Well, as you have disregarded the consensus answer from the other site you posted too, it sounds like you want to hear something different?
The problem is, you and he HAVE grown apart. What you are wanting back is the way things were. You can not get back something like that. You had a wonderful relationship, but there have been changes.
And you tried to buy him back with a concert ticket.
He will go with you. And he might even try to have you in his life again out of gratitude. But he has still changed, there will still be problems, and YOU are the one hitting HIM.
Love does not insure a relationship will work. It does not insure a relationship will last, and just because you love someone, does not mean they return the feeling, or have it as strong as you do. And people fall out of love just as often as they fall in love.
You would be better off cutting all ties. Crying about it, eating some ice cream, and finding other friends to go to concerts with. The more you see him, the more you perpetuate the hope that you can go back to the way things were, but you said it yourself, he has changed. You can not have the relationship you had with a different person, and he is now a different person.
I would like to start by saying that no one is perfect. We all do things at times that when we come back and think about it five - ten years down the road, we're going to look back and think, "Really? Was that me? What on Earth was I thinking?!?"
After reading through what you've written, I think the best thing to do is talk openly and freely about your feelings with him. Somewhere quiet, and just the two of you - if you feel comfortable doing that. You should share with him how you feel, and ask for his honest feelings back. If he doesn't feel the same way about you that you feel about him, or if you feel that he is not being honest with you, then maybe it would be best to remain friends - at least for a while until you two get your lives sorted a bit more. It's better to always have a friend than to have messed that up by pushing for something more that just cannot be(at least at present).
If he's treating you poorly, or, as you put it "showing his true colors", then regardless of how infatuated you are with him, he's just not good for you. Love truly is blind, and I'm not putting you down, I speak from experience. Sometimes you just have to push that aside, and look for something better - and trust me, there are better things out there. Again though, this is something you'll have to talk to him about. I will add, that it's still not particularly nice to hit people - even if they deserve it.
As for the ticket situation, honesty is always, always, always the best policy. That's really all I have to say about that.
I'm not writing you off as being young, but speaking from experience, I can tell you that no matter how much you may love him, if you need to(not necessarily want to), you will be able to forget/move past/just become friends with him. Just remember that you have to do what you have to do, and that your parents and your true friends - even if they seem a bit distant at times - still love and care about you.
I hope this helps you in some way, and I hope you are able to get things sorted out.
This helped out so much. It really hit close to home. No, not close to home, right in the middle of it. I had to stop reading this and go sob in the bathroom, haha. But thank you so much. This helped a lot. You all helped a lot. I love you guys. <3
stop being so desperate for his attention; you're probably driving him away with the whole "TELL ME WHY I AM SO HOOKED ONTO YOU" business. if he really did turn into a douche, then let him go and move on. there's an entire planet of other guys out there, and most of them are probably not douchebags.
also, you might be overreacting; guys act like guys in front of other guys. we're dicks when we're around our bros. doesn't mean he's turning over to the dark side.
also, yeah; you're under 18. you're very capable of understanding crushes and infatuations. but actual actual love? i'm skeptical.
Well, first, you need to exactly tell us what you want to do regarding this guy. Do you want to forget him, or try to become friends again? From the context however, it seems like you want to maintain a relationship.
It seems like you have attachment issues. Most people who are introverted usually do, they are afraid to let go of the only thing that might hold them to society that they have come to enjoy. You might like the guy personally, or you might just depend upon him for companionship. Or both.
The things he says to you are likely not malicious. They are probably entirely unintentional, and he does not know how truly hurt you are by them, or he's afraid from peer pressure probably. It makes people do really, really stupid things, because we, humans as a whole are programmed for acceptance by our peers.
But to be honest, he must have realized it does hurt you when he was smacked by you, and did nothing by it. It seems he learned his lesson, seeming on how you two are even able to hold a conversation anymore without him avoiding you or hating you.
On the suicide note, you don't explain what the hell is going on very much, but if someone is attempting suicide, not just contemplating it, get them some god damned help before you all get put on the news.
Anyway, from what info I can gather here, the guy doesn't seem like a total asshole, if anything, he's probably has no filter/boundaries, doesn't know when to shut his mouth, and assumes a lot. In a way, naive and ignorant. If you want to preserve your relationship, take him to the concert, he'll love it, and if he's a half decent guy, he will understand how hard it was for you to get tickets and try to make it up to you. If you can't, spend time with him, try to forget the past, and if his actions/words still trouble you, talk to him and EXPLAIN. Communication is vital.
Anyway, this is just my two cents from what I can gather here. If I have anything wrong, feel free to correct me.
Thank you very much for the advice. Your sypnosis of the ordeal is accurate.
Though on the suicide note, it's a quite uncomfortable situation, but I was sexually harassed and attempted suicide after it happened for the second time. But it won't happen again because I did get help from my psychiatrist.
Then, please stay safe. Don't let yourself fall into a situation like that again, but it goes without saying.
What someone else said is quite accurate, however. Some guys respond well to smothering, some don't. Be careful to know what kind of guy your friend is before you try to hook up or even hang out a lot. Give it baby steps, be cautious, and communicate, it seems like the best chance to me.
Also, beware on buying him gifts, or he'll think you're trying to buy him out. If he's a decent guy, good companionship is more of a gift than tickets to a band or a favorite video game. This is just coming from my personal experience dealing with girls, however. Don't know how well it translates, but in the end, we're all human, right?
We have never actually hung out alone outside of school, so this would pretty much be the first time we'll have a 1-on-1 in a looong time, haha. After thinking about it, I believe I was overreacting. He really is a decent guy, but his friends seem to influence him a little too much, I think. That's my conclusion from observance, though, so I really don't know.
But trust me, the last thing you want to do in this situation is give him an ultimatum. "It's your friends or me!" It will make him hate you for having to make a choice, kind of like two divorced parents trying to tell the kid how bad the other is.
Just... talk to him. Explain it to him, and tell him to make his friends back off. It's a lot easier to do it than you think.