"Attraction" can encompass many things including appearance, personality etc. So yes, you need to be attractive in some way, not necessarily physically but you need SOMETHING that makes someone go "hey I like this person".
I heard of that, even though dating someone just for their physical appearance I admit I couldn't date someone I wasn't physically attracted to though their personality is very much important to me, true beauty is on the inside and physical beauty is a mask. :/
You'd have to narrow down how you're defining 'attractive' for me to give a proper answer. Because almost anyone who has formed a physical/emotional (we'll even go so far as a loving) relationship has found the other person 'attractive' in some way shape or form. It could be looks, and what would be wrong with that? It's literally hardwired into our systems to be attracted to people we find physically appealing.
Then again if that person ends up being a douchenozzle, looks can only get you so far.
It's extremely possible you'd stop having sex. You can't get aroused because you think you ought to. Is it right? Not really, but your genitals don't really respond to right and wrong.
However, the two people might be able to keep having sex through a combination of creativity and imagination. Hard to tell. Many time two people can find *something* attractive about each other (there are obviously lots and lots of ugly people who marry and have kids) but these things are still physical. Or they're both picturing someone else when they have sex.
Attractive is a pretty general term. You could be talking about things that we're biologically hard-wired to find attractive (such as signs of fertility in women) in which case that's programmed, it's just the way people are made. If we didn't look for these signs back when we needed to procreate then our chances of passing on our genes would be diminished. Looking out for these traits has just stuck with us, even though is no longer necessary that everyone spawns out a baby else the species will die.
Ooooor are you referring to; why must people find other people at least somewhat attractive to be with them? In which case I worry about how little experience you have in the outside world.
"Isn't the sole foundation of love based on personality?"
I can fearlessly say absolutely not. You can be the best match in the whole wide world in every other aspect, but if you don't click sexually that can (and probably will) tear the relationship apart. It creates stress, insecurity, and a whole buttload of other issues that can't simply be hugged away. If one person is sexually geared like a bunny and the other is geared like a corpse, things will not work.
Of course, people don't want to admit that they would break up over something so 'trivial', so usually it's blamed on something else (usually equally trivial).
Maybe for some. but for other people aren't run by their hormones (and no that was intended to be a rude comment btw don't take that one personal. I have respect for what I deem to be both sides of this)
Afraid to tell you this man, but YES YOUR BRAIN RUNS ENTIRELY ON HORMONES....now pause and let that thought sink in. Even your thoughts are basically the effect of different hormonal balances and electrical signals. Just thought you should know.
still though man, unless you are an asexual person who seeks an asexual partner, there's always going to be this "is he cheating on me?" thing. Maybe not outwardly pronounced, but it does happen if the person perceives themselves as ugly.
As for pure outward appearance, attractive could simply refer to being dressed neatly and smartly. Some people look unattractive merely because they are slobs. People are a lot kinder about actual facial and body features
People are definitely run by their hormones, because hormones are driving forces of emotion.
But that is besides the point. If you've got one person who doesn't consider sex necessary for a relationship, they need to find someone who thinks the same way. Because even if they find someone who is awesome in every other aspect, but has a high libido, there will be some serious clash.
The sole foundation of love is based on personality? Maybe with asexual couples, but other than that, lol no.
If a couple is regularly having sex, they're clearly finding something about each other physically attractive. I don't think it's very enjoyable when someone is like, "Well, he's ugly as shit, but he's really fucking hilarious."
That and when you're well groomed or present yourself well overall people have reason to feel valued and respect you, as there's nothing like a stench to you or ripped, loose/tight, old clothing when it comes to sending the message that you don't give a fuck. The same way you'd like seeing a present wrapped and not with the plain box, let alone a stained one, the same way people like having something pleasant to see when they engage you in conversation or other.
No but I've often seen one individual be ugly beautiful or decent/average depending on who was making the decision. Some things are universal marks of beauty or ugliness, but a lot of times anyone can be considered at least average by some people even if not the majority.