Nothing's "wrong" with you,you're probably just a little shy,like so many others in this world There are 2 types of people,those who start a conversion and those who wait to be approched first...what if we would all start talking at the same time,it would be a mess xD I'm sure you'll built up your confidence with time, when you're approached just sway along with it and everything will run smooth.
That doesn't quite tell me why you get nervous. I'm thinking insecurity. You know, you're worried about sounding stupid or something.
Insofar as that's true, my advice is to intentionally say stupid shit to people. Not at a job interview or anything, but if you don't have to worry about consequences too much just say inane things and you'll realize that you can survive doing so. Once you're over that hump, general chatting might come more naturally to you.
Nothing is wrong. You're just a shy person. You'll grow out of it. Did you know that James Earl Jones used to have a terrible stutter. From what I understand it was hard to even understand him as a kid.
Then he went on to play Darth Vader.
So just think. You can't speak now, but one day you could play a big screen movie villain who will become legendary.
The best way to get on an extrovert's good side is to ask them questions about themselves. It's not that they don't care what you have to say--introverts listen, and extroverts talk. They'll love to sit there and tell you about stuff all day long. Extroverts actually tend to really like shy, quiet people because they're good listeners.
So, to get started, try asking other people about themselves and the things *they're* interested in. Start with broad questions like someone else suggested. If you don't feel comfortable talking about yourself or feel like people will think you're boring, this can help you get a conversation started. (I'm sure you have a lot more awesome things to say than you think you do, too)
Maybe join activities that will force you to be more extroverted, or watch how outgoing people start conversations, and try it out. If you embarrass yourself, it's ok. The point is, keep trying, and you'll get past this speaking block. If something doesn't work, try something else. There's nothing wrong with you!! Have more confidence in yourself.
In that case, as a talkative person in retail, the best way to get customers into conversation is to know what their opinions are already. It's about being observant and not getting into contraversial topics. For example, good things to talk about are always the other person's interests. You talk to a man wearing a rugby shirt, you ask him about the team he supports, whether he thinks they'll win the whatever they win, and if he's been watching their matches. Someone's wearing a marmite T shirt, ask them if they love it or hate it. Pick up on the little things and you'll think of things to say, and you'll already know their answers. Get into the difficult stuff when you're confident around them
haha ya for me its a bit of both, like when its just me n the new person and i cant think up conversation so its hella awkward the whole time lol. or i say some one liner that goes no where.
ive just accepted it, i prefer fewer close friends anyways. just sucks when you do want to meet someone..., oh well.
your defiantly not alone, ive looked this up before for myself, and their seems to be a number of people that are real shy. hell i had a friend who would only talk to me n my pal, ever that was spruce. we would try to force him to hang out, we were planning on kid napping him lol forcing him to chill one time. never happened unfortunately
I presume this difficulty is with strangers rather than people you know? Here in the UK we're famous for talking about the weather with strangers, so that tends to be the first opening line with ANYONE! LOL.
If you stop and look around at people having conversations, you'll see that they're basically talking about something that they share common knowledge of. It could be music, TV, politics, books etc. When starting a conversation with a stranger, we have to establish what we have in common, and use that as a starting point - and it's easier than it sounds!
The one thing that you have in common with a total stranger is that you're both in the same physical place - and that's your starting point. At the theatre "So, what do you think of the show?" At a party, "So, you enjoying yourself?" In a queue at a shop, "Mmn, busier than I thought it would be!" At the library, "Ooh, what's that author like, I'm not familiar with them?" Meeting new friends of friends, "So how do you know 'blah blah'?" etc
One of the great things about people is that for every person that finds it difficult to find something to talk about, there are loads who are more than willing to make up for them. In general, people love to talk about themselves, so the best way to keep conversations going is to ask 'open' or 'leading' questions. These are questions that people can't answer 'yes' or 'no' to, they have to give longer answers.
For instance, "What do you like doing in your spare time?" will mostly result in them giving several answers. One of those topics you may be familiar with and can then respond to. However, if there's nothing that you have in common, it also allows you to pick one of the topics and respond with something like "Oh, "blah blah" sounds different/interesting, what's that like?"
Of course, it may also be that the person you're shy or nervous of starting a conversation with, is just as shy and nervous as you are, and they're wishing you'd take the lead and talk to them!
At the end of the day, the easiest way to start a conversation is a simple friendly smile and a "Hi, how you doing?" - and as Farraj has said, practise!