sounds like drama! I think that your mom and boyfriend are doing the wrong thing and should tell you the truth, if they want to be together, fine, but the least your bf could do would be to break up with you. I wouldn't advice you to sleep with his uncle, two wrongs do not make one right, and you need to show him that you are at a higher level than him. Confront him and tell him that it's over between you two. But don't count on any changes, he may still be with your mom and you must accept it somehow.. ok there might no evidence, but isn't it enough evidence that they spend much time together? I can hardly imagine them as best friends. Especially if your family, more specifically your parents, are not so close as before, and things are not as they used to be, people don't think about boundaries and what's right and wrong, they think 'I only live once' and take every chance that can lead to happiness, even it means taking risks. And as you say, your dad is way too busy with work, probably has no time for his wife, and therefore it's not impossible that she seeks attention from your bf.
Talk to your mother first and try to get some awnsers. A cheating boyfriend can come and go but if your mother is really involved this could effect you for the rest of your life. If it turns out to be true, Convince her or tell your father about it.
Talk to your boyfriend if the mom chat isn't working. If he fusses up your parents and you and your boyfriend should all have a big conversation about this since you cant keep the 4 like this together.
Don't cheat or something with your uncle. That is not going to work since if he did cheated on you it means he really doesn;t care about you romanticly anymore. Plus its not in your best intrest.
I sort of have this intention to start up with him something as a revenge and so that he sees what hes doing to me.
There are 2 very wrong things with that:
1. It's implying you actually WANT to be with someone who would cheat on you... with your mother. 2. You consider cheating on you with family is bad, and you would do the same.
Here's my answer:
It's not bad it's UNBELIEVABLE. Check whether it's true or not, and act appropriately, which means dumping him and telling your father. If you're young and easily influenced, know that their mentality if it really is happening, is not normal, nor acceptable. Don't consider that because you saw 2 people close to you do it it's anything less than abominable and a very rare case. Doing something as major as being with your uncle or hitting on to appeal to someone that disgusting is only something you'd regret deeply when you're able to comprehend the gravity of it later.
Talk to the people involved. Everything might be a big misunderstanding.
If not - break up with your boyfriend and break the contact with your mother. He has cheated and she has broken a whole lot of trust that should be in any healthy parent - child-relation. They both obviously don't care about you if they can't at least work out the situation before they got at it. Really,
Though, reading your solution to it all, you sound really stupid so I guess you could just stay in your weird relationship sharing boyfriend with your mother while sleeping with his uncle... really, this is starting to sound like a bad soup-opera. Are you sure you're not bored and trolling?
Im sorry if I sound stupid to you. I was just saying what I feel like, i didnt say that I actually want to do it. If you dont belive me so much well thats me and I cant change it...can you be sure that all of the posts on this forum are not trolling?
I gave you an advice and then I added that your story was unbelievable. I'm sorry if you felt offended, but admit that it does sound like a soap-opera. And I just realized I said soup-opera in my last post which is quite embarrassing.
But to underline the advice part - talk to the people involved. You won't know until you either walk in on them or you talk to them about it. And be open to the possibility that there is nothing. Though I'd advice you from telling your father until you know something more. What if your boyfriend and mother just get a long well and that the condom didn't have a thing to do with their relation? Then it might just be a good thing. If they do get a long in a too good - intimate - way, then find a way to deal with it then. And if that is the case, don't "punish" your boyfriend with revenge, just walk out of there and show him that you're more mature than that.
And really, there are a lot of troll posts around, can you blame someone for questioning something that sounds strange?
It's fishy, but you really don't have any conclusive evidence to say they're sleeping together. A lot of things could be happening. I'd say watch and wait, and be careful not to let paranoia get the better of you.
It sounds like your boyfriend and mum hit it off somehow. But for all you know they just share a secret passion for knitting. And it's really not all that uncommon for people to attach themselves to other peoples' families, especially if they don't feel like they get all the support they need from their own families. And condoms can get used in a lot of different ways aside from sex with your boyfriend. And I can tell you from personal experience that far more often than not when somebody thinks their lover has 'gone cold' they're either imagining things or attributing their lover's behaviour to completely the wrong thing. For all you know, he's "going cold" because he sees you acting suspicious of him and he doesn't know what to make of it. Or maybe he's stressed, or maybe it's hormones. Who knows. So, yeah. No proof.
I will say that the whole situation is weird, but if could very easily be a misunderstanding.
yeah it is true he comes from an unstable family. He is actually brought up by the uncle and grandma and as I previously stated the uncle is a womanizer so not much raising up there. Thanks for the advise, I guess I just started paniking and cant think now. I will try to watch everything with a colder perspective.
Your mother has the choice to sleep with who she wants, as does your supposed boyfriend. So do you. Am I saying you should go sleep with someone else as revenge? Absolutely not, but it's a pretty shitty reason to sleep with someone.
My advice is that you just stay out of the situation and move on as best you can. I'm not going to tell you it's okay to go on the offensive, here, so you can go attack people's happiness.