NONONONONONONONONONO DO NOT REPLY. If you are curious about him, ask his mom discreetly, as you said she was a lovely person. But do not open up any line of communication with an abusive, controlling asshole like he sounds like.
So did I, to be fair. About a month after we seperated, he constantly kept acting like I was still his girlfriend, and I wound up calling him a few choice words after he kept wondering why I was ignoring him. The most awkward thing that happened was when he ended a phone call with "I love you". I pretty much kept silent for a good thirty seconds before he said "aren't you going to say it back?"
Ehh, and that's why I'm contemplating responding! I'm too nosey for my own good. I don't know why after a year and a half he'd have a heel-face turn. The last time we spoke, I called him a few colourful names, and acted like nothing he did was wrong and all of my actions (the things I went without or did because he wanted me to) were because I wanted to, and not because he forced me through his actions.
That's what I'm thinking. I don't want to cause trouble, and I definately don't want him in my life. Although, I can't help but be curious about what he's up to now, and whether everything went south after he realised I wasn't going to deal with his crap.
It's fine to be curious, but be silently curious and don't text back .
I've been there in a way with someone once. It's never a good thing to open the lines of communication again. If he's sorry and says he's changed, that's just classic ( they all claim to have changed) - if it's actually true, then huzzah for him. He can be a changed man for the next poor sap to cross his path.
I ended up being like, hardcore stalked. The dood went nuts and started phoning me 40-50 times a day- usually between the hours of 6pm - 4am. I'd turn my phone off and when I turned it back on there would be 25 messages he left of him screaming hysterically at me.
and then it got ugly.
I'm sure you're not at that point, but now when anyone starts phoning more than twice a day unless they're my Mom; just no. *twitch*
I dunno, if I were me I'd probably reply back with something positive, like: "Thanks, hope things are working out well for you too". But seeing as I've never been in a romantic relationship and therefore don't have an ex, I can't really comment.
Thread hijacking: I need breakfast suggestions. Because lately every day I wake up, milk has magically started to taste sharp and rancid, for whatever reason. I tested a fresh carton and it still tasted off. And I'm getting tired of pumpkin-seed-butter & jelly sandwiches (which if you must know, tastes exactly like PBJ, but the butter looks a bit greener)