Crush is eating at me

~AkatsukiEmi Nov 16, 2012 Student Artist

So, I have this crush, the problem is that he's actually my ex. I think that he still likes me because he's always messing with my hair and hugging me and while at lunch today, he was like "stealing" me from my friends in a playful, joking manner.
When we broke up, it was actually me breaking up with him. I broke up with him because I was loosing interest in him... My problem with that is that I still REALLY liked him at the time, I just was loosing interest...
NOW, I'm REALLY starting to like him again and I want to ask him if he still likes me and if he tells me yes, if he wants to try again. Is this a good idea or should I just try to avoid him..?
Please help! This has been eating at me and has done some damage to my grades! I'm 15 1/2 while he's 16 if that helps with anything. >.<

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~Fudgee0 Nov 20, 2012 Hobbyist Photographer

Go for it! The worst thing that can happen is rejection, right? Better than regret

~Zetikla Nov 20, 2012 Student Photographer

Well, you should decide if those feelings are the same from both side and if you feel that it could work out. If the answer is yes, go for it.

~DutchConnaisseur Nov 17, 2012

Do whatever you want.

~Atlantech Nov 16, 2012 Hobbyist Digital Artist

age means nothing, I'm 27 and my man is 45. Love is love.

=KnightAlmighty Nov 19, 2012

Unless we're talking about 13 year old wanting to bang 25 year old that is.

~Atlantech Nov 20, 2012 Hobbyist Digital Artist

well duh, there's obviously exceptions.

*CedarWoods Nov 16, 2012 Hobbyist General Artist

You could try an open relationship. Meaning that both of you date each other, but on occasion you both go out with other people. There's nothing wrong with this as long as you're honest and don't try to hide anything. Dating two people at once is sure to keep things interesting.

Look at it this way:

If your boyfriend is like the average human male, he will suffer from the male disease (also known as Being Full of Shit), and he will feel the need to prove he is a better boyfriend then your second boyfriend (or girlfriend if you choose that). He will try to one up them and make the dates he takes you on really interesting.

I don't buy into the whole monogamy thing. Stupid church rules is what that is. Honesty is key. As long your honest, it's technically not cheating.

Talk to him about it. It can't hurt to try. Good luck

~AkatsukiEmi Nov 17, 2012 Student Artist

Thanks for the advice~

*CedarWoods Nov 17, 2012 Hobbyist General Artist

Anytime. Happy almost Thanksgiving.

*Starlit-Sorceress Nov 16, 2012 Professional Artisan Crafter

Here are two possible reasons you lost interest. You subconsciously realized the two of you aren't compatible, or you were disappointed when you lost the happy squealy butterfly feeling you had when you first got together.

If it's the first one, then you should find someone else. You're just falling for him again, and it's not going to work.

If it's the second one, it depends. Different people need different things out of a romantic relationship. Some people like to build a romance slowly out of a close friendship. They're happy in a very close, trusting relationship with the same person with the rest of their life. Some people are only happy with the new-relationship excitement. Once that goes away, they move on to a new person and more excitement. Those are obviously extremes--there's a full spectrum of preferences in-between with pros and cons for each one. Before you decide whether you get back together with him, you should try to get an idea of where you are on that spectrum.

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