Sometimes we are more in love with being in love, it's flattering to know someone has feelings for you, but you should realize that you only started longing for a re-connection after you heard about these feelings! So what does that mean to you? Before that you were a happy go lucky kid. I'd say stick with that.
Well consider this old saying - Why does a pig that has been washed and cleaned go back to wallowing in the mire? Or why does an alcoholic that has been dried out go back to drinking? You were clean, and you were sober, so why go back and do the whole thing over again? Don't be played again. Cease and desist or you may be a good candidate for Jerry Springer's show - "Baggage".
I'd leave it. You need to work on your insecurity and jealousy. You broke up with her, she slept with someone else, and you're upset about it? You don't get to dictate who she sleeps with. Sure she could have slept with someone else but clearly she didn't want to. She kisses your friend BEFORE you ask her out and you lose all trust in her? She wasn't going out with you, she can kiss who she wants.
You only want to get back with her when you lose your virginity? WTF is with that.
I'd say that you should let her go. You don't want to lose your virginity at such a young age to someone who doesn't mean that much to you. Move on and find someone who is going to respect and love you instead of create drama.
Have fun while you are young. Don't hold on to extra stress that you don't need.
You're 16, you're going to have a lot more relationships, stop building one on top of a mountain of bad things, because it's only going to keep building up and wasting both your time in misery. You're young, and you should be enjoying that instead of obsessing over one girl. Obviously there is a lot going on, so just separate yourself from it. You're right she could've slept with any one, but she slept with him for a reason, and really it just seems like shes lonely right now, and using you as her fall back. Trying to salvage a relationship like that at your age just wastes time you could be having much better ones with better people.
Thats something that's been on my mind for a long time mostly because over the summer break I had many chances to start new things but I didnt do anything about them and I just keep thinking that this is something I might regret too.
Move on, it's the best especially for you. A new relationship will start from scratch and have the potential to be great. Here, it's starting from a bad beginning with loads of history and negativity, it would be hard even for someone older and wiser to make that work.
Sounds like a total mess but I'm sure you can make something of it and salvage what's left over and keep going~ it's up to you to decide what's best for your life whether it's with your ex or without. Try being objective about things and see it sort of from the outside looking in...
I've gotten tons of opinions of it, the most recent from my dad who found out but eh, I'm trying to think of this from a logical point of view and both options sort of make sense, but as of now I'm thinking of being with her and seeing where it leads.