So I've been a bit depressed lately because my boyfriend is currently in a psychiatric ward and I've hardly seen him for over a week. I'm also extremely worried about him because he has so many issues and he won't speak to anyone. He's angry at his parents and rarely calls me while he's there. I don't even know whether or not he is seriously suicidal. I know he's been fairly miserable these past couple weeks and i have tried to listen to him and keep him happy. I guess it didn't really work.
Our relationship is doing fine, better than usual, besides the fact we haven't seen eachother in a while. I love him to death and i'm one of the only people he ever really listens to. But I wish i could find a way to convince him to talk to his family. He still speaks to me and i've tried to tell him how horrible his family feels about this, but he's very stubborn. He gets angry at me when i side with his sisters or parents. His sisters didn't even do anything and he won't even talk to THEM, even though he used to be quite open with them. He refuses to answer some of the counselor's/ therapist's questions as well.
So he's meant to stay there for about 2 more weeks, 3 weeks in total. I don't want him to do anything to prolong his stay, so how can i convince him to just open up to the counselors and speak to his family? I really miss him and although this is probably kind of good for him, i can't help but want him to just get out soon.
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You sound like a great girlfriend. So, wanting the best for him leave him where he is and don't add any pressure, it sounds like e's right where he needs to be.
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Was he drunk or on any drug when he got hospitolized? How long have you known him? Well enough to trust him? is he predictable? If youv agreed to any of those and youv know n him for awhile to know him then i think he wont stay there more then 3 weeks, im sure he will eventually open up, three week's is a long time in a phych ward, lol my girlfriend went to a place like that too soo i know exactly how you feel, i know it's too depressing.
I just want you to realize that everything will be ok, and allot of people have been through the same thing, and about convinceing his parent's id have to say just be patient and thing's will go well, he has to grow up sometime ya know? there is no getting throught to a stubborn person, specially if he refuses to cooperate. And if you think it's good for him to be in there then so be it.
you sound like a wounderful person but but he sounds like my brother, a stubbon person who need some to talk to every once and a whlie. just be careful because he may stop listering to you and go his own way, talk to him slowly and hopefull he should come round. good luck though
I'm really sorry to hear that, but thank goodness for people like you! (that's a compliment XD)
I would recommend NOT pushing it. Your desire to help is admirable, but there are some things that he will have to figure out for himself, most likely. Do you know why he's angry with his family? He might just need some time to cool down. Adding pressure might worsen his condition.
I apologize if this isn't very helpful, since I've never been in this situation, but I wish you the best of luck!
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I know suicidal people have (obviously) problems and can be blind to the opinions and love and needs of those around them because they're overwhelmed with their own pain, but this makes me angry. What a selfish asshole that guy was.
I was in a very similar situation with my boyfriend, whom unfortunately I'm no longer with. Interestingly enough, I had a similar outlook as you. Remember that suicide is a selfish act, of the true narcissistic people. This helped me put a lot of things in perspective.... Stand true to you. As my boyfriend healed and fell again, I began to absorb his pain. This tore me apart, and his abuse continues to hurt me. Today I'm stronger and me being stronger may be the thing that makes him stronger too.
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Our relationship is doing fine, better than usual, besides the fact we haven't seen eachother in a while. I love him to death and i'm one of the only people he ever really listens to. But I wish i could find a way to convince him to talk to his family. He still speaks to me and i've tried to tell him how horrible his family feels about this, but he's very stubborn. He gets angry at me when i side with his sisters or parents. His sisters didn't even do anything and he won't even talk to THEM, even though he used to be quite open with them. He refuses to answer some of the counselor's/ therapist's questions as well.
So he's meant to stay there for about 2 more weeks, 3 weeks in total. I don't want him to do anything to prolong his stay, so how can i convince him to just open up to the counselors and speak to his family? I really miss him and although this is probably kind of good for him, i can't help but want him to just get out soon.