I share your opinion, since I'm a deviant and not only because I'm here on this site... I think that unfortunately people don't understand that society is making us, in the true sense of creating our personality; it's like people are thinking the same thing, if someone hates another person, you need to hate him too or you are out. Even if you are right, in other's eyes you are the weird one: others' decisions are absolute if everybody, except you, share them, even if they are wrong. We have a mind, we all should use it and be stronger. We need to control ourselves, not others.
To be honest, I don't really know if this is related to what you said but I wanted to share my thoughts anyway