Theres no fix for this. I know from myself. You can work around the problem though. Like just doing the most stupid things imaginable. When you do the most stupid things that a person can do in a social environment than social interaction becomes easier.
I completely understand. I'm sick of being shy too. Some even asked me the other day "Why are you so shy?" In truth, I'm just that way. I feel like my friends are drifting away from me. However, to help your problem I say this. Even though you are shy, maybe start by just writing down your thoughts. Perhaps when you get used to writing your thoughts, maybe it may lead to being more open? Just a suggestion, from someone who is the same way almost. Bottom line, I'm shy and weird, but I'm friendly once you talk to me. Best of luck to you! Trust me, when you practice writing your thoughts, you'll get more comfortable expressing them.
Kaida-22Featured By OwnerNov 7, 2012Hobbyist General Artist
I have recently experienced something similar to this as I never used to be shy as a child but now I find myself getting more and more introverted. I used to have a lot of friends but as we grew up we drifted apart. Lately I've been trying to integrate myself into new social groups to make new friends. The more time that I've spent with them however, the more I can feel myself opening up and becoming less awkward around them.
Maybe you just have to come to terms with your shyness. Acknowledge it, but refuse to let it run your life. Put your self out there bit by bit and maybe if you spend enough time with someone you'll really get to know them and make new friends.
If your shy about what your responses to people, maybe instead of responding to them you could ask them some questions. If they are responding to things you ask then you don't have to worry as much about what to say!
Ask your boyfriend if there are any family issues that you shouldn't ask about (generally good to know so you don't stick your foot in your mouth) and then jot down a few general questions to ask each person (stay away from heated topics like divorce or politics, etc.). Next time you see his family, make it a goal to ask each person one question about themselves. One of the first things I asked my boyfriend's mom when I met her was if she had any funny or embarrassing stories about my boyfriend when he was growing up. This really opened her up and we laughed at his expense for quite awhile (luckily he's a good sport like that). I'm sure you could start a few conversations that way!
i feel exactly the same way. even the friends i feel closest to/like the most, often i am afraid to say anything to them. i am mortally shy in almost every circumstance.
there are however a few exceptions. 1. when i am super exhausted, like if i have worked 2 10 hour shifts and not slept for 25 hours, i get too tired to be shy, and then I open up to people.
2. i am less shy when i am talking to someone one on one.
3. when it comes to animals, i am suddenly less shy also. for example, if i see a pretty stray cat on the street, i am not afraid to say to a stranger, "that is such a pretty cat!" and start to talk to them.
My advice would be perhaps to find the things that make you less shy, and try to acquire those circumstances sometimes. that might help your relationships to other people, and maybe even help you overcome shyness elsewhere.
this is only a theory as I have not overcome my shyness; I work as a cashier too and i have to talk to people every day, but when it comes to talking about something for myself, i am mortally afraid.
i get the tired thing... im the same when im tired, i dont really care, but its more too do with people i WANT too like me, i get even nervous then someone mentions im shy then its like bam, ten times worse :/ one on one im absolutley fine, still abit curious, but fine D; aww aha, i have a soft spot for animals too >.< yeah :/ i see what you mean, i just gotta get myself comfortable, sounds silly but even the way i look makes me confident or shy :/ i feel my biggest issue is honestly my self confidence... thankyou so much for your reply note me anytime xx
When you're a really shy and secluded person, it's really hard to open up and talk to people. But talking to people can become a breeze. Here's what I do. I just talk to people bit by bit, progress is slow but sure. As long as you keep talking, you won't feel awkward anymore. If you get used to it, you won't screw up.
You need to learn to love yourself (an exercise that I've heard helps is looking in the mirror every morning and evening and finding 5 good things to tell yourself and then repeating that you are worth being loved and that you love yourself).
Once you love yourself you can move forward and become brave. Sometimes you just need to jump out there and try it out. It may be uncomfortable at first but it won't always be like that.
You are the only one blocking you. Try the mirror trick. 5 genuinely positive things about you and then tell yourself that you deserve to be loved, you have self worth, and that you love yourself. Also working on changing negative thoughts into positive ones during the day can help. Changing "I can't" to "this isn't that bad" or "this may be hard but I can do this" really can made a difference.