First, you sound boring. Guys that give compliments out so freely and try to be nice etc. are, in my opinion, just nothing I notice. Of course, it also depends on the compliment. "You look beautiful, nice dress etc." will never get me interested in someone. I tend to get the same one from strangers about my front teeth, which stand apart a bit (something not normally thought of as beautiful), that they think it is cute. I like that one, because it is really a compliment and says "there is someone actually finding somethinga bout you cute, that others won't even notice (or find cute...)" But I'd still say: don't do compliments because you want to say something nice. It's creepy. If something really takes away your breath, you will compliment it without thinking about it and that is what a compliment should be.
Secound, your interests: "Pokemon, manga, video games, playing card games like Pokemon and Magic, rock/metal music, etc" What's wrong with them? My most faved dev here is a pokemon fanart... I'm not quite sure why you think your interests are that "male". They aren't. But please, please tell me you don't start a conversation with a nice girl with "well, which starter-pokemon would YOU choose?"!!!!!! Pokemon is simply one of the most uninteresting topics in life ever to be thought of. What about talking about her and yourself etc? I can't say what you actually should talk about but my husband and I both love card-games like pokemon and magic, but we talked about that after a few MONTH of beeing together because there where so much better topics. If you really just can come up with pokemon etc. maybe you should think if you really want to have a relationship now. (I guess you're rather young)
Third: How old are you actually? I guess that you're pretty young. So I don't understand why you want a girlfriend so desperately. I was 19 when I got a relationship that lasted. And I was very quick. None of the relationships my classmates were in lasted for longer than a year. My mother started to go out with my father when she was 22. Most of my friends are between 22 and 30 now and neraly 2/3 of them don't have a boy/girlfriend. There are much more important thinks in life than a girlfriend. Like Life, for example.
One day, you'll find her, but stop searching and enjoy life as it is. There are so many things you can do without a girlfriend (flirting with sexy barmaids etc.), just enjoy your life.
Yeah... there is nothing wrong with those interests of yours, but I'm almost positive that no girl has completely the same interests he he, and it's certainly not the best way to begin a conversation with. I suggest that you start by becoming friends, talk about school? job? dreams? future? sports? movies? Girls like to talk, so simply, talk don't talk too much though, be a good listener too. Just let it come naturally, so what if your friends have girlfriends, it's not a competition, when the time is right, you will find a girlfriend.
Find someone who is into the same things you're into. If they don't like you for who you are and what you do, they're not worth it. Everyone is different in their own way and that's what makes us humans. Try not to rush into getting a girlfriend or else you'll end up in a bad situation. Trust me, I know. If they want you then you will know. Just keep living life one step at a time!
you have childrens interests (cept the metal thing) just dont say what you're into except for the music. and you'll be knee deep in pussy! but go for emo and goth chicks, they like ll that pokemon shit, mine does.
You try too hard, girls can notice that, giving random girls compliments can also be a turn off, depending on the compliments ofcourse....for example, there was this guy and he is kinda desperate, when he´s online, he says the same thing to every girl "hi beautifull "....personally I hate it, and he is one of the types that tries too hard, it becomes annoying . You shouldnt worry too much, just enjoy life and try to get into contact with girls who have the same interest, if you have contact with a girl, ask them about their interests first then you know right away if she might share yours. Ecentually you will find your soulmate!
You gotta be genuine dude. "trying to be nice and normal and giving out small complements and having nice small talk" can totally come off as creepy. being normal is fine I guess, but trying to be normal is something else, and it makes you seem pretty weird. Complements are nice... sometimes. Getting tons of teeny complements maks things weird -especially when they'e about off-the-wall stuff. And small-talk... if you're looking for small talk, then maybe you should sit in silence for a little bit. listen to her for a change, or actually start a real topic. The weather is not a stimulating conversation unless either of you is planning to be a meteorologist. :C
It might help if you started talking to people, and making a bunch of other friends instead of paying attention to your friends' girlfriends. You go to the store to see what's out there; you don't hang out at the checkout line and stare at all the stuff people have just purchased. Meet people.
What is with all these forums about getting a girlfriend? Honestly, it sounds pathetic. Please try and recover some sense of independence and self-dignity.
Relax. It's the best thing you can do. Trying too hard makes you sound desperate and overall not attractive. Be yourself, quit freaking out about something so simple!! Don't let your self-confidence go down over something so small. It'll happen. On it's own. Just be patient. The world will not end. Go out, have fun, don't worry about it.
Got any guy buddies with female friends? Get them to introduce you. It's always worth a shot. Also, aim for just going on a date before trying to find commitment.
A lot of people will go "Oh, don't bother," but hey - you know what you want, so give it a go! (ps. Doctor Nerdlove is your friend; go look up his blog. It's mostly for older geeks than you or I, but he has a lot of good tips.)
You're young -- in high school, right? There's no need for a girlfriend in high school. If you really like a certain girl, ask her out; otherwise, wait, and you will find someone. It may be a while, but it'll turn out right.
There are girls who like the things you like. Stop worrying about it. Don't look for a girlfriend just for the sake of having one, or when you finally find someone she'll feel like you just settled for her.
MatthewMattersFeatured By OwnerNov 18, 2012Professional General Artist
Well, see, lookie here.
There's something extra fucking difficult in this life. That's finding someone who you can truly share all your life with and be the damn happiest a humanoid can be. It really is a one in a million kind of a deal. Most girls out there are going to turn you down or either be willing to get into a relationship but in the end you'd both just find it don't work out. This is the same for every damn guy out there. Finding someone to TRULY love is all about damn unnaturally good luck.
Now, as for tips...
don't go fucking small talking to chicks and think they're just gonna randomly fall into your lap dude! ASK. THEM. THE. FUCK. OUT.
Attractive girl who seems interesting? Ask her out. Instantio. A cup of coffee is an extremely good way to start and if you don't drink coffee then no big deal, I don't either so the first time I first went out with my lady I just drank water because fuck caffeine man.
Why a cup a joe is good is that it gives you a plenty of time to talk. I like to think the best ever thing to do on such a first date is the question game. This is where you, in turns, ask each other questions about each other. "What's your favourite color?", "Do you have any pets?", and, if she's the right damn type a person, you may also go into the deeper stuff like "What is the one thing you'd like to do before you die?" etc.
Oh and all that give compliments shit and that stuff, just fuck that stuff unless it comes natural to you because the last thing any girl's gonna want is you to turn out to be someone else after the first date. It's OK to be nervous but it's not OK to be someone else. Dressing well and having good manners are two things that should be a part of your everyday life though. If you got no eye for what's good lookin' when it comes to clothes on a man and such then just ask around. If you have close female friends, etc, you may just as well seriously ask them on how to improve your looks. You'd be surprised how willing they may be to help. Don't go asking them all though, just start with your most trusted friend-zone one.
Not everyone may agree with me but personally I think that no matter who you are you should wait on getting a girlfriend/boyfriend until you are in a point in your life where you don't feel like you need one.
Also as a side note
"it won't last long because of my interests (Pokemon, manga, video games, playing card games like Pokemon and Magic, rock/metal music, etc)."
there are plenty of girls who like all of those things, your interests have nothing to do with you having difficulty finding a girlfriend.
But want and need mean different things! If you're desperate for a girl, you're likely to end up clingy. I know this because a lot of my friends in high school dated guys who were very very needy and reliant on their girlfriends to cure their self-esteem troubles. Needless to say, my friends did not have fun in those relationships.
You shouldn't have a girlfriend unless you feel you can get by without one. How about that?