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*waiting4moonlight:iconwaiting4moonlight: May 2, 2008, 6:47:52 PM
you hear it on here a lot..its a love thing post, but i'm kinda confused and i need a little none judemental help.

about 4 months ago i fell really badly for a guy. i'd liked him for a few years before this past four months or so i've realised how much i do really love him.
he's turned me down on the grounds of not wanting to ruin our friendship. which i completely understand, i've been hurt by people i trust, just like he has, and the last thing either of us wants todo is end up hating oneanother..which knowing me i don't think that would ever happen but so.

i've never had a bf, or even been on a date, and ive been turned down more times then you can shake a stick at, but lately i've felt as if i should maybe try again.

my question is should i try and go on dates and possibley get hurt by dick's or should i try again with my friend..even if that pushes him further away from me??

its made a little complicated by me contracting (if thats the right phrase) M.E, and having to leave uni, and my job these past few months. great timing i know.

so any idea's?

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~Joebob777:iconJoebob777: May 2, 2008, 7:10:49 PM
I think you shouldn't do anything out of desperation.

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*waiting4moonlight:iconwaiting4moonlight: May 2, 2008, 7:12:53 PM
k, your right doing something rash wud be a bad idea. but what about the long term..does any one have a feeling.. irratic feelings welcome. the universe can thrown them at me anytime..

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~KyteGlory:iconKyteGlory: May 2, 2008, 7:14:26 PM
I think if you handle the approach of your friend properly, then you have your answer without being hurt of damaging your relationship. Just be friendly and light, and ask him if he still doesn't want to go out with you. If he doesn't, let him be, if he does... good for you.

If you want to go on dates with other guys, that's fine, too. I'd just do so warily, and be sure not to throw my heart in before I get to know the guy.

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*waiting4moonlight:iconwaiting4moonlight: May 2, 2008, 7:25:45 PM
wow. thats some good advice. heart wants the guy, but brain's a little swiss cheese about it. not wanting to get stuck being alone for nother year. i mean being the 23 year old virgin in a group of friends..two of which are pritty much engaged isn't very fun. i think its my new found inpatience, that's making the problem. i just want to be with the friend, but i know pushing the subject may make him leave me alone for god knows how long till i get it out my system..or learn to leave it alone. i need to ask him, but will it make it worse..can't really undo this kind of thing.

surpose a little afraid of myself as well. being so ill i really don't want to saddle him with an unfit girl friend..he deserves someone who can be there for him. not like i can.

wow that was a rant..i am so very sorry for that.

but yeah thanks very much for your advice. much to think about.

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~KyteGlory:iconKyteGlory: May 2, 2008, 8:15:12 PM
It's natural, at the age of 23, with your hymen intact, to wonder if maybe you aren't as far along in your life as you should be, especially with all the glamor that relationships these days enjoy- It's easy to forget that one can be happy and fulfilled single as well.

As for your illness, please don't worry about it. No man worth having would ever begrudge his lover for her ill health- he loves you, not your ability to serve him, and is happy enough simply knowing that you love him, and would be there to help him if it were possible.
Besides, it makes us feel all warm and giddy inside when we get to come to the aide of our hapless beloved.

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~happykitsune:iconhappykitsune: May 2, 2008, 11:23:34 PM
Personally I think you shouldn't go looking for a guy cus when you stop looking they all come to you. It's worked every time with me. If you date tho, date for fun and dont get attached. No one should really get attached until they know for sure they wanna spend the rest of their lives with the other person. Trust me, I've had more then my fair share of serious relationships and heartbreaks. It really sucks to lose someone your so close to so don't date and get attached and don't date your friend because bfs come and go, but friendship is forever. Who knows, maybe you'll marry your best friend some day. They always say your best friend should be your spouse. Good luck.

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*raspil:iconraspil: May 3, 2008, 12:54:16 AM
you can't avoid being hurt. just know that it will happen, it will suck, but you will learn from it and move on.

can't you just be friends with him?

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*waiting4moonlight:iconwaiting4moonlight: May 3, 2008, 2:32:34 AM
i can, but it kills me todo it, if it was just a little crush then fine..it wud hurt but i'd get over it. but this isn't, damn it for not being.

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*waiting4moonlight:iconwaiting4moonlight: May 3, 2008, 2:58:07 AM
your right, it does always seem to happen when your leaste expecting it..which is to say i never expected what happened. thank you for your advice, i will try to follow it. not looking but being open..and maybe keep on wishing on every first star.

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~aaronbooth:iconaaronbooth: May 3, 2008, 11:24:15 AM
Just settle down and relax a little - looks like nothing is happening overnight and neither should it :) .. Your friend knows you are open to more now and just let the idea settle and if he becomes interested too I'm sure he will let you know.

Take time - see how things progress and just try to enjoy yourself in the mean time.
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