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November 15, 2012


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My younger friend is in love?.... What the heck!

AmericanGirlArtist Featured By Owner Nov 15, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I have a younger friend, she is like a little sister to me, and on Monday I found out something shocking.
She is in love with my younger enemy and he is in love with her back.

So I have been discussing this with my friends, including her.

I don't think she is quite ready for a relationship, or what comes with a relationship. I know these things from self experiences.

She needs to grow up a bit before she can have a relationship. I haven't completely cause I don't want to grow up but I want to grow up, I'm stupid like that.

And I don't want to feel like she is right next to me in life, she just isn't ready. And since we treat eachother like sisters, I don't wanna feel like she's groing up, cause I am like her big sister. Now me and my actual sister aren't as close, my actual sister is 3 years older than me, and my sister doesn't care much about me anymore, and ever since, I have wanted to be like a true big sister, my friend is the closest little sister I have. And I just don't think she's ready. What is your opinion?

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shogun3540 Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2012  Professional Artist
who are you to say wether or not she is ready?
moxiee Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2012  Student Traditional Artist
I guess i'm a little but.....
You got to let it happen.
TheNecco Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2012  Student General Artist
judging by your journal you sound like an ass anyway. Let her do what she wants to
HorrorKitten337 Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I sense a bit of competition or jealousy, but I could be wrong, so don't take it personally.

My advice is to let her learn from her own experience, and not to interfere in her life. Be there for her if she needs it, but don't butt in. Also, you said she needs to grow up before having a relationship, and while that could be true, the best way for her to grow up is to learn from experience. Having a relationship could mean gaining the experience and wisdom she needs in the future, it could make her realize that she doesn't want a relationship yet. It could end up being a positive learning experience, and you don't want to deprive her of that. You also don't want to do anything that could push her away.
WOAH THERE. I noticed in the comments that you said she was 11. That makes things slightly different. I believe 11 is a bit young for a relationship, but if it's what she wants to do, she can try it out. BUT, where she's that young, it's certainly not a bad idea for you to watch out for her. I would actually suggest it. At her age, she needs someone watching out for her. Kids these days are growing up super fast. I would keep an eye on her, but do it in a way it won't be obvious to her. You don't want her to think that you think she's stupid or something. That's how I felt sometimes when my older siblings tried to help me out, but in the end I realized they had good intentions and were just trying to help.

Out of curiosity, how old is the person she wants a relationship with? I would be super cautious if that person is older than her, that could mean bad news.
AmericanGirlArtist Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
He just barely turned 12
HorrorKitten337 Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
That's better than him being much older. Older guys are more likely to take advantage of younger girls.
I understand why you want to watch out for her, and it's honestly not a bad idea. She's very young, and needs someone to look out for her. Just do it in a way that doesn't make her feel uncomfortable or threatened.
AmericanGirlArtist Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Okay, thank you so much :)
PhantasmaStriker Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2012
Just watch it all out on the sidelines, no need to get involved.
maltese101 Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Student General Artist
So.. your friend is 11 years old?

Okay.. :stare: then just play your role as the supportive big sister. Give her 'the talk' about relationships and all that jazz..
But don't try to intervene with her relationship. It's best if she learns by experience ;)
CandyDeChocolate Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Student Traditional Artist
So... you are 13yrs old... right? And if your friend is younger than you... then yeah, she's still REALLY young for love.. :P
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