Eh, if you're shallow enough for this to affect your relationship, then more fool you. If you're not supportive of her and think she'll still be beautiful, then I'm pretty sure there's someone out there who will.
Hair is so trivial so to make you understand how ridiciolus this sounds to me i will do this:
I am really having some real internal conflicts right now. My girlfriend of almost 5 months is cutting all her "nails" to go "Short for Bucks". Her "Nails" is being donated to "Nails for Love" and the the "short nails" is to help raise money for "people who dont have nails". She got the idea from one of her friends who recently did it and she is going to do it in front of the entire school on December 21st during a pep rally. I love her so much, but i just have this problem with having a girlfriend who is choosing to "have short nails". She is beautiful inside and out and always makes me smile, but i can't bring myself to focus on what it will be like after she "gets them clipped". She is already getting a ton of shit for it and me too. She knows i don't want her to go completely "short nails" and she is really upset. I've told her I'm always behind her 100% even if I don't agree with her always. I know I'm being really selfish and superficial but it is just really messing with my head. Can anyone give me some advice? I'm really desperate
It is a ridicioulus topic, it is sad that this is an issue in your life and you need to build a bridge and get the fuck over it. The girl is shaving her hair to support cancer in todays society where you apperantly can't for the love of god do that. Be proud, you boob.
I'm not sure what the problem is. Men do horrific things with your hair/body hair/facial hair all the time and expect us to put up with it. I think beards are just about the grossest thing ever and I would prefer a guy not to have one but if I loved someone and he insisted upon growing a beard I wouldn't dump him over it.
Sorry, that should have said "men do horrific things with their hair." I wrote "you men" first intending to sound sassy and then changed it because I figured it wasn't fair to attribute the actions of a group to an individual.
I cant break up with her she is my everything and I am hers. We basically kept each other from suicide when we met. And i support her but i dont fully enjoy the idea if you understand. We live in an extremely well to do suburb but neither of us is close to rich. With that comes a whole lot of focus on superficiality
Learning to ignore the superficial shit would be a Great step for you both. I second the votes for you supporting her and maybe even going bald too. I mean... what's the worst that happens? You just wait for your hair to grow back? You discover what friends are Real friends?
Don't lie to her, though. Also... be honest with yourself. It'll go a long ways.
If you really love your girlfriend (I think you do) then you won't think about how she looks or whether she's bald or not...I don't think there's anything wrong with shaving your head if you really want to. I think you should feel great on this because your gf has such a big heart. You know that hair isn't a very easy thing to give up for girls, right? We would rather die with our hair on rather than completely put it out. I admire your gf for that. So umm, yea.. and you shouldn't feel that bad about this. Your gf is giving up her hair for a temporary amount of time and it's going to go to a good cause. And besides it's going to grow back...
If people are messing with your gf just because she's shaved, they should go piss themselves. They're just jealous that they don't have the courage to do the same thing.
Besides me being selfish, she already lives a life that is hell on earth and she says she's fine with all the shit, but I just don't know how much she can take. I'm concerned for her SAFETY over this because everyone she knows is pretty much beginning to turn on her, and she has a history of cutting . I just want her to be okay. And I'm a selfish twat
You'll protect her, right? Don't leave her. She'll be okay then. Though she may be lying when she says she's fine with her current life, she obviously isn't. She needs someone to be with her. Being concerned about her safety is normal.
And btw, you're not selfish. You're selfless. Though you think you're hoarding her all for yourself, you're actually not. You're just plain worried about her.
If she wants to shave her head and would make her happy, maybe you shouldn't be so worried. But it's good that you're worried. It shows that you actually care about her a lot. And let me repeat myself you're not selfish.
Ik it's jsutshe is refusing to wear a wig or hat as well. She has the most beautiful hair out of anyone at our school too . I really hate myself because I'm being so shallow and selfish but... idk. She's my first gf as well and I will and have done everything i can for her.I really just want to be done with life right now. It seems like an overreaction but she's my everything, she is what drove me out of depression. I am so unbelievably lucky to have her. But the first thing I noticed was her long flowing hair that curls and twists , which matched her stunning brown eyes.....
She'll grow tired of it, especially when it starts to get cold out. I know lots of cancer patients that would love to have their hair back. Remember when Britney Spears shaved her head? That didn't last too long. I think it's just a trend and a war trophy saying look what I did for others.
I know I just feel like I don't deserve because I can't get behind 100%. I love why she is doing it, I love that she is doing it, I'm proud that I'm going out with someone who would do that. But I just.... idk. I can't believe how selfish I am
Oh, you have depression. Gee, excuse me while I play the worlds smallest violin.
If you feel like an asshole it's because you are. So, quit with the guilt complex and just quit being an asshole. Don't use your mental state to make excuses, so that you can continue to be in that mental state. What good are you doing for anyone?
I'm paranoid schizophrenic, autistic, manic/depressive and really just a grab bag full of crazy, but in spite of my mental -challenges- I don't take any drugs and have learned to flow with my own emotional tides. I'm a highly functional individual because I don't use my difficulties as reasons to fail.
Seriously. Why do you want to fail at life? Is it too hard? Are you waiting for someone to save you from yourself? Guess what, no one is going to save you, they're too busy dealing with their own shit. You ought to decide to thrive- you're extremely lucky to have been given the gift of a human experience at this point in time. You'll never have this again. Cherish it.