That's your choice, you told him how you feel and he is not interested, you cannot force him to love you and you just let him keep using you. Don't be there for him... have you heard about let him go and if he doesn't come back it means that he wasn't yours. If despite everything you still want to be there for him then it's up to you, you just gonna get hurt more... so just end it and move on ^^
If he's not interested in forging a romantic relationship with you, then he's not interested in forging a romantic relationship with you. Of course, if he is unaware of your having a crush on him, then you really only have yourself to blame for that, Hon. Otherwise, if he is aware that you like him, but isn't reciprocating, then just accept being his friend and move on. There are PLENTY of men out there! Millions of men, actually. And by focusing on this one guy, who is apparently using you, you could very well be missing out on someone who's really great. Life is too short. I learned that the hard way many moons ago.
The friend zone is bull. It's really just whiny babies complaining because someone has the audacity to not want to date them. Did you tell this guy how you feel? If not, chances are he doesn't realize you feel that way. I was friends with a guy for years. We were really good friends, hung out all the time. Eventually he revealed he'd had a crush on me the whole time. I'd never noticed. Fortunately, he was mature enough to accept that I only saw him as a friend.
I notice that you completely ignored my second paragraph.
Let me break things down for you. They can't help not loving you, any more than you can help loving them. If you don't tell them you're interested, most likely they think you are an actual friend, rather than just hanging around trying to get them to want to date you. If they reject you, you have two choices: Be mature and try to be actual friends or break off contact with them. Yes, it's unrequited love and it's sad, but they don't owe you a relationship based on your feelings and not their feelings.
love should not be lust. And if you are being used and you are aware of that- I pity you then. If they really loved you, they wouldn't use you. If you really loved anything in fact- you would respect yourself and not do what you are doing by giving yourself to them like a slut.
I don't think you have a full grasp of what responsibility is. The fault lies with both of you. Unless he has actually rejected you and you keep clinging onto him. Then it's your fault. As much as you like to think you are the victim in this situation because of whatever helplessness you can think of imposing, he's the actual victim. He told you he's not interested in having a relationship, and now he's stuck with some brood who get over him and herself. Do you also patronize him, by letting him use you with your 'feelings'? How is it that you love him and you don't respect his wishes?
I have no idea. Eventually, after two years of being part of dA you wander to the forums. First, you get into the serious ones, like religion, politics, etc. THEN. You see THE COMPLAINTS FORUM. Curious, you wander in, helpless. And you either leave crying, you learn and toughen up, or you were born for it!
Are you kidding me? The "let's just stay friends" thing is one of the best things EVER. It's better to just stay friends that be ridiculed for liking someone. It sounds like you're kinda full of yourself.
Also, just because someone wants to stay friends with you DOES NOT mean they are using you. Capiche?
Turn Grease - get a cat suit, turn the game around so you're in control, and make him start to see that he should have you (doing things he looks for in a girl). Then when he starts to want to be in a relationship with you, friendzone him back, and make him your bitch.
...Or you can continue to go on and cry about not getting some guy while all your friends are going to be married within their twenties.
"I have a better idea to make this thread." With you, there is no such thing as a "better idea". Your ideas are always worse.
"We are not entitled! I don't think it's entitled to want to be treated with respect!" You're sure entitled, girly. Hell, you think you should automatically get a car without working for it (and saving up counts as working for it), just because you happened to exist for a certain number of years.
Also, you have so far not earned respect.
"When the person you love just wants to be friends and keeps using you and you keep giving for them because you hope they might want you back . . . that person is using you and they are in the wrong. That's HELL." Yes, forget the people on the streets with no food, shelter, or families! Forget the kids dying and the people on here with legitimate complaints! Vibeke is in True Hell because she can't get the wing-wang in her hoo-haa!
"When someone loves you, you either reject them or be romantic with them." Or you can be friends with them, and expect them to have the maturity to grow up and either accept the fact and move on, or leave.
"And he knows how I feel but he doesn't care! He just uses me because he knows I love him . . ." No, he's not using you. You're the one who keeps doing things for him in hopes that he'll magically love you when, ta-daa, he won't.
"AND some people think this is somehow MY fault?!
WTF. When someone is using you, it is obviously their fault for being a user, not your fault for being kind and being used!" It is your fault, though. You are capable of leaving the situation. But instead, you are trying to force him into a relationship he obviously does not want, which says a lot about how shitty your personality is.
I really wanted to comment on that first line too. Anytime you think "This is an interesting conversation, I'm going to start it again somewhere else instead of participating!" is probably a sign that you think your opinion matters far too much.
OK sucks is a bad word. Stubbing your toe sucks. When the person you love just wants to be friends and keeps using you and you keep giving for them because you hope they might want you back . . . that person is using you and they are in the wrong.
Carify what you mean with using cause I have stated to a few male ex-friends that I am gay and taken. Despite this they think playing video games together, chatting online and hanging out is a sign that I might become their girlfriend and thats bullshit. I do the same thing with other male/female friends. And if someone makes it clear they just want to stay friends then you should stop believing its your right to get more or hoping you get more.