really care about your watchers. Do you like to draw? Then immerse yourself in it, even if it's just 5 mins a day. That helped a lot to me.
I'll be a legal adult at 18. Here its 18 to leave school, 19 to drink, 18 to live on your own, 18 to get married without parental consent. I guess 2 years really isn't that long of time, but it really feels like a long time. In two years my son will be in kindergarden so not much time to get all that straightened before he starts school.. So should probably really save up money.. Didn't even occur to me that everything will all be mushed together..
That's really great advice on the super nanny videos. I've seen one before of a preschooler that bit another boy in his man areas, and she turned him around completely to this little sweetheart.
Thanks so much about the advice about drawing. It's a great idea! And it will help take my mind off other things. It also reminded me that I can cram into my correspondence (home schooling books). School used to be what kept me busy and since I've been out of it, it's been more stressful.
Thank you so much for really giving me some great advice. It means so much to me and happy holidays.
Is there a way in your country you could become emancipated? It might be an option to consider. As for the current situation, if I were you, I would sit down and have a talk with dad to see if you might could arrange for y'all to live with him or figure something out.
Living with my dad? He technically does live at home. his job out west is in a camp site, he does sheet metal working so I wouldn't be able to live with him. And it is possible to become emancipated but you have to have a full time job. Seeing as I cant even attend school, a job is kind of out of the question. But thanks to you, I realized that I should probably just sit down and talk with my boyfriends dad.. and try to find a way for us to both just make the best of the living situation.. even if it requires me to leave to the bedroom whenever he comes home..
Nope.. He is one of those people in denial.. My sister is the one who put my mom away to begin with, and my dad took her out because shes fine, even though she did something really really bad.. :/ So, now everytime I try to talk to him he just ignores or yells at me, and then takes my mom and I shopping.
Ok, I have a question. You are 16 and have a son that is stealing food, beating on people, and biting and other things. Seems the age to be able to do those things would be 9 or 10. So how old are you really? Nice attempt at a troll post though.
You seriously think that I would risk how my friends and deviant watchers see me just for a sick joke? That's ridiculous, you need to understand that there are quite a few people dealing with teen pregnancy and a troublesome toddler...
I'm not trolling, I really am only 16.. By stealing food I mean you just fed him a huge supper, take him out of his high chair and then try to eat your own food and he comes over and takes all the food off your plate ans throws it on the ground..
By beating on people and biting, I means he comes over to you and starts hitting and biting.. Have you ever dealt with a toddler? My boyfriend's dad keeps teaching him that it's funny if you hit people... :/
also, my mom is at home again.. but the house if full of fecies and nothing gets cleaned.. and there is rotten food everywhere..
And to deal with money.. my dad is with a VERY high paying job and we get up to 300 a week, sometimes more.. My dad makes like over 2000 a week.. My boyfriends dad makes only 1000 a month after drugs..