I personally see things a bit differently than most of the comments I have read. My boyfriend and I both don't watch pornography. We decided not to do that, in order to fully only enjoy each other. I am not saying this is the right way to go about it, every relationship is different, I do though believe that not watching pornography has advantages.
One of the advantages is that, I believe, it contribuates to my boyfriend and me having a great sex life together. I believe, without being certain, that not being constantly stimulated by pornography makes performance in real life better. This is what I have experienced personally, at least.
Also, I found that by just focusing on my boyfriend and not constantly talking about being turned on by other people, and not watching pornography, I have come to a point where I really only get turned on by my boyfriend. Because what I associate with sex is him.
Besides, I feel like, we live in the 21. Century. Most of us don't need a mate to survive, we are fine on our own. That means we chose to be with someone because we want to be with them. Since no such thing as life or death is holding us together, I find it very romantic and meaningfull and empowering to the relationship to tell one another you are together because you only want each other. And to show that by only focusing on each other sexually, by for instance, not watching pornography and not talking about your fetishes for other people with each other.
I know this is probably not for everyone, and I truly respect that, and do not think it is wrong at all.
I don't think it's cheating. I think porn is degrading to women, but it's not cheating. I don't know about gay male porn though. Whatever the case, it's not cheating. Also, it's healthy for your partner to be attracted to other people.
Plus, I think that it's wrong to go snooping through someone else's web history, but I have no control over what other people do.
If you find yourself having feelings of attraction for someone else, be honest with your partner. If you're lucky, maybe you'll get involved in a threesome.
listen to me, porn is not cheating. and it is nothing to worry about. i watch porn with my boy friend and with out him. its a arousal that people have. its just like any other kinda fetish out there, ur partner i promise u is just as attracted to you as ever. and probably more so then most the people on the tapes. i went through my mans laptop and was shocked at the amount of porn on his computer. its normal. try watchiing some of the porn and see what hes really into. maybe eve take ideas from the tapes thats what i do.