If yes Stfu she made you live for soo many years ? You can lend her money. My mom used to go.in Shopping sprees and asked me a bit of money when i got a job for the groceries. I never even asked for it back.
Now she co-signed me for a loan for an house. (My parents have lots of money, but sometimes there are hard times) She did me groceries every weeks since i got my home.
200$ on side its pretty much nothing. even less if you ''dont buy anything''
And Yes she is blaming me when im ran.of money for stuff .. Its just a parent thing
Just saying that its pretty selfish to just bitch about lending her money for food ... Even if shes buying herself Stuff ...You can.help her right ? Who bought you food and clothes when you were young ? Anyways its jyst common sense to me. If i would never helped my.mother i would live in a shitbox right now.
Well those SSI checks are not supposed to ''Be spent on you''. They're supposed to help her to take care of household bills, Providing food/Drugs/ Education. Shes not Obligated to give the whole check to you its a choice. Where it would become wrong if its she would literally buy herself material stuff, beer or dope with it.
As long that the money would go on food/ House bill (like your internet/cable/Electricity) Or your Drugs etc . Shes using it what its supposed to.
My mum where giving them to me. Then when i got my first job . I let her keep them, To buy stuff to make her happy or whatever.
If shes paying me back with it i could careless, Those checks Does not belongs to you directly. Its to take care of you.
But if Shes always buy herself stuff then go ran of money for essensials stuff then THAT iz a bad abit to have. Shes depending on you. But whatever shes should not complain about what you do with your money If shes not even Spending her own at the good place.
Just help your mom she was there for you for so many years. But have s good talk with her.... maybe go on less expensive shopping spree ? Split groceries bill ? Pay a bill ? Its not much buy when i was 18 i was paying a mini rent, Buy myself some food and paying the phone at home. Obviously she shouldnt spend 300$ On clothing and scrapbook stuff... when she has bills.
"How Must You Use The Monthly Benefits" "First, you must make sure the beneficiary’s day-to-day needs for food and shelter are met. Then, the money can be used for any of the beneficiary’s medical and dental care that is not covered by health insurance, and for personal needs, such as clothing and recreation. If there is money left after you pay for the beneficiary’s needs, it must be saved, preferably in an interest-bearing account or U.S. Savings Bonds."
Actually, no. It is for my things, considering all she is is my PAYEE, the person who is supposed to help MANAGE my money, it is not for her non-essentials, period. It is MY money, to be spent on MY food/rent/medicine/etc. (my rent covers the basic foods that she gets for everyone). And she does use it for her own shit all the time. I know, because its the only green credit card, and she'll use it at wal-mart and shit on clothes for herself. They are NOT for her things, period.
"After a careful investigation, we appoint a relative, friend or other interested party to serve as the “representative payee.” This means that, if you agree to be a representative payee, we pay you the person’s benefits to use on his or her behalf."
"As a representative payee, you must know what the beneficiary’s needs are so you can decide how benefits can best be used for his or her personal care and well-being. This is especially important if the beneficiary does not live with you. "
"Remember, the law requires representative payees to use the benefits properly. If a payee misuses benefits, he or she must repay the misused funds. A payee who is convicted of misusing funds may be fined and imprisoned. "
It's not "welfare" it's "supplemental security income", which helps me survive, because the government considers me disabled and unable to work due to mental disorders. I'm not selfish for wanting what's mine, and getting pissed off that my mothers STUPIDITY is what's costing ME money. I have tried to get a job, put in applications at mcdonalds, a little family restaurant, and the gas station near us. The only people hiring at the time, and I was never called for any of them.
Oh okay now i get what is it . Well shes not even to open the enveloppe . That thing is yours What the fuck shes taking them at the first place ? My Husband get those and there is no way im gonna touch it ! It belongs to him but anyways you can go to your bank and ask for a paper for getting those deposited directly in those banks account. That should remove the problem of her stealing it . Then dont lend her money again . She is a parasite . I've grown up in a helping family . But your mom is a parasite, Living on Your money .
I've could understand her if your checks were Divorce thignies from your dads . But no those checks are yours shes not suppose to touch it. Call the Dept that are giving you those. They should help you.
Sorry saying that you were selfish i wasent sure what those monies were from .
I really don't have a choice. Her fucking name is on the card, because she claims I can't manage my own money to the government, so she's the payee, so she controls it. So getting a bank account wouldn't work either way.
Because AT&T has screwed me over and says I can't put minutes from a phone card onto it anymore, and need to switch to a 10 cents a minute plan, I normally talk to my girlfriend for an hour or so every night, that's not counting the friends I normally text, or the times I need to call my parents or something when I'm out and about. .10 x 60= 6.00 a day. 6 x 30= 180. $180+ a month? No thanks. I'll take a net10 phone with unlimited everything for $50 a month.
Mercury-CroweFeatured By OwnerJan 15, 2013Professional Artisan Crafter
I would suggest moving out as soon as you can.
I have a little Verizon prepaid phone that is free to other cell phones and 10 cent a min for landlines (or there are two other choices, I always do the 10cent one because we use mostly cells). Er, there is a dollar charge every day the phone is used, too. They're cheap and you don't have to do any registration to have them.
Even if she has a land line, it would probably be cheaper to buy two of them (about $30 each) and do the cards, it would be free to eachother so at the most you'd both have to pay about $30 a month.
How bout next time you mom asks for money you just say 'no'? Yeah, it may suck if you don't have food (go out an buy enough for you to eat or keep it in your room, go out to eat, whatever) and if the power gets cut off, but she needs a reality check.
Being manic depressive is a BS excuse. Yeah, you do stupid crap when you are manic. But you have to learn to CONTROL that.
She obviously needs meds. But she's not going to go get them until she is literally cut off from every other source and realizes her life is in HER HANDS. She's pretty much decided her chemicals are the boss and she isn't going to try and do anything about it.
I have a manic depressive friend (I am, too, but it's pretty controlled) who went off her meds and decided she was going to live with us, or ANYBODY else (she was convinced the government was trying to get her for...something, I dunno, and her apartment was actively trying to kill her). We're all pretty understanding around here, but after almost a month it was time for that to be enough. We had to kick her out, good and hard, I advised all her other close friends to do the same, it took almost two months but she finally realized she needed help and went back to meds. She's fine now.
When someone is having those kind of issues, yes, you should be sympathetic at first. But after a while, a few days, weeks, months, whatever it's time for that sympathy to be withdrawn. YOU are not going to hold this person up, they need to stand on their own feet.
I can only say "no" with the $200 I make sure I bug the shit out of her to take out every month right off the bat, because she is my payee, and even if I say "no", she can still go and spend it anyway. And she's apparently going to get on a medication that should sort this shit out too very soon, god I hope so anyway.
Mercury-CroweFeatured By OwnerJan 15, 2013Professional Artisan Crafter
I'm sorry, I didn't mean to sound nasty, I just see way to many 'bawwww I broke my crap and now mommy won't get new stuff'.
Did you say your dad gives her the money? Can you talk to him about getting it directly to you?
Watch her while she's on the meds. I can't do anything that is supposed to even your mood because it's all made me terribly depressed, I have to pick out specific symptoms to treat. Which is the other end of that you really don't want. If she gets depressed, or gets worse with the mania, try to get her to go back and try something else. It took me six months last time to realize the meds had made me so depressed I couldn't get out of bed.
My dad gives her HIS money from his job, mom can take whatever she likes from mine, so nope. :\ And she's EXTREMELY stubborn, so doesn't like to be told "hey stop this, you need help.", even though Dad and I have both told her this. It's a miracle she's going to get back on medication.
AT&T has fucked me over two months in a row now. I buy their stupid pre-pay card, it doesn't add right, I have to go through their shit-ass customer service, the first time they added it, second they didn't, claimed they couldn't, and third they tried to switch me to a 10 cents a minute plan, once again claiming they couldn't add the "activated" card to my phone. So, fuck their shit, I'm going back to net10.
;-; Except, being disabled, I'm on SSI, she claims to the goverment I "can't" manage my own money, so she's my payee, her name is on the card, and should I try to prove I AM, I get kicked out, with nowhere to go.
So wait. Your dad is in the picture and she works as well? She should be ashamed of herself taking your money. I can see if you’re in college maybe charging you a few hundred for rent. But to make you buy the food -that seems a little off.
She’s probably right about your dad‘s income, though. The income guidelines for food stamps have become more strict due to budget cuts.
YUP! Lazy asses like her who use it as an excuse and don't even bother to LOOK for a job. God, I get disability, I COULD survive on that alone, I currently do; but for fucks sake, at least I volunteered at the humane society for awhile until a cat attacked me, I help out at our library when I can too.