Yes, but you must always be willing to accept human fallibility. Hypocrisy is something that everyone can be accused of. Though I am not a woman, as someone who is in a relationship and has woman friends, I can assure you that most women are not the fanatic that you paint them to be. Crazy people will always be there. You have to look at the larger picture.
Basically he is pissed off because, according to him, men who sleep around are pigs, women who sleep around are independent; women who get abortions are irresponsible; he's pissed off that women want to dress "slutty" without expecting to be raped; feminists are not after equal rights, just revenge; strippers are objectifying women.
I would agree with you that women can often be chauvinistic, but the things you are describing have nothing to do with feminism. Feminism is trying to make the female gender of equal status as the male gender. If it is much beyond that, let me put it this way: Honey, it's not feminism. It's just sexism.
But, they are mistaken. That isn't feminism, and they are just using it to cover up their chauvinism. Just because someone says something doesn't make it true, and I'm sure you are smart enough to know that.
I know that just because they call themselves feminists doesn't mean they're actually for the real goals of feminism but they don't realize that they're just being sexist and using feminism as a shield to justify their behavior.
"Women on the other hand have the option to discard the child in a trashbin. This surely shows that women who want abortions are less responsible."
I find that men have the choice of running away from responsibility (of taking care of the baby) While women have either the choice of taking care of the baby once it's born, or getting a abortion and being frowned upon. Which isn't fair...
True. But your description sounds like the extremists.. I would say most reasonable people might be considered feminists under the right definition (as you mentioned, wanting equal treatment for men and women). The stuff you're complaining about are the crazy ones, and you run into them more on the internet if only because of the anonymity.