I have social anxiety as well, so I understand the struggle you're going through. It's improved because I force myself to be in situations where I feel the most anxious, but it's still a daily struggle.
I suggest you go see a doctor and get a proper diagnosis! I did a bit of therapy so that might also work for you as well. As for medication, I tried it once and I'll never use it again. It made my anxiety worse but that's just my experience.
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xExcellaFeatured By OwnerNov 4, 2012Student Digital Artist
Well, before you start dealing with your problem consider getting a diagnose, so you will know for certain what to do. Don't feel upset, there are many people who share your problem, and I am certain that some deal with worse. Try to relax for a bit, and take a good objective look at what your problem might be. There are many factors that impact how you deal with people, so you should consider those too. So relax, dont panic, and dont feel sad.
I haven't been diagnosed myself, but it was painfully obvious that I was suffering from some sort of severe social anxiety within the past 3 years, and somewhat less this recent year. I would highly advise that you do not lock yourself into the idea of having the disorder, and instead use it to your advantage in realizing that your perceptions about what others are thinking are often not true. I know that sounds simple and it isn't, but it's a small start. Exposure also tends to work. The more social situations you find yourself in, the more you are likely to begin adapting, but even getting to that point can be hard if you truly have this disorder.
I definitely haven't been diagnosed with any form of anxiety but I've always been pretty introverted and very nervous in social situations. I tend to withdraw myself from gatherings of people I am not particularly close to, and when it comes to making casual conversation with people I don't know well, or any real attempt to socialize, I can feel my heart rate go up and I usually get shot down or ignored after word-vomiting and not knowing what the "right" thing to say is. I almost always assume that everyone around me pre-emptively dislikes me, and that there's something about me that repels people and I just can't control it. It isn't too terrible since I always imagine myself being unsuccessful socially, but it's a bad thing to keep thinking because I always set myself up to fail.
What has helped me personally is being more engaged in leadership positions and jobs that involve a lot of direct communication. I have been working as a camp counselor for a few years and I am an RA at my school this year among other things. It's a lot easier trying to speak to others when it is part of my profession and it's helped me communicate more effectively. Doing things like calling up businesses and asking them questions over the phone are, for example, are no longer as nerve-wracking as they used to be, and I have the added benefit of really being able to help others with minimal judgment being passed on me in an authoritative position. I still do have issues with socializing/making nw friends and the like, but it's nowhere near as bad as it used to be. Essentially forcing myself to face my fears has been one of the best things I could have done for myself.
I knew I had it, but didn't realize it was that bad. I went to a dr for something else actually...but ended up being diagnosed with it. But I mean, it doesn't take a doctor to tell I have it. I freak out over a lot of things, sometimes to the point of getting sick.
That's exactly how I feel. I freak out over everything. It was a lot worse when I was younger. Now, it's a little better, just going to see a professional about it. Just to see if I actually have social anxiety disorder.
You need to be diagnosed, self-diagnosis is nothing good, even with "research" I told google my hand hurt and they told me and I some bone eating disease. So don't trust everything you read on medical websites either.. Go to a professional and get a serious diagnosis then go through therapy based around that.
A lot of people have already said this, but you need to see someone and be officially diagnosed before you worry too much. I say this based on my own experience.
For years, I denied that there was anything wrong with me. I skirted around going to receive help because of all the social stigmas surrounding those with mental illnesses, but I eventually got to a point where I could not stop lying to myself.
It is hard to take that first step, but if your social anxiety is bad enough, being diagnosed and placed on medications to help you cope is actually a godsend.
I tell you this from personal experience. I am actually disabled due to mental illness because I cannot function like most people do. I am considered severe enough that I can't work, and you know what? I'm okay with that. I suffered for so many years because of my mental illnesses and I didn't understand myself at all. Going to get the help I needed was a huge step for me, and even though I still struggle every day, my psychiatrist has helped me better understand myself and my actions.
I hope you will see someone and try to get diagnosed, because it helped me immensely. You will never be 100%, but at least you will have a better shot at life.
Someone who isn't a medical professional (i.e. you) is likely unable to make judgments that serious unless the symptoms are undeniably severe and crippling and obvious. To an inexperienced person on WebMD everything can look like cancer and psychosis.
Self-diagnosing is wrong and could lead you to become worse, because you look for criteria and think you match. You need to see a professional to get diagnosed, otherwise you could be confusing a genuine mental disorder for amplified nervousness (which many people experience when they are around strangers ).
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