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My roommate steals from me..

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FallBird Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
This is my first year in college, so it's mandatory that I live on campus and whatnot. So I signed up for the crappy cheap community dorm, since that's all that my scholarship covers, meaning I also get a really small room to share. And as I didn't know any girls that were coming here from my high school, I had to get a random roommate. At first she was okay, nothing wonderful. But then one day, she just suddenly stopped talking. It was weird, but it didn't bother me too much, because I'm not really a social butterfly anyways.

Then one day I was painting and I went out for a spell to wait for a layer to dry. When I came back, one of my brushes was missing. That struck me as really strange, because I never misplace my brushes. Especially not that one, it was my favorite. But I blamed it on myself, looked all over the place, and decided I must have forgotten it at home or something.

Between the time when I noticed my paintbrush missing and when I found it today, I've noticed a lot of little things that my roommate has taken. She takes a water bottle a day from my fridge, she takes my cleaning sponges, my garbage bags, my pens, and 'borrows' my tupperware without asking. Those things all piss me off, but I mean, none of them are expensive so I tried to let it go. I don't confront her about it because honestly, she scares me a little bit, and I'm not a confrontational person. Then today, I walked in between classes (something I don't usually do) and I guess she'd been in the middle of organizing her things and had gone to the bathroom or something. All the stuff from her little arts and crafts organizer was dumped out on her desk, and my paintbrush was right there in the middle. Understand now, I don't use those cheap plastic walmart brushes. This particular brush cost around fifteen or twenty dollars, I've had it for a while so I can't really remember. I picked it up with the intention of just taking it back and sulking for a while about her stealing my things, and then I saw that there was yellow paint just caked on and hardened. So she stole my brush AND ruined it.

And now I'm at a loss. I can't change rooms until next semester and even then there's no guarantee I can get out. I'm terrible at confronting people, especially when I never talk to them anyways. But I shouldn't have to feel uncomfortable in my own room. I shouldn't have to lock up anything that I might consider valuable. What would you do in my shoes??
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MechaKraken Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Anything you have in the room, lock it somehow. I remember when I lived in a similar situation. People used to steal my food all the time from the fridge, so I bought a lunch box to keep my food in. I put a lock on the lunch box, and then chained it to the inside of the fridge, so that it couldn't be removed and left to rot outside the fridge either by anyone spiteful.

Keep all of your clothes in a trunk. Put a lock on the trunk, then in a similar method to the fridge idea, chain the trunk to somewhere it won't be easily removed. Maybe the leg of the bed, or around the hinges of the door.

This is all just temporary solutions though. You will need to address the problem at it's heart - your roomate. Heres the deal = she has gotten away with stealing from you before, and nothing happened. Hence, she will now continue to steal from you, because she knows nothing will happen. You need to tell her to her face to not take your things without asking. Do this with friends present if you need backup, even if you have to ask them to come over (because they don't go to your school or something).

If this doesn't work, inform the caretaker of the dorm, and see what can be done. If they won't do anything, well, I hate to admit it, but you may have to wait it out until you can change dorms. Let her know though that you are aware of her stealing. She thinks that you think you are powerless to stop her. Make her realize that she thought wrong.
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ViViVooVoo Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
The best way really is to actually confront them - not aggressively, but rather in a way to let them know that you're aware of the shenanigans they're doing.

Or you could have fun and try all those other suggestions already listed below. I lol'd at the one regarding shanking her in the throat. POWER!
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StrawberryGumiho Featured By Owner Nov 20, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
They make mini-fridges with a lock and footlockers cost about $45 a piece and you could possibly even find one for a couple bucks at a thrift shop. You can even put locks on your drawers and cabinets. I had to do this when I shared a house with a bunch of other people.

It sucks, and most of the stuff may be inexpensive... But all those little things start to add up over time.
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RandomRobskii Featured By Owner Nov 20, 2012  Student Filmographer
Take something of hers. :nod:
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JessicaAnn87 Featured By Owner Nov 20, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I would start putting your valuables in a locked box
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Knightster Featured By Owner Nov 20, 2012
Get a chest with a padlock. Keep the key on you.
Put your shit into it. Problem solved.

If the chest gets broken into, brutally murder your room-mate.
Which coincidentally also solves the problem.
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Mew-Sumomo Featured By Owner Nov 19, 2012  Student General Artist
Confront her about it. If you can't get through to her or if the theft continues regardless of whether or not she's confessed about it, then speak to the RA and then a mediation of some sort might be set up. If you go directly to the RA with the issue first, they'll probably send you right back to square one and have you talk about it first. Just don't use any accusatory statements and remain as neutral as possible. Example: "So I've been noticing that a few of my belongings have gone missing/some things of mine have been broken, and I was wondering if you knew anything about it." If she doesn't admit to it at that point or show any sort of sign that she was responsible, then I would bluntly ask if she had been using your things. I would end it with a statement about how comfortable or uncomfortable you feel with having things borrowed, used, or straight up taken so she understands the magnitude of the issue. If need be, lock things up or store important belongings that you feel are at risk.

Source: I'm an RA.
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MARX-MAN Featured By Owner Nov 19, 2012  Professional Artist
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Small text is annoying.

You could just take all of her art supplies and arrange them in a pentagram on the floor, stick black candles on each corner and put the brush she stole and ruined laid in the middle with the words "I know what you did painted on the floor".

It could just be simpler to just get a lock chest or locking draws for your stuff, if it is good enough for every D&D based character with common sense then it is good enough for you.
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Jonas-Lightfoot Featured By Owner Nov 19, 2012
How have things been going on the roommate front?
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Winxclubgirl Featured By Owner Nov 19, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
You shouldn't have to lock up your valuables, but since she's been stealing them, you need to. Even though the paintbrush was ruined, you still should have taken it back (if you didn't when you saw that it was ruined).
Confront her about it and if she still doesn't stop, then change rooms as soon as possible.
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Vanhir Featured By Owner Nov 19, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Speak to her about it. If she takes it poorly, shank her in the throat.
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moxiee Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2012  Student Traditional Artist
If you don"t to talk to her because she like to fight then my only advice is this: Strike first, strike fast and strike hard. Repeat the second and third step.
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EbolaBears Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012
Empty your room. Put everything into storage or send it home.
Live like a hermit and do whatever you have to until you can leave that set up.
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MyLifeInFocus Featured By Owner Nov 15, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
After you saying you'll report her. I hope everything goes well! Hopefully she'll stop, wish you the best =)
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fluffy-maple-vodka Featured By Owner Nov 15, 2012
I've experienced a similar things like this before. You must have the courage to confront her. I know it's hard, but you just have to tell her. If you don't, nothing will happen; it might just get worse. I agree with @~wakige, I'd do that too even though usually I've been a calm person xD if someone mistreats me, they're gonna pay for it. and yes even though I'm a weak person hihi BUT SERIOUSLY! You have two choices. Confront her, or just keep it to yourself and let her steal more of your stuffs. or even worse.
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prosaix Featured By Owner Nov 15, 2012
Maybe you should talk to her about it?
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EbolaBears Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012
"Hi. Pleasestop stealing from me. Cunt." :P
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Svataben Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Tell her!

Telllllllllllllllll her!


Tell her calmly, but firmly (not accusing her of anything like being a bad person and a thief), but make sure that you draw the line completely (say something like "It is unacceptable to me!").
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RavynneNevyrmore Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2012  Student Digital Artist
Talk to your RA about it. Don't go directly to the person in charge of the entire dorm. You should have an RA that's in charge of just your floor or your hall or something. If your RA doesn't do anything about it and it continues to be a problem, THEN go to the next higher up.
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LadyZelda1 Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2012
Next time she takes one of your water bottles, mutter loudly, What happened to the bottle I kept my urine sample in? I definitely like the laxative suggestion.
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AJGlass Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2012  Professional Artisan Crafter
Next time she takes one of the water bottles, the OP should loudly yell... Oh my GOD, where did my Seamonkeys go!? :ohnoes:

Works every time. :nod:
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LadyZelda1 Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2012
That certainly is a bit better than my suggestion. lol
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AJGlass Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2012  Professional Artisan Crafter
It would probably lead to a more entertaining reaction from the thief. :lol:
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LadyZelda1 Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2012
I have a feeling someone would be sticking their hand down their throat trying to puke it all back up. But then again, just think of them as a kind of sushi.
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AJGlass Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2012  Professional Artisan Crafter
Yes, the living squirming writhing-in-your-gut kind of sushi. :sushi::leetcrab::sushi:

Actually, I wonder what sort of damage they could do to your insides - what with their tiny pincers and all. :paranoid:
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LadyZelda1 Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2012
Well maybe they can eat all the parasites you may have in your gut.
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AJGlass Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2012  Professional Artisan Crafter
But... I need those parasites to digest my food! :ohnoes:
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Felissauria Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2012  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
Stop being a doormat and confront the bitch.
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SchnitzelMobile Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2012
Shotgun. 'nuff said
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aspacecowboy Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2012
Put laxatives in a few random things in the fridge. Wait for the fun.
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FallBird Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Haha good plan!
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aspacecowboy Featured By Owner Nov 15, 2012
Let me know if you need any other acts of suburban terrorism.
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Jonas-Lightfoot Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2012
Yes!
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aspacecowboy Featured By Owner Nov 18, 2012
Any chance she has a dog or cat?
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Glori305 Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2012
Get a box that will slide under the bed and lock...failing that, get a box that will slide under the bed, and a chain and a padlock, and start locking all your stuff up.

Even confronting her probably would not fix things. The best option is to protect your stuff.
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FallBird Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I'm actually planning on buying one of those big trunks that lock when I go home this weekend to keep everything she might like in. I already have a little one I keep in my drawer for really valuable stuff like my rings and money and whatnots, but I can't protect all the little things she wants with that.
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FallBird Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Thanks for the feedback all of you, and going to the lady in charge is probably best. Can't believe that hasn't already occurred to me.. I'm doing that first thing friday, since she's never here on thursdays.
And the reason I'm scared to confront her isn't just because I'm shy, but because I've seen her get in fights with people and fighting, either verbal or physical just isn't for me. For the most part everyone on this campus is pretty civilized, but she isn't. She gets in fights with the people in the rooms around us, over stupid, stupid things, and half the hall avoids her like she's a plague. So understand that I can't do that. x_x
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SpookyInk Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2012   Traditional Artist
Man the fuck up and talk to her.
Confront, report, and stand up for yourself.
You probably got the shit stolen because your a door mat and an easy target.
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Pinkmitten Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2012
*you're
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SpookyInk Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2012   Traditional Artist
Thank you slave.
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Lytrigian Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Report her. There's no reason why you should have to tolerate this.
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Pinkmitten Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2012
Write your name on your belongings with a sharpie.
You want her to continue taking your stuff? Then confront her.
Report her to whomever is in charge in the dorm. Though, I'm sure for things concerning theft, they would probably ask for evidence.
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Somnusvorus Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2012   Digital Artist
I think you should confront her. It's not on and it has to stop. >=[ Bitch steals my shit, I'll snap her in two.
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wakige Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2012   Digital Artist
Jeez, what a crappy roommate! I consider "home" to be a safe place for me to relax and be myself, but in your situation - I would constantly be on edge! If I were in your shoes right now, I would need a hug. :hug:

Honestly, you really need to confront her about this. I don't know much about college dorms (I'm moving into my single room dorm next year for my third year), but I do know that there's usually a teacher or someone who monitors the dorms. You should threaten her with telling that person, but above all - you really do need to confront her at this point. I know that can be hard if she's intimidating, and if you are a little shy ... but it's either that, or continue having her steal your stuff and waste so much of your money. It could just be a 20$ quality paint brush today, and a priceless gold necklace tomorrow.

If I were REALLY in your shoes, I would have picked up my paintbrush from within her crafts organizer, waited for her to leave the bathroom, and then asked her "what's my paintbrush doing in your crap? I looked everywhere for this! It cost me twenty dolla―oh my aksdhkasjhdkjashkjdashd. It's RUINED!" No seriously, I would do that. Hopefully after that, she'll realize that I go ape shit crazy when people touch my stuff. I'd also probably demand that she buys me another brush.

This isn't just her dorm. It's YOUR dorm. YOUR home, too. You need to fight to make this place just as homey as your family home. Your roommate needs to learn that you can't be pushed aside and stepped on. The reason she's intimidating is because you let her be the way she wants. Reverse the roles now!

:hug:
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Anubia Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Report her to whoever's in charge of the dorms and stuff. File a report... Does it even count, what she's done so far? Find out ASAP!
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