I would go to the the administration office on campus. If he's harassing you, you are well within your rights to report him. If they refuse to do anything about it or he persists, contact the proper authorities. I'm surprised not many people on here have come up with that conclusion. May I suggest you do it quickly. Finals are in 3 weeks, so time is essential.
hmmm @ your next to last assertion ... *sigh* i've lost jobs, gotten in physical fights, moved homes, called police, applied my stun phone and night stick (a bat), cursed aloud in public, thrown rocks ... and even stabbed one male who came on too strong and was too stupid to NOT listen to my NO YOU ASSHOLE FUCK OFFs *shrug*
a simple way to accomplish rejecting without going through even the approach of the suitor ... fart alot? stop brushing your teeth and eat bad smelling foods?
in all seriousness I never found a way except to exit from society ... men prey upon women in this world, and unfortuneately i have found that some gay women do the same ...
and a nunnery is no assurance that the same won't occur there ... train yourself in combat fighting, if possible arm yourself to the limits of the law in whatever country you reside in (didn't check your profile ... bah @ me) learn to use every weapon you can including those you are never likely to have handy (atom bomb anyone? I'M prepared to use it)
music for your distraction and inspiration ... [link]
You are not responsible for any of this and looking at the way you have transformed yourself, I support you. Its always better to be a nice person, but this does not mean that people will disturb you. However I would advice you to try handling this on your own, but if things refuse to change then don't be late and take parental help, they will definitely help you out.
No, there will always be stupid people who interpret your kindness as you being interested in them. Tell him his behaviour is inappropriate, that you are not interested and will never be interested. Block his number.
It is hard, I don't understand how some guys function. And there will always be creeps who seem to live in their own fantasy world, some of it are legitimately sick people who need professional help, some are just plain off and don't get social interaction. And that is actually nothing you have control over. You're guilty of the crime of being female and pretty and for that some half-assed excuses for men will assume you owe them something. There's little to do other than to hang out with the good ones (who are a majority) and walk away from the creeps (and if they follow you, have that pepperspray at hand).
About the "tortured poet":
Suggestion: Explain to him one last time that you are not interested in him and will never be, no matter how many texts he sends, whatever he might've perceived as interest is just basic human friendliness and doesn't make him the least bit exclusive as you are like that with everyone. You just want him to leave you alone as he is making you plain uncomfortable and should he not stop to harass you, you will not hesistate to involve the police. This is serious business.
I know one is not "supposed to" provoke or escalate but obviously this guy can't understand nor respect a no so perhaps it's time to raise the bar a couple of levels to make him understand that you're not playing a game - this is very serious and you WILL have your private space private.
Best of luck. Hopefully it doesn't have to get all that dramatic, but better safe than sorry.
Explain to him one last time that you are not interested in him and will never be, no matter how many texts he sends, whatever he might've perceived as interest is just basic human friendliness and doesn't make him the least bit exclusive as you are like that with everyone.
This is what I can't seem to get accross to people. I love how you've worded it, and I think I might quote it word for word when I confront him.
That's a very nice compliment, thank you. I don't know how to really get that across to people, I attend classes with mainly guys and university section parties with mainly guys so I try to limit my "girlish" displays of friendliness and use more of the kind of humour and language they use between themselves and also make clear that I do not hug - I shake hands, period. That seems to take the edge of it and I doubt any of them really reflect about it anymore.
It's not your fault. You found a part of yourself you needed to change, and you did it. It sounds like you're a really nice person. Don't let a stalker make you want to change your personality. He's a weirdo, and if he was attracted to you, he would stalk you no matter how you acted.
(None of the normal guys had a problem with this, right? You're nice to everyone, they ask you out, you say no, they say okay, and you can keep being nice in peace.)
Tell him flat out that he's CREEPING you out, and if he doesn't stop NOW, you WILL get a restraining order.
This doesn't have to be a bluff!
I've never had to get a restraining order before, but I imagine it would be pretty easy. Especially if you play up the fact that you're a freshman girl. (New to living on your own and scared and vulnerable)
Tell the police:
a) He was hitting on you. b) You sent him a text containing the words: "Uhh, what? No, this is random, and I'm not interested." c) He kept hitting on you. d) He honked his horn at you late at night, and you're reeeeally worried he was following you home. e) Mention you're a freshman again.
That is terribly creepy... Seriously, his behavior seems very stalker-ish (that or I'm watching too much crime drama). Either way, his behavior is very inappropriate, and in such a case, I see no wrong in going into bitch mode and laying down the line that he is very unappealing to you and you're not remotely interested in him. I'd hate to see it get to the point that you'd need a restraining order.
Ohhh, I love those crime shows too, which is probably why I'm in such a tizzy over this. One day they follow you home, and the next they rape you, chop off your legs and sauder them to your skull like horns.. D: