I have thought about that. I'm not lazy. At all. I do things as soon as they need to be done. I'm up before 12PM every day. I clean after myself. I go to lectures. Sorry but I know for a fact I am not lazy. The only thing I can see that she has probably thought about, is that I'm being blunt. Because I've had enough of her, and I have been kind and sensitive, and she still ignores me. I be blunt, she still ignores me. I could do anything and I feel she would still ignore me.
If she won't talk or listen you can write her a letter. Tell her things need to change or you will be moving out. Who knows, maybe she is trying to get you to move. But you are giving her a chance to change. If she doesn't than it's on her and you need not feel guilty. Frankly with someone that rude I wouldn't have stayed longer than a week. What they need is a roomie swap and put like people together. That way they can bug each other. By the way, doesn't anyone else complain about the noise of loud music?
THE ONLY PERSON YOU CAN CONTROL/CHANGE IS YOURSELF.
Don't feel guilty that she's such a heinous bitch that she drove you away. You need to do what is best for you, and fuck her. Boo-hoo, she doesn't like that you go to the library to get away from her, she can fucking deal. It sounds like you don't want anything to do with her anyway, so what do you care what she thinks?
Stop taking responsibility for her issues and focus on what you need to do to get your life where you want it. You are paying to go to university for your education, not to be her friend, so do what you need to do to get the most out of it.
I know, but it's just the horrible feelings >_< I guess I just need to stop being a doormat and put myself first. I only care what she thinks because she's a very big hypochondriact and so I fear what she might say and then I'm cornered by her parents and friends.
I fell out with my first flatmate over (in hindsight) silly things and we were both (in hindsight) fairly silly about the whole business. We basically split the flat in half and stayed to our own halves. I had the toilet in my half. My flatmate was attempting to dispose of bodily waste without access to the toilet. This state of affairs carried on for some months with both of us trying to ignore the various problems it was causing. But by then the bodily waste thing had gotten way out of control.
Obviously it didn't work. In hindsight I'm sure we could have found a way to talk to each other and compromise and it would all have been much easier.
I'm not telling you what to do. Just think about what is the sensible thing to do and think how silly you will feel in several years time if you don't do the sensible thing.
I don't feel like I'm being petty, I feel like I'm showing her what she's doing to me. Not all the time because I chicken out but something as simple as noise control. She blasts the TV and her music until silly hours, yet she knows she plays it loud, I ask her to turn it down, she does by 1 bar... so I left the tv on loud in the morning, whilst she was sleeping (we had to be up for a lecture anyway) and she came in and moaned at me, so I said "that's how it is for me. It's really loud and my room is closer" but she still didn't click and on the same night, blasted music until 2am :/ doesn't really make sense, she doesn't listen or understand that she's making any problem.
I don't think I'd feel silly in the future about the way she treats me, but I might do about how I've handeled it... still being walked over and not standing up for myself enough.
I have tried being friendly and sensitive and she still ignored me. So I decided to just ignore her when she was being like that. That didn't work either. I'm trying to not be a prick about it, but she's annoyed and hurt me so much that my kindness is going because I'm just angry. If someone can control there anger all the time with just smiles and being friendly and truthful... eventually they explode. Like I always do. Thanks for your feedback, but being sensitive all the time isn't going to help.
By get some perspective I'm not necessarily accusing you of being petty. I'm sure all these problems are significant.
What I'm talking about is how you are going to feel about you how you handled the problems. I feel certain that in hindsight I could have handled my problems without them getting out of control the way they did. I feel certain that in hindsight the problems that were caused by mishandling (studied physics, sorry if that isn't a real world) the issues were worse than the issues themselves.
By get some perspective I mean really get everything out in the open and make sure you say everything that you are thinking. It might not work out but at least you won't have any regrets later...
Oh I see, sorry!! I have been trying to speak to her, but she doesn't say anything and just carries on. There's other stuff I'd like to talk to her about but she doesn't listen or care. But I will think how will I feel in the future.
You need to move out and forget about what she thinks. Sure she might feel offended and may talk shit about you, but this is your LIVING situation. Seriously, you need to take care of yourself and it sounds like you are incredibly unhappy in your current situation. In cases like this, you NEED to put yourself first and forget about her opinion. I wouldn't want to live with someone like that either.
I am really unhappy, it has affected my uni work, so I know what I need to do but my Mom and Sister don't realise how crappy I feel so say it's only 7 months, you can do it. 7 months. I've been living with her for only 2 and already can't stand her D;