I think this is possible. Go buy a plastic cockroach and try to overcome your fear. Most phobias are completely irrational. I myself have/had irrational fears so please do not be offended when I say your fear of cockroaches is irrational. It is actually meant to be a positive realization. But if you want to be afraid of them forever you will, if you don't want to you don't have to.
The best way not to get bullied over a phobia is to get over it. Helps you in the long run too. There's a type of therapy where they expose you to your phobia directly. You're nervous system eventually can't keep up the response to the phobia and you slowly get over it.
That's how most people cure their fear of flying. Might want to look into it.
You can't really count on people to be considerate when it comes to this. Look into fear-aversion therapy. There are various ways to deal with a phobia, but doing it with a therapist by your side, who might know what technique will work best for you, will definitely help.
Phobias are tough my brothers friend Gavin has a phobia of wasps and bees and once when we were in a field he ran screaming his head off, and Gavin is a massive guy too. I shouldn't laugh but he only got attacked by a fly. :') I used to have a phobia of spiders but when I saw pictures of a jumping spider which is really fluffy I got over it...slightly. The way to get over it when they laugh at you is too laugh too that's what I do if I make a fool of myself. Other then that bullies will be bullies and will make fun on anything you they can think of, if you show you aren't bothered they'll stop.
The best way to cure a phobia...and in your case, which is cockroaches, you have to get used to seeing them and dealing with them.
I know it's very difficult. I also have this same phobia - I was reading a tourist book once and saw a picture of the blasted things. I ended up throwing the book off my hands, like a jolt, and crying for at least 2 hours before I calmed down. But since one of the houses I've inhabited are kinda infested with these blasted things, I learned to deal with them better. I still find them disgusting, but I'm coping.
About fake ones thrown to you, yes...they suck SO MUCH. Just control your screaming. You'll be fine.
Don't broadcast your phobia if you're sick of being made fun of. I have a friend with a phobia of moths who used to scream and wriggle and make a giant scene whenever one came by, and surprisingly the only thing that happened was a whole lot of mockery directed at her. Now that she's no longer a child, she's learned to act as any normal adult would. She still fears/hates moths, but she doesn't need to scream and dance around like her extremities are on fire to prove that.
The boy from your class egged you on with the fake roach because he knew you'd give him the response he wanted. When you make a big deal out of nothing, you should expect others to not understand and to poke fun at you. They aren't trying to be malicious, but they don't understand your irrational fear and they probably won't care if they're not friends with you. The only thing you can do in a situation like that is to stop freaking out and giving everyone else a reason to pick on you. If roaches scare you that much, you might want to tell a counselor or parent so that they can suggest some kind of therapy for you to overcome your fear.
Should you encounter another roach like in the closet, you need to take control of yourself and find someone who can deal with it, like a teacher or a friend that isn't squeamish with bugs. Make up a calming chant in your head, take a small walk, redirect your attentions somewhere else - whatever you need to do that doesn't involve making a scene or making the fear worse than it already is.
KhirateFeatured By OwnerNov 6, 2012Hobbyist General Artist
Mmmm....I guess it's a little late now, but don't make your phobia well known. If it already is known, and there's that one idiot who's not helping the cause.....well, I'm guessing he's just an idiot and probably doesn't take things seriously, so I'm not sure how well talking to him would work out. There's always the "have a mental breakdown and collapse on the floor in tears" thing that I have yet to try, but I've heard works sometimes. Trigger people's pity so that they feel sorry for you....then again, if the kid's an idiot, I don't know how well that would work either. I would suggest ignoring it so that he gets discouraged, but that's extremely difficult with a phobia.
Geez, so basically I just gave you a bunch of ideas that probably won't work. I feel so helpful. *facepalm* Sorry, this is a new situation for me, I'm not quite sure. But uh....I guess I missed your other forum about trying to kill yourself............are you all right now? I might be worrying unnecessarily, but I absolutely hate it when suicides occur, because no one is ever alone.
Well bullying has been going on forever and there aren't many options to tell you the truth except maybe talking to him personally, because if you told the teacher got the principle, his parents and your parents involved then I believe the bullying might get worse.
dont do that, that would be bad, you have to be strong, i survived highschool by killing myself on the inside, (worst solution) i suggest trying your best not to react, and glaring at the jerks who terrorize you
the difference: a healthy fear is a natural reaction to situations and objects that can cause harm to us. an irrational fear is fearing things that can't actually harm you. A phobia is a dysfunctional type of fear that makes a person that suffers from it unable to react/function normally in every day life. It can seriously impair people in having normal jobs and relationships. It's not a condition you can turn off with a bit of rational thinking, which would be possible in the case of a slight irrational fear.
Pakaku is right that having a phobia for cockroaches doesn't differ much from a phobia for mice, spiders whatever, (though anyone with a phobia for penguins while living in south africa might be considered lucky ) but the OP is clearly asking for advise on how to handle it, regardles of the subject. That said, telling someone that their phobia is the same as being scared of a lot of other things isn't really helpful.