It tends to happen to some people...I know what you mean. It's like because you are such a great friend...that people only rely on you or want to be around you when they need a shoulder to cry on, but when you need them they just kind of shrug it off. I figure friends like that need to be confronted and if things don't improve then it's better not to have friends like that. What I found works out good, is instead of sitting at home waiting for people or just playing video games and stuff, I go out and do things that don't really require a group of people. Go to a cafe and study there, that way you can actually be out in a new setting and sometimes you meet some great people. Maybe that will help you meet some people that will actually want to be your friends for you. I find that there are some crafting classes around where I live so it allows you to work on something you love, or learn something new, and if you want to make more friends then usually there will be more people there. Personally I find it's funner to coordinate volunteer projects for the community or go talk to old people in a retirement home...I am weird but usually old people want to talk to you because they are lonely too. Sorry I am sort of ranting..I am having the hardest time forming words and sentences as I want them to be...It's just one of those days.
It's really fun to do, though I found that some retirement homes won't allow you to visit any senior citizen in their care unless you are family or a health care worker, also some only let you go if you get a pass to do so. I would try and talk to a manager and see if you could volunteer your time just to sit and talk with the seniors about anything they wish to, like how those high schoolers do for that program which I think is called 'adopt-a-grandparent' or something like that. With how things are now they are making it a bit difficult to get in but not too much. A lot of the old people I talk to don't have their family visiting them or they are put there because they don't have any family so it really does help them. It's one of those things that--if you choose to do--when you are old and are looking back, you most definitely won't regret.
I used to have somewhat of the same problem of keeping friends. Although, my experince was kinda different. My friends would either move away about a year or two after I met them, or we would grow apart. But, that was when I was in high school
I have learned some things though. If your friends are in college and they seem to ignore you, part of that could be becuase they are usually too busy with college. I also learned that having friends in the same neighborhood, or somewhat close by, really helps. And having trustworthy friends who will let you get to know them helps, although having a similar or the same hobby helps too.
Honestly, I can't say that I have had the same friend experience as you, becuase I just got out of high school earlier this year But during high school, I made friends who are older and younger than me. Since some of my younger friends are still in high school, they have more time to hang out. But, sometimes I don't, becuase I have college that gets in the way of that.
Although those friends of mine have more time on their hands, they usually don't text or call me unless they want something from me So, what I usually do is sometimes I go by their house and ask them if they want to hang out. They usually say yes, unless they actually are busy, but it's real easy for us becuase we usually just stay at their house or go to my house, and play video games and stuff
Or, if going to their house doesn't work, or if their not in the same neighborhood, then you should try joining a club at the college that you go to, that you think would be fun, and then you could start socializing with people, starting with small-talk. (that's what happened with my in the games club at my college) But, if there's not a club that seems in your taste at your college, you could try starting a new one.
This is probably the best advice I can give you. Thank you for reading
You're welcome ^_^ ...honestly, I don't really know how to share my thoughts any other way I usually use a lot of details so people can understand what I'm saying. But once when I did that, like with my last journal post(and the next deviation that I will be posting), and one of my friends was like, "Sheesh! That's a lot to read!" I'm somewhat of a philosopher, psychologist, and a Christian. So, I have a lot of thoughts in my head. That's why I've been thinking about making a book someday.
...sorry if I'm rambling Like I said, I like to include a lot of details...
Writing a book is a fantastic way to get all those great thoughts on paper! I wish you luck with that! (And don't worry, I didn't think you were rambling. My responses to some threads can be just as long and academically complicated).