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January 21, 2013
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Yeah Guys, The Friendzone IS Real

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The-Vibeke Featured By Owner Jan 21, 2013
So I happened to stumble on a certain conversation on this website, and well let's just say =Jeysie is awesome. I didn't comment on that convo though because I don't wanna get involved in it. I have a better idea to make this thread. :D

But I'm going to get to the point of this complaint: I'm tired of people saying the friend zone is not real or bullshit or that friendzoners feel entitled.

We are not entitled! I don't think it's entitled to want to be treated with respect!

I have been friendzoned before, eve though I am a girl, so it is NOT like feminists say and it only happens to men, it happens to women too.

And it SUCKS.

I mean people who say this is not a big deal . . . obviously have never been in love with someone who didn't give it back. Like I already said, IT SUCKS!

OK sucks is a bad word. Stubbing your toe sucks. When the person you love just wants to be friends and keeps using you and you keep giving for them because you hope they might want you back . . . that person is using you and they are in the wrong. That's HELL.

When someone loves you, you either reject them or be romantic with them. You CAN NOT just be friends because it only hurts one person and they end up being used . . .

Of course I want to give that person the world because I love them . . . so I keep giving . . . and they keep taking without giving me any love in return . . .

There is a guy out there who has friendzoned me. I get hit on by other guys but I do not want them . . . he is the only one for me. And he knows how I feel but he doesn't care! He just uses me because he knows I love him . . .

AND some people think this is somehow MY fault?!

WTF. When someone is using you, it is obviously their fault for being a user, not your fault for being kind and being used!

WTF kind of fake logic is that?!!!

Seriously it pisses me off to learn that people actually think it is someone the one being used's fault for being friendzoned.

I am already being used for my emotions . . . I do not need your ridicule too . . . or hate. :crying:
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namenotrequired Featured By Owner Jan 23, 2013  Student Interface Designer
:lock: Flamebait.
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theGman0 Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Hobbyist
Hello =Jeysie
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Vel-drawings Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
That's your choice, you told him how you feel and he is not interested, you cannot force him to love you and you just let him keep using you.
Don't be there for him... have you heard about let him go and if he doesn't come back it means that he wasn't yours.
If despite everything you still want to be there for him then it's up to you, you just gonna get hurt more... so just end it and move on ^^
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Sapphire-Ashesx Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013
You sound like a stalker.
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AutumnalEssence Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013
He's not "using" you at all, he just simply doesn't feel the same way about you. I suggest you find a more mature way of dealing with this.
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Jordan71495 Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
[link] there is a reason we friend zone. And if you feel used, detach yourself from them despite your love for them.
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SlytherinsHeiress Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Professional Writer
Oh Lordy...

If he's not interested in forging a romantic relationship with you, then he's not interested in forging a romantic relationship with you. Of course, if he is unaware of your having a crush on him, then you really only have yourself to blame for that, Hon. Otherwise, if he is aware that you like him, but isn't reciprocating, then just accept being his friend and move on. There are PLENTY of men out there! Millions of men, actually. And by focusing on this one guy, who is apparently using you, you could very well be missing out on someone who's really great. Life is too short. I learned that the hard way many moons ago.
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Munuci Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Student General Artist
[link] - plz learn, plz.
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TheAwesomeFaerie Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013   Traditional Artist
The friend zone is bull. It's really just whiny babies complaining because someone has the audacity to not want to date them.
Did you tell this guy how you feel? If not, chances are he doesn't realize you feel that way. I was friends with a guy for years. We were really good friends, hung out all the time. Eventually he revealed he'd had a crush on me the whole time. I'd never noticed. Fortunately, he was mature enough to accept that I only saw him as a friend.
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The-Vibeke Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013
Uhm maybe you should stop trivializing other people's THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS AND EXPERIENCES because everyone is human.

Stop judging people and have some EMPATHY!
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TeenyTinyTentacles Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013   General Artist
And yet you trivialize the thoughts, feelings, and experiences of this person who doesn't return your feelings. Good job.
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TheAwesomeFaerie Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013   Traditional Artist
I notice that you completely ignored my second paragraph.

Let me break things down for you. They can't help not loving you, any more than you can help loving them. If you don't tell them you're interested, most likely they think you are an actual friend, rather than just hanging around trying to get them to want to date you.
If they reject you, you have two choices: Be mature and try to be actual friends or break off contact with them. Yes, it's unrequited love and it's sad, but they don't owe you a relationship based on your feelings and not their feelings.
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FeliceCavaliere Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013
love should not be lust. And if you are being used and you are aware of that- I pity you then.
If they really loved you, they wouldn't use you. If you really loved anything in fact- you would respect yourself and not do what you are doing by giving yourself to them like a slut.
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AnomalousChild Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013
I don't think you have a full grasp of what responsibility is. The fault lies with both of you. Unless he has actually rejected you and you keep clinging onto him. Then it's your fault. As much as you like to think you are the victim in this situation because of whatever helplessness you can think of imposing, he's the actual victim. He told you he's not interested in having a relationship, and now he's stuck with some brood who get over him and herself. Do you also patronize him, by letting him use you with your 'feelings'? How is it that you love him and you don't respect his wishes?
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SpookyInk Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
People are friendzoned if they are fat, ugly, annoying, abusive, retarded, or simply a bad partner to be with.
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Elmida Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013
Holymoly you have some issues.
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:iconkitsumekat:
kitsumekat Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013
You're just scraping the surface.
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:iconelmida:
Elmida Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013
Oh I know, I could write entire paragraphs about this idiot but he doesn't deserve my time and yet I felt I should say SOMETHING.
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kitsumekat Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013
Her and yes, you could've.
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zodiacgal Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Whoa. Just read over comments. Extreme dArama here. KEEP IT COMING! :popcorn:
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The-Vibeke Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013
;D
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zodiacgal Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
:iconbwavoplz:
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VaniBun Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Good God, I can't believe I got into a fight over the internet :lol:
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zodiacgal Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
A lot of people get into fights over the internet! Whether you started it, or you're dragged into it (most common) It's still extremely entertaining for me!
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VaniBun Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Isn't that how her threads usually turn out?
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zodiacgal Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
I only remember one of her other threads and it's this one: [link] and there wasn't really an argument... just dArama XD
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VaniBun Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
:lol:

She's had the account for seven years. Wonder what got her to wander to this area of the woods.
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zodiacgal Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
I have no idea. Eventually, after two years of being part of dA you wander to the forums. First, you get into the serious ones, like religion, politics, etc. THEN. You see THE COMPLAINTS FORUM. Curious, you wander in, helpless. And you either leave crying, you learn and toughen up, or you were born for it! :dummy:
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VaniBun Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Complaints :la: Regardless of how crass and blunt this place can get, it is quite enjoyable.
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zodiacgal Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Are you kidding me? The "let's just stay friends" thing is one of the best things EVER. It's better to just stay friends that be ridiculed for liking someone. :shrug: It sounds like you're kinda full of yourself.

Also, just because someone wants to stay friends with you DOES NOT mean they are using you. Capiche? :bucktooth:
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kitsumekat Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013
It's official, your parents should be arrested for letting you on the internet.
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UnrehearsedSplendour Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Professional General Artist
:lol:

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:iconkitsumekat:
kitsumekat Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013
It's sad when you have to arrest parents to keep their kids off the internets. Parents, please monitor your kids activities online.
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SilverChromeX Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Turn Grease - get a cat suit, turn the game around so you're in control, and make him start to see that he should have you (doing things he looks for in a girl). Then when he starts to want to be in a relationship with you, friendzone him back, and make him your bitch.

...Or you can continue to go on and cry about not getting some guy while all your friends are going to be married within their twenties.
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:iconthe-vibeke:
The-Vibeke Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013
Turn Grease?! What is that?
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sirAnGer Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Hobbyist Artist
I think she is referring to the musical/movie "Grease".
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Gemdrop Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
If you know he is using you, why hang out with him? :B You sound pretty dumb for your age.
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Agent-Sarah Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
If you read her last threads, you can see how not so bright she is.
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ponyfluff Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013
"I have a better idea to make this thread."
With you, there is no such thing as a "better idea". Your ideas are always worse.

"We are not entitled! I don't think it's entitled to want to be treated with respect!"
You're sure entitled, girly. Hell, you think you should automatically get a car without working for it (and saving up counts as working for it), just because you happened to exist for a certain number of years.

Also, you have so far not earned respect.

"When the person you love just wants to be friends and keeps using you and you keep giving for them because you hope they might want you back . . . that person is using you and they are in the wrong. That's HELL."
Yes, forget the people on the streets with no food, shelter, or families! Forget the kids dying and the people on here with legitimate complaints! Vibeke is in True Hell because she can't get the wing-wang in her hoo-haa!

"When someone loves you, you either reject them or be romantic with them."
Or you can be friends with them, and expect them to have the maturity to grow up and either accept the fact and move on, or leave.

"And he knows how I feel but he doesn't care! He just uses me because he knows I love him . . ."
No, he's not using you. You're the one who keeps doing things for him in hopes that he'll magically love you when, ta-daa, he won't.

"AND some people think this is somehow MY fault?!

WTF. When someone is using you, it is obviously their fault for being a user, not your fault for being kind and being used!"
It is your fault, though. You are capable of leaving the situation. But instead, you are trying to force him into a relationship he obviously does not want, which says a lot about how shitty your personality is.
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thisismyboat Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
I really wanted to comment on that first line too. Anytime you think "This is an interesting conversation, I'm going to start it again somewhere else instead of participating!" is probably a sign that you think your opinion matters far too much.
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ponyfluff Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013
I think she has an overinflated opinion of herself in general.
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thisismyboat Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
Meh, what teenager doesn't?
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VaniBun Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Oh how much I love this comment.
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ponyfluff Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013
Thank you, I'll be here all week.

But honestly, I could care less about Vibeke. I just gain sadistic amusement from watching her flail around because she can't deal with reality. **sips coffee**
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VaniBun Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
It's hilarious when she twists words, and when someone has something intellectual to say she suddenly has nothing to say. :lol:
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ponyfluff Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013
Or misses the point entirely :lol:

And chances are she doesn't respond back because she knows she's wrong, yet doesn't want to admit it.
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VaniBun Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
So much for being an amazing debater.
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ponyfluff Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013
They probably only keep her on because of her personality.

I mean, she'd probably hound and bitch at them if they gave her the boot.
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:iconvanibun:
VaniBun Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Oh that'd be a hoot and a half :lol:
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Kell0x Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Student Digital Artist
no it is bullshit and Jeyslie is bullshit too

OK sucks is a bad word. Stubbing your toe sucks. When the person you love just wants to be friends and keeps using you and you keep giving for them because you hope they might want you back . . . that person is using you and they are in the wrong.

Carify what you mean with using cause I have stated to a few male ex-friends that I am gay and taken. Despite this they think playing video games together, chatting online and hanging out is a sign that I might become their girlfriend and thats bullshit. I do the same thing with other male/female friends. And if someone makes it clear they just want to stay friends then you should stop believing its your right to get more or hoping you get more.
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