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My bestfriend cuts....

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Amaya-Hikari Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Me and her are the same in a way. We're always stressing and worrying, just for different reasons and I told her that I had been thinking about suicide and she said that she had been too. Everyday I try to make her smile (which always succeed) and we goof off, but a few days ago, I touched her left arm and she pulled away. At this point I was getting suspicious and worried and I kept asking her what was wrong, but she kept avoiding the question.

Later that day, she showed me her scars and it hurt me to see her like that. Just the day before, her arms were pretty and now they have red lines all over them. I think about cutting and suicide too and I know I should think about how she feels, but I don't like seeing her cut herself. I know I can't control another person's action, but I want her to stop before it becomes a bad habit for her. What should I do?
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Tachy-on Featured By Owner Nov 19, 2012
:lock: by request of OP.
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SlippyMagnus Featured By Owner Nov 18, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Tell her how you feel.

While it's not a good idea to make someone suicidal any more sad than you have to, this is a worthy cause. You have a good reason to make them sad, if it will save them later.

While having a fun time (goofing off, as you say) ask her what's up, and they'll say "nothing much". It's normal to react that way. No one wants to worry anyone.

Ask them questions. It will hurt to ask. it will hurt you BOTH. But if you ask her the questions that REALLY NEED to be asked, you'll get the insight you needed.

Have her explain it to you, and comfort her. Do NOT forget that part. It's not her fault.
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Solum-Ipsum Featured By Owner Nov 18, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
First and foremost: What stuff worry you girls?
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Amaya-Hikari Featured By Owner Nov 18, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
She says she has family problems and after she said that, I didn't push her further because I thought I might upset her. As for me, I don't have a father in my life(because he left), I feel like my mother doesn't appreciate me and my little sister was recently diagnosed with diabetes. I can't keep up in school and I have all of the teachers pressuring me and I fear that I might not be something when I get older.
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Solum-Ipsum Featured By Owner Nov 18, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Well, as you couldn't tell much about her situation, I can only go into yours for now (though I'm not a shrink or anything):

Instead of grieving about a bad family you cannot change, make some good friends, such honest friends that you can rely on. I'm sorry for your sister, mine only has a bit of dyslexia, so I can't really give advice with that. About school, I can only tell you that nobody's good at everything, but everybody's good at something – or at least has the potential to become good.

In my opinion, try to think about your talents more than your interests, and figure out what subjects might support you in polishing those talents. Ask a reliable teacher for advice if you don't know what is related (jobs, skills) to the things you feel talented at. Luckily, you're still young and have some years to decide what you want to make out of your life.

When you have no aim, you can only stay passive and eventually drift away into nothingness; I know, because I've been down there for a long time, and had to crawl out almost only by my own strength. So having a goal in life (doing something, possessing something or becoming something) can be a thread you can row your whole on like beads. My depression ended when I found something to live for, and for me it was becoming someone better, though it might be something else in your case. Of course, you don't have to aim for things you can achieve: for me, it was setting a completely abstract idol that I wanted to come as close to as I could. You can think about basically anything, because it's the direction that matters, the direction where you advance in. Of course, the first step is the hardest to take, so be prepared to struggle and keep on striving for your dreams.

Well... I hope this helps. If you have any questions, I'm here. :)
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Amaya-Hikari Featured By Owner Nov 18, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thank you so much. :)
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Solum-Ipsum Featured By Owner Nov 18, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
:hug: You're welcome.
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Atlantech Featured By Owner Nov 18, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Also, you need help as well. Medication and therapy for both of you.
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Atlantech Featured By Owner Nov 18, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
self mutilation is often a symptom of depression and if it isn't treated, could lead to suicidal thoughts and/or attempts. Your friend needs serious help right now and if I were you, I'd call the cops on her and have her hospitalized and evaluated. She might hate you for it at first, but after getting the help she needs, she will be grateful.
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kausawolf Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
First and foremost, DO NOT cut yourself.
You DO NOT want to go down that road.

Second, for helping her, don't make her feel bad ever about it.
Google has many ways to overcome it, maybe tell her a few but never push, never stress, and never judge.
Be there for her always any time of night or day, and she'll overcome this in her own time.
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