Shop Mobile More Submit  Join Login

Details

Closed to new replies
November 15, 2012
Link

Statistics

Replies: 58

My younger friend is in love?.... What the heck!

:iconamericangirlartist:
AmericanGirlArtist Featured By Owner Nov 15, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I have a younger friend, she is like a little sister to me, and on Monday I found out something shocking.
She is in love with my younger enemy and he is in love with her back.

So I have been discussing this with my friends, including her.

I don't think she is quite ready for a relationship, or what comes with a relationship. I know these things from self experiences.

She needs to grow up a bit before she can have a relationship. I haven't completely cause I don't want to grow up but I want to grow up, I'm stupid like that.

And I don't want to feel like she is right next to me in life, she just isn't ready. And since we treat eachother like sisters, I don't wanna feel like she's groing up, cause I am like her big sister. Now me and my actual sister aren't as close, my actual sister is 3 years older than me, and my sister doesn't care much about me anymore, and ever since, I have wanted to be like a true big sister, my friend is the closest little sister I have. And I just don't think she's ready. What is your opinion?
Reply

You can no longer comment on this thread as it was closed due to no activity for a month.

Devious Comments

:iconshogun3540:
shogun3540 Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2012  Professional Artist
who are you to say wether or not she is ready?
Reply
:iconmoxiee:
moxiee Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2012  Student Traditional Artist
I guess i'm a little but.....
You got to let it happen.
Reply
:iconthenecco:
TheNecco Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2012  Student General Artist
judging by your journal you sound like an ass anyway. Let her do what she wants to
Reply
:iconhorrorkitten337:
HorrorKitten337 Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I sense a bit of competition or jealousy, but I could be wrong, so don't take it personally.

My advice is to let her learn from her own experience, and not to interfere in her life. Be there for her if she needs it, but don't butt in. Also, you said she needs to grow up before having a relationship, and while that could be true, the best way for her to grow up is to learn from experience. Having a relationship could mean gaining the experience and wisdom she needs in the future, it could make her realize that she doesn't want a relationship yet. It could end up being a positive learning experience, and you don't want to deprive her of that. You also don't want to do anything that could push her away.
WOAH THERE. I noticed in the comments that you said she was 11. That makes things slightly different. I believe 11 is a bit young for a relationship, but if it's what she wants to do, she can try it out. BUT, where she's that young, it's certainly not a bad idea for you to watch out for her. I would actually suggest it. At her age, she needs someone watching out for her. Kids these days are growing up super fast. I would keep an eye on her, but do it in a way it won't be obvious to her. You don't want her to think that you think she's stupid or something. That's how I felt sometimes when my older siblings tried to help me out, but in the end I realized they had good intentions and were just trying to help.

Out of curiosity, how old is the person she wants a relationship with? I would be super cautious if that person is older than her, that could mean bad news.
Reply
:iconamericangirlartist:
AmericanGirlArtist Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
He just barely turned 12
Reply
:iconhorrorkitten337:
HorrorKitten337 Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
That's better than him being much older. Older guys are more likely to take advantage of younger girls.
I understand why you want to watch out for her, and it's honestly not a bad idea. She's very young, and needs someone to look out for her. Just do it in a way that doesn't make her feel uncomfortable or threatened.
Reply
:iconamericangirlartist:
AmericanGirlArtist Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Okay, thank you so much :)
Reply
:iconphantasmastriker:
PhantasmaStriker Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2012
Just watch it all out on the sidelines, no need to get involved.
Reply
:iconmaltese101:
maltese101 Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Student General Artist
So.. your friend is 11 years old?

Okay.. :stare: then just play your role as the supportive big sister. Give her 'the talk' about relationships and all that jazz..
But don't try to intervene with her relationship. It's best if she learns by experience ;)
Reply
:iconcandydechocolate:
CandyDeChocolate Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
So... you are 13yrs old... right? And if your friend is younger than you... then yeah, she's still REALLY young for love.. :P
Reply
:iconamericangirlartist:
AmericanGirlArtist Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Someone who knows what I am talking about!
Reply
:iconstarlit-sorceress:
Starlit-Sorceress Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Professional Artisan Crafter
Ouch. There's really nothing you can tell her that will make her suddenly see reason. And nothing's really happened yet--it's just a crush. Unless she's in danger or you suspect an abusive relationship is developing, I think you should just let her learn from her own mistakes. You're certainly justified in letting her know your opinion and a brief explanation, but if she thinks you're trying to tell her what to do, it might drive the two of you apart.
Reply
:iconamericangirlartist:
AmericanGirlArtist Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Alright, just chill and play some Slender like me
Reply
:iconstarlit-sorceress:
Starlit-Sorceress Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Professional Artisan Crafter
Lots of people giving you the same advice over and over again? I understand. :)
Reply
:iconamericangirlartist:
AmericanGirlArtist Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Thanks, I guess...
Reply
:iconlightning-13:
lightning-13 Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Professional General Artist
I think it's too early to say that she is in love, I'd bet she likes someone, which is normal even at a younger age. And what's wrong with that? maybe you are like sisters, but you shouldn't take it personally, such things happen and age doesn't matter. I have older friends that never experienced any kind of relationship, but I have been into relationships since a young age. And besides, I don't think that her relationship will be serious, it will probably be sweet just like it is at that age, hugs and kisses, you just want to be with that person that you like, it doesn't have to mean more than that. If you don't accept this then she will probably go behind your back, and it's better that you let her know that she could come to you for advice then, even if you aren't much older than her, but still, a bit. Let her be happy, of course protect her if things go wrong, and be there for her, but let her experiment, let her experience, she is very young, she still learns, and she will learn more within time. Think of it as an interesting period, she will come and talk to you about him, and you will learn more too:)
Reply
:iconamericangirlartist:
AmericanGirlArtist Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I will let her try this experience, well I most certainly will protect her if things do go wrong.
Reply
:iconlightning-13:
lightning-13 Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2012  Professional General Artist
:)
Reply
:icondutchconnaisseur:
DutchConnaisseur Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012
Her life, her choices. Stay out of it.
Reply
:iconamericangirlartist:
AmericanGirlArtist Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Short, simple, I will do my best
Reply
:iconthelolpie:
TheLOlPie Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Student Artist
How old is she?
Reply
:iconamericangirlartist:
AmericanGirlArtist Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
She is 11...why do you wanna know?
Reply
:iconthelolpie:
TheLOlPie Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Student Artist
Cause you said she was younger,you didn't say how longer,and 11 is only 2 year younger then you so i don't really see the big problem.
Reply
:iconamericangirlartist:
AmericanGirlArtist Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
:facepalm: just forget about it, she is my responsability when she is around, and I am aware of what I must do
Reply
:iconthelolpie:
TheLOlPie Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Student Artist
I suggest not doing anything that might break them up.That will ruin your friendship whit her.
Reply
:iconamericangirlartist:
AmericanGirlArtist Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Stay out of this please
Reply
:iconthelolpie:
TheLOlPie Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Student Artist
I am only giving my advice.If you dont like it then you should have just said so *walks away*
Reply
:iconamericangirlartist:
AmericanGirlArtist Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I am sorry
Reply
(1 Reply)
:iconsolum-ipsum:
Solum-Ipsum Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Be her supportive big sister then: Teach her to be cautious, but don't butt into her personal affairs, or you might end up losing a friend. Tell her what you suggest, what she should look out for, and be there for her if things turn out bad. :)
Reply
:iconamericangirlartist:
AmericanGirlArtist Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
That is a pretty good idea
Reply
:iconsolum-ipsum:
Solum-Ipsum Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
And when in doubt, ask yourself: "What would Celestia do?" =p
Reply
:iconamericangirlartist:
AmericanGirlArtist Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Very true
Reply
:iconsolum-ipsum:
Solum-Ipsum Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
:icontrollestia: I think you should just SEND HER TO THE MOON!!

...okay, I take that back. :o
Reply
:iconamericangirlartist:
AmericanGirlArtist Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
lol
Reply
:iconsvataben:
Svataben Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Not your call to make.
It doesn't matter what you think about it.
It isn't in any way about what you want or don't want to feel.
Reply
:iconamericangirlartist:
AmericanGirlArtist Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Your right, I will just be a supportive friend and I won't care who she dates or when she dates
Reply
:iconsvataben:
Svataben Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I think it's the smartest. :)

And if she asks for advice, do be honest, but mostly say nothing. Good advice usually entails not really saying much, but more functioning as a sounding board for the person who has a problem.
Reply
:iconamericangirlartist:
AmericanGirlArtist Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Much is true, and being there for my friends is my specialty so its not hard
Reply
:iconsvataben:
Svataben Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Best of luck. :hug:
Reply
:iconamericangirlartist:
AmericanGirlArtist Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Thanks
Reply
:icondorkface4:
dorkface4 Featured By Owner Nov 15, 2012
You let her decide what she wants to do then you support whatever decision she makes.
Reply
:iconamericangirlartist:
AmericanGirlArtist Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I will
Reply
:iconfelissauria:
Felissauria Featured By Owner Nov 15, 2012  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
You sound like a jealous little brat. It is really none of your business who your friend dates.
Reply
:iconninick-the-demon:
ninick-the-demon Featured By Owner Nov 15, 2012  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
If she's ready or not to be in a relationship is her decision and not yours, and she'll have to experience by herself to grow up and actually be ready to be in a relationship. I think one person can't be ready to be in one before actually being in one. Well you can't keep her away from that guy if she really want to be with him, all you can do is being here for her
Reply
:iconamericangirlartist:
AmericanGirlArtist Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
your right. I'll be there for her and let her dicide
Reply
:iconninick-the-demon:
ninick-the-demon Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
I'm glad to hear it :).
Reply
:icon2lazy2talk:
2lazy2talk Featured By Owner Nov 15, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
hmmm, I don't think you should step in in other people's relationships. If you do this, it might actualy push her into his arms.
Reply
:iconamericangirlartist:
AmericanGirlArtist Featured By Owner Nov 15, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I never thought of that
Reply
:icon2lazy2talk:
2lazy2talk Featured By Owner Nov 15, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
i'm glad i commented xD
Reply
:iconamericangirlartist:
AmericanGirlArtist Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
:nod: so am i
Reply
Add a Comment: