Main question I want answered if you don't feel like reading this: Whats your solution when all the girls want your friend?
I'm not here to complain or bitch about how my friend pulls more girls then me. You really gotta be happy with the cards you have been dealt with. But I would like to know, what do the rest of you do when all the girls flock to THAT ONE GUY in your group?
I'm talking about the one who is extremely good looking that all the girls begin to act crazy around and seem that they want to have sex with. I have this friend who I HAVE YET to find ONE girl that is not attracted to him. Just based on his looks girls act like how guys act when they see a hot girl. What I mean by this is that girls WILL actually come up and hit on him and he has to fan them off and reject them. Many times he will call girls the creepers. When we have girls over, all he needs to do is sit there and girls will come over to him. I literally have had a gf tell me she probably would have approached him first if she met us at the same time.
It's wierd because usually I can understand when a girl is physically attracted to a guy. But with him, it's really a girl only thing. Other guys don't understand why girls are so attracted to him. (Guys just find him funny looking)
Now I understand that a good personality radiates over everything else. If we were to go out for a night to meet some girls, the best bet would be that all the girls attention will be on him. This makes it hard for me to show my game when girls are just focused on him and his looks. There was this one time we brought two girls over (one for me and one for him) and the girl I was hooking up with started flirting and getting all giggly with him. And I feel like a bad person because I typically have to lightly bad mouth him and expalin to the girl why she shouldnt be attracted to him and point out his flaws. I have had to do this with almost every girlfriend I have had who he has met. Usually this works, but I only do it with girls i'm trying to get with (never his girls). I feel like an asshole but it seems to be the only way to get thier focus off his looks. And I do understand that being good looking is not all what it's cracked up to be. He has been used by a girl for sex and it did make him feel pretty low. His personality is just average so his game is not ALL that great (it doesn't suck though).
To be honest I feel like most things about me are average. Average looks, average money and average personality. Everything except my creativity and artistic skills which I feel are well above average. I feel like many people would say "work on your personality" but when I feel comfortable being me, I feel like this average personlity I have IS me. I can be sweet and charming but it's hard to show that when you have a 10/10 beside you.
Maybe i'm different but when I see a group of girls, I don't set my sights on the hottest one, (yeah I may check her out but that's about it) nor will I try to get with her. I would try to talk to each one of them to see what they are like (because usually the hottest girl is a stuck up bitch). And usually the girls I find the cutest most people would see as just "okay". But when girls would get around our group, they ALL make it a point to get with him. It would just be nice to meet some girls that look past his looks, but it seems like they all go into a trance when they see him.
So here is my main question: What do you guys do when all the girls want your friend. I'm not really looking for advice (although I would love to hear what you have to say) but I just wanna know what you guys do.
Solutions I heard so far
1. Get a new wingman (This really does work) 2. Be funny (Well some people just aint that comedians) 3. Be more talkative and exciting (eehh...I think girls still focus on his looks and if you try too hard it falls apart) 4. Go solo and don't go places with him (Another solution that works for me)
Ask him if he will give you a sample of his blood and some skin tissue and everything else that could be useful to get a full idea of his biochemistry and see if it is somehow possible to reconstruct the same pheromones that you could use as a powerful aphrodisiac on women.
A bit more serious now, just be glad you're able to hang around and occasionally be able to pick up some of the crumbs he dropped off the table.
Well, I am not a guy, but I can give you some advice here from two perspectives.
I have such a friend. She is, as you put it, a 10/10. She is gorgeous without even trying too hard. Although she is not above using beauty products and is quite fond of them, she is equally as beautiful and confident with zero make-up, greasy hair, and sweats, and does not shy away from embracing the world in either state. She is one of the kindest, most caring, level-headed, strongest, and intelligent people I know. She oozes raw sex appeal, flirts as naturally as she breathes, and everyone who has ever met her is in love with her. I'd just about do her myself if I was even remotely into girls.
The other girls and I have just pretty much accepted that we will only get the guys who don't become completely enamored by her first. Not that we begrudge her for this, because she is after all a wonderful person who certainly deserves all the adoration she receives. We just kinda take notes on what she's doing that we're not and try to follow her example.
But even with her pretty much being the pinnacle of what any human being should aspire to be, she's just not everyone's cup of tea. There are some guys that we meet first, or just aren't into her (although they're undoubtedly attracted to her because I don't see how anyone couldn't be), or prefer what we have to offer, or sense that she isn't into them as much as we are and therefore they have better chances with us, and for whatever other reasons that we are able to attract them to us instead of her we do not go manless and celibate. But my friend the goddess Aphrodite is also not greedy and does not disrespect her girl friends by moving on guys we are into first. Maybe your friend is being too selfish and not leaving anything for you, and he should tone down his charisma when he's wingmanning.
The other perspective I have to offer is that of the girl. Unless your friend is a warlock with a secret love potion in his pocket, it just isn't mathemathically possible that every single girl is going to flock to him and ignore you. Especially with other girls already flocking on him. If I met two guy friends, and one was gorgeous and charismatic with 2 other girls already hanging on him, and the other was average with no female attention, I would be more interested in the average one. I have no interest in competing for anyone, and if a guy's attention is going to be divided between me and some other girl (or multiple girls) then I am not interested in him. Because frankly I am an attractive enough woman in my own right to be that picky and make those demands. But even the less attractive and less confident girls are going to prefer the guy that isn't already holding an ass cheek in each hand, and figure that a guy like that is out of their league anyhow.
The only girls who are interested in competing with other girls for a guy are the ones who need to reassure themselves that they are better than other girls. If you're not meeting girls who are more interested in the guy who isn't already getting female attention (and you're not fat and/or ugly), then you're not meeting the right kind of girls.
"Maybe your friend is being too selfish and not leaving anything for you, and he should tone down his charisma when he's wingmanning."
It's so funny that you say this. I finally kicked it with him and a couple of friends the other day. One of my friends said he was bringing a girl over (obviously it was a girl he was talking to). As soon as mr 10/10 heard this, he got all in his face and started his usual "what! huh? is she trying to get fucked? Let me see her." But yes I came to the conculsion that he pretty much is being selfish. Another one of my friends that I was hanging out with did actually say that "everyone is tired of him stealing everyones girls."
"Unless your friend is a warlock with a secret love potion in his pocket."
Yes somewhat of a love potion. Wanna hear it??
Him: I'm sad and depressed about my life. I don't want a relationship and i'm incapable of loving. Look at how sensative I am.
Girl: Oh he is so sensative. I will take it as a challenge and show him that he can love. And maybe I can him feel better if I have sex with him.
(couple week later he has already had sex with 4 other girls.)
True story. The only difference between our friends is that your friend has respect and mine does not. But oh well. I'm taking your advice and some advice of others on here.
One of my friends said he was bringing a girl over (obviously it was a girl he was talking to). As soon as mr 10/10 heard this, he got all in his face and started his usual "what! huh? is she trying to get fucked? Let me see her."
I had a friend like that once. Ditched her as soon as I realized she didn't respect the implied boundaries of "I'm going to a party with this guy I've been hanging out with a whole lot and you can come with us if you want."
Guy code/girl code: If someone brings a guy/girl along somewhere, the person who brought them has first dibs and this should be respected by all friends. If you think your friend and their guest are just friends, you ask your friend before hitting on their guest and make sure the friend is cool with it. Guys or girls, it's the same. Anyone who doesn't respect this should be ditched.
And secondly, girls do not try to get fucked. We either fuck, or we do not fuck. There is no try. Your friend is sadly mistaken about his role in the whole ordeal.
Anyway, his sob story or whatever is not going to work on every girl is my point. Maybe a lot of them are dumb but not 100% of them. I would roll my eyes at that line, or at the very least suggest that maybe he take control of his life and do something about his problems instead of getting depressed about them. Guys who can't figure out how to fix their problems are not sexy to me and I can't possibly be the only girl who feels that way. So not every girl the two of you meet is going to be the kind of girl who thinks a weak and pathetic sack of shit is sexy, unless you're attracting the wrong girls. Insecurity draws insecurity. People who know what they want draw people who know what they want.
And stop being an asshole to every woman in this thread who disagrees with you. Just because they don't like you doesn't mean they're a sexually frustrated feminist who must really be a boy because they're not the kind of girl you think girls should be. Yes, news flash, some people are going to get their feathers ruffled when you ask for help managing your casual sex life, because some people frown down upon any sort of casual sex. And that is their problem. Grow the fuck up and learn to be the bigger person if someone feels the need to criticize the way you live your life, or else don't be surprised when no one finds you attractive.
"Maybe you should stop being a bad friend, stop thinking of women as objects, stop thinking that all attractive women are the same, and generally just grow a pair."
"So you're pissed off because your friend is having sex with more women than you? You sound like a fucking douchebag, straight up."
They are not disagreeing with me. There is a way to give constructive critisizm on these forums without sounding like a complete bitch. I don't think i'm completely in the wrong for being an asshole here. But you know what fuck it, I'm done talking about this. Too much negative energy.
Everyone on this thread needs to just hug n make up. You have all been helpful as fuck (negative and positive feedback) so thank you.
I'm not here to complain or bitch about how my friend pulls more girls then me. You really gotta be happy with the cards you have been dealt with. But I would like to know, what do the rest of you do when all the girls flock to THAT ONE GUY in your group?
I'm talking about the one who is extremely good looking that all the girls begin to act crazy around and seem that they want to have sex with. I have this friend who I HAVE YET to find ONE girl that is not attracted to him. Just based on his looks girls act like how guys act when they see a hot girl. What I mean by this is that girls WILL actually come up and hit on him and he has to fan them off and reject them. Many times he will call girls the creepers. When we have girls over, all he needs to do is sit there and girls will come over to him. I literally have had a gf tell me she probably would have approached him first if she met us at the same time.
It's wierd because usually I can understand when a girl is physically attracted to a guy. But with him, it's really a girl only thing. Other guys don't understand why girls are so attracted to him. (Guys just find him funny looking)
Now I understand that a good personality radiates over everything else. If we were to go out for a night to meet some girls, the best bet would be that all the girls attention will be on him. This makes it hard for me to show my game when girls are just focused on him and his looks. There was this one time we brought two girls over (one for me and one for him) and the girl I was hooking up with started flirting and getting all giggly with him. And I feel like a bad person because I typically have to lightly bad mouth him and expalin to the girl why she shouldnt be attracted to him and point out his flaws. I have had to do this with almost every girlfriend I have had who he has met. Usually this works, but I only do it with girls i'm trying to get with (never his girls). I feel like an asshole but it seems to be the only way to get thier focus off his looks. And I do understand that being good looking is not all what it's cracked up to be. He has been used by a girl for sex and it did make him feel pretty low. His personality is just average so his game is not ALL that great (it doesn't suck though).
To be honest I feel like most things about me are average. Average looks, average money and average personality. Everything except my creativity and artistic skills which I feel are well above average. I feel like many people would say "work on your personality" but when I feel comfortable being me, I feel like this average personlity I have IS me. I can be sweet and charming but it's hard to show that when you have a 10/10 beside you.
Maybe i'm different but when I see a group of girls, I don't set my sights on the hottest one, (yeah I may check her out but that's about it) nor will I try to get with her. I would try to talk to each one of them to see what they are like (because usually the hottest girl is a stuck up bitch). And usually the girls I find the cutest most people would see as just "okay". But when girls would get around our group, they ALL make it a point to get with him. It would just be nice to meet some girls that look past his looks, but it seems like they all go into a trance when they see him.
So here is my main question: What do you guys do when all the girls want your friend. I'm not really looking for advice (although I would love to hear what you have to say) but I just wanna know what you guys do.
Solutions I heard so far
1. Get a new wingman (This really does work)
2. Be funny (Well some people just aint that comedians)
3. Be more talkative and exciting (eehh...I think girls still focus on his looks and if you try too hard it falls apart)
4. Go solo and don't go places with him (Another solution that works for me)