So, I'm gay. Now what?

*Yrke Jun 26, 2012 Student

... Okay, here's the thing...

_{Now, after a lot of self-searching and thinking, I've finally come to the conclusion that I'm probably a lesbian. And at the moment, I'm really looking for some way to meet other girls like this in Sweden, but it's freaking impossible to find them.

For people of my age, there doesn't seem to exist any good clubs/bars/cafés/any other form of hotspot where you can meet LGBT people at all, at least not where I live.

Any tips from other gay/bisexual people; what did you do to find your partner? Any coming out stories? When did you find out that you were gay, and when did you start pursuing relationships?

Also, I'd rather not have people hating, lecturing me or pushing their beliefs down my throat. This is my life, mmkay? <3}

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~chibi-chocolate123 Jul 8, 2012

First of all, let me just offer congrats that you've come out. I'm not lesbian and never will be, but I really appreciate how hard it would be to do that.

I'm probably gonna be useless on this subject (lol) but, I mean, have you told your friends? I guess you could just be pretty open about it, and then if there are other lesbians around you, they'll maybe come up to you and you can become friends, at least!

*Yrke Jul 8, 2012 Student

Thank you.

Bah, you're not. c: I actually haven't done that yet, but I'm planning to start with telling one of my closest friends when I get home. That's a good idea, actually!

~chibi-chocolate123 Jul 8, 2012

Great! But I don't think you should tell anyone else (unless you want to of course) until you're fully happy about it yourself.

*Yrke Jul 9, 2012 Student

Of course. (:

~MariahAnn Jul 6, 2012

Whats the problem with being a lezzy?
Even homos should be treated with respect. theres nothing wrong with being lesbian. Don't worry bout it.

*Yrke Jul 7, 2012 Student

Also; even homos? Is that supposed to mean that lesbians are better or something?

~MariahAnn Jul 7, 2012

No…oh, don’t worry about what I said, it doesn’t matter.

*Yrke Jul 7, 2012 Student

'Kay. :>

*Yrke Jul 7, 2012 Student

You know, I never said I thought that there was anything wrong with being homosexual. If you actually read my comment, you would have seen that I only wanted to know how to meet other gay people. c:

=andshedreamed Jul 6, 2012 Student Traditional Artist

^{...go and touch boobs.

Just kidding, really. I'm gay as well, and I knew since my earlier teenage years. I don't know why so many individuals are so hell-bent on saying 'ITS JUST A PHASE". They always say this to: homosexuals, bisexuals, asexuals, demisexuals etc. Yet for heterosexuals, IT'S COMPLETELY NORMAL PART OF GROWING UP.

I came out to my family last year - they were okay with it. I had my first relationship when I was sixteen, and that was just purely just meeting someone else that was gay. (as much as South Africa is a very gay-friendly country with our marriage and adoption rights, we still have idiotic Christian conservatives - so you have to keep yourself hidden in the closet until at least university).

If anything, do RESEARCH. Know as much about your sexuality as possible as it can help you feel confident with your sexual orientation and also helps you with finding other gays. Also, if there are any in your area, join an LGBTQ support group, or discuss LGBTQ topics with a few of your friends or acquaintances (you find that there will most likely be someone just like you, I find)}

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