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Met a guy... don't know what to make of this

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~xMorbid-Heartx Sep 9, 2012
So I met this guy at a party I went to over the weekend, (I know this already sounds fishy) but we had both drank maybe one or two beers when we were there. He was somewhat handsome, is a year older than me, and is in the marching band. We both talked for hours and left together. We even exchanged numbers (he asked for mine) before I left. Then, we texted for a bit before I slept.

My question is: should I be excited about this or just reguard this as a drunken mishap? He was really cute, but I really don't know what to make of this. I just want some advice from people who have been in a situation like this before. He didn't text me today, so should I expect him to text me again at all?

(p.s. I'm old enough to drink)
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:iconravynnenevyrmore:
~RavynneNevyrmore Sep 12, 2012  Student Digital Artist
should I be excited about this or just reguard this as a drunken mishap?

Neither, really. I think you should see it as a guy trying to get some from some girl he met at a party. I wouldn't get excited about it (unless/until it turns out to be serious, or unless you're just excited about the opportunity to have sex with this guy for some reason) because he's not likely to stick around. Nor would I see it as a drunken mishap, because I imagine he will continue halfheartedly pursuing the venture while sober until he a) gets some, or b) realizes that the endeavor of getting some from you requires more time/energy/commitment than he is willing to invest into an attempt to get laid by some random girl from a party that he wasn't really that into. And some guys consider 2-3 dates to be more time/energy/commitment than they are willing to invest.

And yes, I did read your update in the other thread. Odds are better than not that two months from now you'll be just another name on his Facebook friend list that he can send his weekend DJ'ing gig invites out to.


P.S. There's no U in "regard."

P.P.S. What does the fact that you're old enough to drink have to do with anything? The very fact that you think you need to tell us that indicates immaturity.
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~xMorbid-Heartx Sep 12, 2012
Haha I'd have to say you're a bit rude. I indicated I was old enough to drink so that I wouldn't get trolled about being a teenager at a party. Also, I am originally from Holland, so sometimes it is difficult for me to remember to spell things (Beschouwen very loosely means regard). There's a little thing you learn in college called the "charitable argument"/the "don't be an asshole rule" (as my professor liked to call it). Your advice was basically rendered meaningless to me because you made personal attacks, which would go under the fallacy of "ad hominem" ("to the man" in Latin). :) So next time, don’t get your panties in a bunch and your advice may make more sense.
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~RavynneNevyrmore Sep 12, 2012  Student Digital Artist
Yeah, don't take my advice, written to help you. That'll show me. :shrug:
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~xMorbid-Heartx Sep 12, 2012
I wouldn't exactly say being rude and insulting someone is helping, however, if that makes you feel better, to each his own.
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~ArtLover25 Sep 10, 2012
Like the others are saying, I doubt he was so drunk and out of it that he wouldn't remember you. lol. Sounds like he might like you, but I've learned from experience not to expect him to make the first move. If he does, then all the better, but sometimes you have to take fate into your own hands. The worst that could happen is that he won't respond or says he isn't interested. Then just move on and meet someone else.

You could always send a quick text like "hey, you gave me your number at that party so I thought I'd drop a line. Want to get some coffee one of these days?" or something very causal and low-key.

See where it goes because hey, you never know right?
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~xMorbid-Heartx Sep 10, 2012
Thank you! I'll give it a go. I really appreciate the advice!
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~ArtLover25 Sep 10, 2012
Good luck :)
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~2lazy2talk Sep 10, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
You drank 2 beers...you don't get drunk with that. So I guess it's good news actualy! xD
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~xMorbid-Heartx Sep 10, 2012
lol well I did drink I little before that, also, but I wasn't drunk at all. I just don't know if he just gave me his number just to give it to me or what.
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~2lazy2talk Sep 10, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
ask him.
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