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Waited 2 Years - LDR - Forever Alone, Broken Heart. Fail.

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Yahpeep Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Student General Artist
I should be sleeping i know - but my insomnia is making it much too difficult. And i felt like whinging. I'm new-ish to forums - so i particularly enjoy that i can vent in the specified complaints column.

Anyways - I fell in love with a boy - A handsome boy at that - wonderfully creative like me - Anyways - he's a Mormon and i am too - at least i was. Now i am just classed as inactive because i don't go anymore.

He went on his mission for church - before he leaves he asks me to wait. Like a fool i said yes. For two years - I wrote him, sent him care packages - drawings, all that jazz - almost every week.

Boy get's back - Says i don't know you anymore.

I say okay - that's fine let's get to know each other again.

Boy says you talk to me like you do back then.

I say Okay. - Crap i don't know how to be around you now.

Boy says take some time apart. I say sadly. Okay.

Go to a party. Boy is with another girl. Turns out they have been dating since he got back.

Heart shatters.

Oh yeah this just wasn't some guy. This was also my well used to be best fwen.

Ugh - the sadness is overwhelming.
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SROnivera Featured By Owner Feb 14, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Step one: It's recommended that one should quit the Mormon church, it's filled with creepy, greedy, and fucked-up practices on top of it being a church that's started by a bat-shit crazy scam artist (much like scientiology, only back in the 1800's and it being christian based). Fuck, even Catholicism seems appealing in comparison to those dumb fucks.
Step two: Learn grammar, because we gotta be able understand what the hell you've just typed down.
Step three: Learn to explore the world, explore yourself, and overall, live a worthwhile life until you've found someone along the way. Chances are you'll find someone that isn't a Mormon that won't treat you like that.

TL;DR, forget about him and go have fun with your life.
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WizardOfUnseen Featured By Owner Feb 14, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Well, consider yourself lucky you did not waste your life on him. Go out and live your life and forget about that idiot. The best form of revenge is to be happy and do something with your life.
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Hearts-Are-Cold Featured By Owner Feb 14, 2013  Student General Artist
Church mission? Is he LDS?

My ex boyfriend is mormon. He broke up with a few months before leaving for his mission because he didn't want to be 'pulled in', whatever the hell that means. Anyways, I've only written to him once since. I figured that things would play out when he got back about the same way they did with you. Missions change people.
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whatonearth Featured By Owner Feb 13, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Dude, fuck him. That's no way to repay someone for 2 years of faithfulness (no pun intended) and he didn't even have the balls to break up with you.
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Atlantech Featured By Owner Feb 13, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
sounds like a real piece of shit to me, you're better off without him.
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alzircon Featured By Owner Feb 13, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Maybe it has something to do with his religion. Back when I used to go to church, I knew several couples, who loved each other, but were told by the pastor that they can't get married because "gawd said so" and one of the parties ended up marrying someone completely different very shortly after breaking up to a person the pastor thought to be more suitable.
When I grew up and left, I realized the pastor was just trying to marry rich people into his family and church in order to get his hands on all of that glorious cash.:no:
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Arvellas Featured By Owner Feb 14, 2013
That's fucked up. :iconwthplz:
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alzircon Featured By Owner Feb 14, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I know. When I first started suspecting shit, I didn't want to believe it, because my whole world started crumbling, but as I grew older, I realized just how full of shit the church leaders actually were.
On another fucked up story from same place: the pastor's eldest son divorced his wife after less than a year of marriage, because he wanted her to pop out babies and she wanted to study in uni, because that particular thing she wanted to study and make a career of was her dream. She was boo'ed by the son and pastor as an "unfit" woman, because she "disobeyed" her husband.:stare:
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Arvellas Featured By Owner Feb 14, 2013
Kill them. Kill them with fire.
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jadedPhotographer Featured By Owner Feb 13, 2013   Photographer
HWL is that way :icongtfoplz:
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tacosteev Featured By Owner Feb 13, 2013  Hobbyist
We can be inactive buddies :lol:

I agree with ~GoGo-T-W, he probably wanted to get married in the temple quick. My brother's mission president basically advised to be married within six months of getting home or something :shrug: But that is still no excuse. Sounds like this boy is a jerk and led you on.

A buddy of mine was seeing this one gal and she said she'd wait for him while he was serving. She went to school in Provo and he figured all was good. She wrote often and things seemed normal. His companion mentioned that his brother met someone at school and was engaged. Showed a picture of his brother and fiance to my buddy and guess who was in the picture, what he thought was his girl friend.

Forget this loser and meet someone awesome who can appreciate you. If he comes crawling back, I'd kick him to the curb.
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MatteaTime Featured By Owner Feb 12, 2013
I dated a guy for 8 years. Mhm.
We were going to get married this year.
He got real ill whilst working away at college.
I encouraged him to see a doctor. He doesn't go.
Disappears for 2 weeks though. Comes back and dumps me.

Said it was only for sex.
I was scored from his heart, he was looking for someone new.
My memories are burnt, erased, painted over. And sadly, I'm just quoting his E-MAIL.

I don't go into full details on what's happened.
But my point is, it could be worse.

You weren't used and broken.
So you still have something.
It's hard but you just have to take things a day at a time.
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whatonearth Featured By Owner Feb 13, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
What the hell? That's insane, generally people don't get used for sex that long or agree to marry people they won't... hmm, odd. Although I did hear of a guy that agreed to marry his girlfriend but set the date ten years in advance then never went through with it and she finally left him. :P Hey, think of it this way, dodged a bullet.
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MatteaTime Featured By Owner Feb 14, 2013
That's true, if I DID get married and something hit the fan then - I could have lost everything or half of my stuff in a divorce. D:
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darkanddefiant Featured By Owner Feb 12, 2013
you missed hwl.
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GoGo-T-W Featured By Owner Feb 12, 2013   Traditional Artist
He's probably all, "I gotta marry some girl in the temple QUICK" and dumped you because you don't go anymore.
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Azza9 Featured By Owner Feb 12, 2013
Now you know why us sinners don't care much for waitin...
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Totally-dead Featured By Owner Feb 12, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
What? You`ve never wanted to be the murderous ex-girlfriend before? Shotgun? Staged gas explosions? Slasher movie reproductions? Plain old pushing out of the window?

You fucking mormons. You never get it right.
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MaryYana Featured By Owner Feb 12, 2013   Traditional Artist
If he gets with another girl while he is with you and acts like it's your fault that it doesn't work out (telling you he doesn't know you and then asks you to be the way you used to be without even telling you what that is like) and fools you around like this, he wasn't worth keeping anyway.

He should have told you straight out that he had found someone else and therefore it was best to break up. One might say that it would've made you sad, but finding it out on your own is worse since he then not only has found someone else, but also has lied to you. That man wasn't worth your attention. He was an asshole. Fuck that shit.
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Koyukuk Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Sounds like my ex in the sense he seemed to be a total sweetie and my bestie but was a total dog (and a coward, dumped me in a one minute phone call!). :huggle: You'll do better without him.
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angelishi Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
...Wonderfully creative like you.
I'm guessing you're just not a good judge of character and people.
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Totally-dead Featured By Owner Feb 12, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Who is these days?
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angelishi Featured By Owner Feb 12, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I'm a great judge.
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Totally-dead Featured By Owner Feb 12, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Pick one:
The Shining
Pulp Fiction
Nightmare on Elm Street

Then Another:
The Dark Knight
Avengers
The Fantastic Four

And finally:
Pokemon(Animé)
Black Lagoon
The Garden of Sinners/Kara No Kyoukai

If you do not have the right 3 then you have no better judgement skills than a monkey who picked the grenade dipped in cyanide over the banana.
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angelishi Featured By Owner Feb 12, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Neither.

Neither.

No idea what the other two are.
Besides, you're not telling me what I'm choosing, furthermore, something like this looks like typical pseudo psychology bullshit.:B
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Totally-dead Featured By Owner Feb 12, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
No just pure opinionated what is good, you chose wrong, therefore you have crap judgement, bullshit.

Seriously? You couldn`t even pinpoint the crap one in each of those choices?(First rule of animé: The one you know weeaboos like is the crap one. THAT is pseudo-psychological bullshit.)

Character judgement? :bucktooth:
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angelishi Featured By Owner Feb 12, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
"Besides, you're not telling me what I'm choosing..."


Go at it again.
Besides, I take it my initial reply whooshed you.
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Totally-dead Featured By Owner Feb 12, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
... Well I admit, that that bit may be a bit pop psychology-ish. Good judgement is supposed to have spontaneous direction.

If that doesn`t make any sense, then good.
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monkeydoodles Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013
The boy is an asshat. Look at it this way: you just dodged a bullet.
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MasterPlanner Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Professional Artisan Crafter
There are plenty of fish in the sea! :dummy:
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tacosteev Featured By Owner Feb 13, 2013  Hobbyist
Like a buddy told me once. If a gal is one in a million then there are 320 of her in the US alone :nod:
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MasterPlanner Featured By Owner Feb 13, 2013  Professional Artisan Crafter
:nod: And eight are in New York City alone!
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tacosteev Featured By Owner Feb 13, 2013  Hobbyist
Exactly! Sad I'm not as unique as I once thought I was :giggle:
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:iconmasterplanner:
MasterPlanner Featured By Owner Feb 13, 2013  Professional Artisan Crafter
You're a unique, special snowflake...just like all the other snowflakes! :dummy:
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:icontacosteev:
tacosteev Featured By Owner Feb 13, 2013  Hobbyist
:dummy: Yes! You always had my back!
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MasterPlanner Featured By Owner Feb 13, 2013  Professional Artisan Crafter
I'll always have your back, old friend! :blowkiss:
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Aret Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Man, isn't cheating against your religion or something? What a shit-ass mormon he is. Stop being sad and instead be happy that you are free of a cheating, lying, failure at religion.
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Ji-Shu-Hui Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013
Ouch I'm sorry to hear that. It always sucks when shit like this happens.
You "wait" for someone and always write letters, packages, etc.

They come back and they completely forgot about you and the life you once shared with them. It's a damn shame.

Wouldn't be surprised if the church convinced him to abandon you >3> I've been down THAT road before

Its hard now but hey. Shit like this happens and thats what helps us get through it :P
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MisterKhact Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013
mor(m)on
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namenotrequired Featured By Owner Feb 13, 2013  Student Interface Designer
I truly only just realised there's a difference.
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theGman0 Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Hobbyist
^
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zodiacgal Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
:iconthisplz:
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redmarlin Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013
Dude, he's a Mormon. He'll just date you both.
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x666NiGhTmArE666x Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013
The conversation you showed is like a typical sad story about a girl and a boy. I hate those. And those dashes, they stabbed me in the eyes. :stare: Anyway, you'll be fine. Just move on. c:
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ash-ketchum09 Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Student Digital Artist
Mormons are crazy. :P Granted, all I know about Mormons comes from that South Park episode. :lol:
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bohobella Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Professional Traditional Artist
Making a sexual advance on a best friend is forever saying "I am done being your best friend", because you'll either become lovers or become distant. There's no middle ground. That's why you don't fuck your best friends. 
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jadedPhotographer Featured By Owner Feb 13, 2013   Photographer
:iconimthinkingplz: You may be right.
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theleaveshaveeyes Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Professional Photographer
Being a Mormon doesn't keep teenage boys from being assholes.
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MisterTurtle Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013
Hey, he's a Mormon, dude can have as many girls as he likes. :dummy:

oh God my anus is not prepared for being ripped out due to my own stupidity oh God oh God oh God
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Kinrift Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013
Prepare for your spoonbased anal removal operation!
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