Step one: It's recommended that one should quit the Mormon church, it's filled with creepy, greedy, and fucked-up practices on top of it being a church that's started by a bat-shit crazy scam artist (much like scientiology, only back in the 1800's and it being christian based). Fuck, even Catholicism seems appealing in comparison to those dumb fucks. Step two: Learn grammar, because we gotta be able understand what the hell you've just typed down. Step three: Learn to explore the world, explore yourself, and overall, live a worthwhile life until you've found someone along the way. Chances are you'll find someone that isn't a Mormon that won't treat you like that.
TL;DR, forget about him and go have fun with your life.
My ex boyfriend is mormon. He broke up with a few months before leaving for his mission because he didn't want to be 'pulled in', whatever the hell that means. Anyways, I've only written to him once since. I figured that things would play out when he got back about the same way they did with you. Missions change people.
Maybe it has something to do with his religion. Back when I used to go to church, I knew several couples, who loved each other, but were told by the pastor that they can't get married because "gawd said so" and one of the parties ended up marrying someone completely different very shortly after breaking up to a person the pastor thought to be more suitable. When I grew up and left, I realized the pastor was just trying to marry rich people into his family and church in order to get his hands on all of that glorious cash.
I know. When I first started suspecting shit, I didn't want to believe it, because my whole world started crumbling, but as I grew older, I realized just how full of shit the church leaders actually were. On another fucked up story from same place: the pastor's eldest son divorced his wife after less than a year of marriage, because he wanted her to pop out babies and she wanted to study in uni, because that particular thing she wanted to study and make a career of was her dream. She was boo'ed by the son and pastor as an "unfit" woman, because she "disobeyed" her husband.
I agree with ~GoGo-T-W, he probably wanted to get married in the temple quick. My brother's mission president basically advised to be married within six months of getting home or something But that is still no excuse. Sounds like this boy is a jerk and led you on.
A buddy of mine was seeing this one gal and she said she'd wait for him while he was serving. She went to school in Provo and he figured all was good. She wrote often and things seemed normal. His companion mentioned that his brother met someone at school and was engaged. Showed a picture of his brother and fiance to my buddy and guess who was in the picture, what he thought was his girl friend.
Forget this loser and meet someone awesome who can appreciate you. If he comes crawling back, I'd kick him to the curb.
I dated a guy for 8 years. Mhm. We were going to get married this year. He got real ill whilst working away at college. I encouraged him to see a doctor. He doesn't go. Disappears for 2 weeks though. Comes back and dumps me.
Said it was only for sex. I was scored from his heart, he was looking for someone new. My memories are burnt, erased, painted over. And sadly, I'm just quoting his E-MAIL.
I don't go into full details on what's happened. But my point is, it could be worse.
You weren't used and broken. So you still have something. It's hard but you just have to take things a day at a time.
What the hell? That's insane, generally people don't get used for sex that long or agree to marry people they won't... hmm, odd. Although I did hear of a guy that agreed to marry his girlfriend but set the date ten years in advance then never went through with it and she finally left him. Hey, think of it this way, dodged a bullet.
If he gets with another girl while he is with you and acts like it's your fault that it doesn't work out (telling you he doesn't know you and then asks you to be the way you used to be without even telling you what that is like) and fools you around like this, he wasn't worth keeping anyway.
He should have told you straight out that he had found someone else and therefore it was best to break up. One might say that it would've made you sad, but finding it out on your own is worse since he then not only has found someone else, but also has lied to you. That man wasn't worth your attention. He was an asshole. Fuck that shit.
Making a sexual advance on a best friend is forever saying "I am done being your best friend", because you'll either become lovers or become distant. There's no middle ground. That's why you don't fuck your best friends.