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Nerd Love verses Shallowness

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Kainchild Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
I recently was watching a show called nerd love and couldn't help but noticed the various reactions in the comment section.


I just don't understand why it so important for someone to be attractive in order to get a mate. Isn't love suppose to be about the person and not their appearance?
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Pokey-Bunny Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
I need something to attract me to a person for me to want to be with them. It doesn't have to be their looks necessarily. It could be how nice they are, or that they are extremely talented.
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MisterTurtle Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013
My boyfriend is such an immense and huggable sweetheart I could care less what he looks like (he's not too shabby, though :dummy: )

Certainly things wouldn't be the way they were if he wasn't as good-looking as me :iconsnobplz:
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Pinkmitten Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
It is only shallow when you base peoples worth on their looks.
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Atlantech Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
well from what I know, it isn't just physical attraction. You can be attracted to a person's personality, at least that's how its been for me.
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dorkface4 Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
"Attraction" can encompass many things including appearance, personality etc. So yes, you need to be attractive in some way, not necessarily physically but you need SOMETHING that makes someone go "hey I like this person".
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RandomRobskii Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013  Student Filmographer
Love is about the person and not their appearance. Attraction brings looks into play. What sort of a relationship do you expect people to have if their other half thinks they look ugly as sin?
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Narwalmilk Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013  Student General Artist
I know what you mean.
I fell in love with my partner first, and then started noticing how I found him attractive.
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xJessie-chan Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I heard of that, even though dating someone just for their physical appearance I admit I couldn't date someone I wasn't physically attracted to though their personality is very much important to me, true beauty is on the inside and physical beauty is a mask. :/
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290Pika Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013  Student Filmographer
I wouldn't want to date someone I wasn't physically attracted to. :lol: Likewise, I wouldn't want to date someone who had a shitty personality.
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LegendarySuperman Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Ugly people need lovin' too :pat:
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Kainchild Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
agreed! man boobies on woman boobies action ftw ;-)
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LegendarySuperman Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I take it you're one of the ugly people, and that's just your personal plug for getting some action :slow:
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Kainchild Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
Ugly people...hmm maybe....

No there was no plug intended. I just like typing man boobs whenever I can. :-)
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LegendarySuperman Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
OP has man boobs!! :iconnelsonplz:
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Pinkmitten Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
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LegendarySuperman Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
:iconthatshotplz:

Somehow I just knew that was done by ~sbkMulletMan
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The-UglyTruth Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
You'd have to narrow down how you're defining 'attractive' for me to give a proper answer. Because almost anyone who has formed a physical/emotional (we'll even go so far as a loving) relationship has found the other person 'attractive' in some way shape or form. It could be looks, and what would be wrong with that? It's literally hardwired into our systems to be attracted to people we find physically appealing.

Then again if that person ends up being a douchenozzle, looks can only get you so far. :nod:
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shininginthedarkness Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
I haven't figured out a way to have sex with someone's personality.
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The-UglyTruth Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
That's the power of imagination!

:iconimaginationplz:
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HametsuNoCharge Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Noooooooo because someone's personality has no idea how to use the tongue it doesn't have!!! :iconimmadplz:
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Kainchild Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
the ugly truth...rofl.
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Kainchild Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
So your saying if a wife is disfigured and becomes "ugly" then you stop having sex or get a divorce?
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angelishi Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
If it's your wife it means you're already in love, you don't toss away someone you love because of an accident. Don't be such a massive dumbass, kiddo.
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shininginthedarkness Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
It's extremely possible you'd stop having sex. You can't get aroused because you think you ought to. Is it right? Not really, but your genitals don't really respond to right and wrong.

However, the two people might be able to keep having sex through a combination of creativity and imagination. Hard to tell. Many time two people can find *something* attractive about each other (there are obviously lots and lots of ugly people who marry and have kids) but these things are still physical. Or they're both picturing someone else when they have sex.
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h-irsch Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013  Student Digital Artist
Because society? Fuck if I know.
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Bambii-lea Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
Attractive is a pretty general term. You could be talking about things that we're biologically hard-wired to find attractive (such as signs of fertility in women) in which case that's programmed, it's just the way people are made. If we didn't look for these signs back when we needed to procreate then our chances of passing on our genes would be diminished. Looking out for these traits has just stuck with us, even though is no longer necessary that everyone spawns out a baby else the species will die.

Ooooor are you referring to; why must people find other people at least somewhat attractive to be with them? In which case I worry about how little experience you have in the outside world.
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cake-fiend Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Because biology, duh.
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Toxicotic Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
...It's "shallow" to not be attracted to someone solely based on their personality? Mhm. K.

It's important because there might actually come a time when you want to find your partner with a great personality to be sexually desirable, too. Holy shit, right?
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Kainchild Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
People out there have proven you don't need physical desire to have sex if there's a personality attraction.

"...It's "shallow" to not be attracted to someone solely based on their personality? Mhm. K."

Isn't the sole foundation of love based on personality?
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The-UglyTruth Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
"Isn't the sole foundation of love based on personality?"

I can fearlessly say absolutely not. You can be the best match in the whole wide world in every other aspect, but if you don't click sexually that can (and probably will) tear the relationship apart. It creates stress, insecurity, and a whole buttload of other issues that can't simply be hugged away. If one person is sexually geared like a bunny and the other is geared like a corpse, things will not work.

Of course, people don't want to admit that they would break up over something so 'trivial', so usually it's blamed on something else (usually equally trivial).
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Kainchild Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
Maybe for some. but for other people aren't run by their hormones (and no that was intended to be a rude comment btw don't take that one personal. I have respect for what I deem to be both sides of this)
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HametsuNoCharge Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Afraid to tell you this man, but YES YOUR BRAIN RUNS ENTIRELY ON HORMONES....now pause and let that thought sink in. Even your thoughts are basically the effect of different hormonal balances and electrical signals. Just thought you should know.
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Kainchild Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
biologically yes but I was addressing sexual hormones
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HametsuNoCharge Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
:) still though man, unless you are an asexual person who seeks an asexual partner, there's always going to be this "is he cheating on me?" thing. Maybe not outwardly pronounced, but it does happen if the person perceives themselves as ugly.

As for pure outward appearance, attractive could simply refer to being dressed neatly and smartly. Some people look unattractive merely because they are slobs. People are a lot kinder about actual facial and body features
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The-UglyTruth Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
People are definitely run by their hormones, because hormones are driving forces of emotion.

But that is besides the point. If you've got one person who doesn't consider sex necessary for a relationship, they need to find someone who thinks the same way. Because even if they find someone who is awesome in every other aspect, but has a high libido, there will be some serious clash.
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Kainchild Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
agreed
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Toxicotic Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
The sole foundation of love is based on personality? Maybe with asexual couples, but other than that, lol no.

If a couple is regularly having sex, they're clearly finding something about each other physically attractive. I don't think it's very enjoyable when someone is like, "Well, he's ugly as shit, but he's really fucking hilarious."
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SanguineLaw Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Well physical attraction has to exist. It's not shallow to accept that you wouldn't be attracted to someone at all if you didn't at least have a physical attraction to them.
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Kainchild Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
some? and what happens when that "some" is gone?
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SanguineLaw Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I didn't use the word "some" :noes: What are you talking about?
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Kainchild Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
What I meant is what happens when they physical attraction is gone. What then?
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SanguineLaw Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Then you'd better have enough emotional investment in that person to stick around. What happens when someone's personality becomes rotten, do you stick around then?
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:iconkainchild:
Kainchild Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
Depends. As the vow goes, through better or worse.
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CherylBlanche Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
That and when you're well groomed or present yourself well overall people have reason to feel valued and respect you, as there's nothing like a stench to you or ripped, loose/tight, old clothing when it comes to sending the message that you don't give a fuck. The same way you'd like seeing a present wrapped and not with the plain box, let alone a stained one, the same way people like having something pleasant to see when they engage you in conversation or other.
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Kainchild Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
Well groomed doesn't change ugly.
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Endeavor-To-Freefall Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
Why are you bringing ugly into this when you made a topic about being "attractive"?
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CherylBlanche Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
No but I've often seen one individual be ugly beautiful or decent/average depending on who was making the decision.
Some things are universal marks of beauty or ugliness, but a lot of times anyone can be considered at least average by some people even if not the majority.
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Self-Epidemic Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013  Professional Digital Artist
No, you do have to fuck your partner, you know.
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:iconkainchild:
Kainchild Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
Ugly people put out children too which goes to show sex doesn't have to be based off of looks.
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CherylBlanche Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
Nvm misinterpreted, didn't expect you to actually consider that.
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