I have no idea what it's like to be disabled, but as someone who is able-bodied, I find it a bit hard to know what's appropriate and what's not, or what comes across as offensive and what doesn't.
Example, in Uni the other day, there was a guy in a wheelchair who was waiting in a hallway. The doors also have a card-lock on them and need to be pulled to open. I asked him if he needed any help, meaning a card for the entry, or for the door to be held open so he could get through. As it turns out, he was just waiting for someone, but had I not been so lucky, I could've been chewed out for trying to lend a hand as a "YOU THINK I CAN'T DO IT MYSELF? GODDDDD."
I dunno. It feels like treading on eggshells, I don't know how a person will react, whether they'll respond nicely whether they need assistance or not, or whether they think I'm being patronising, or whatever the word I'm looking for is.
You have my sympathies over the hypermobility. After a crap lot of work, and being told I was everything from "just fat so get over it" to "You might have arthritis", they finally worked out that is what I have. 6 months later, while it never will be gone, it was much better. But if you are worried about the diagnosis speak to your doctor or another one, if you can afford it. Good luck.
I have mild autism. I took the short buss to school in middle school, and people called me retarded.
I was smarter then all of them. Plus, i got to play video games, earn prizes, and watch movies in my class. We used the same books as them, and learned the same things as them. Our class was just smaller so the two teachers could help us more effectively.
Augh! I was waiting for my godson outside of school when the short bus pulled over to pick up its kids. Some little brats started making snide remarks about the "retard" bus. I was so mad, especially because I had just been thinking how easily my godson could be one of those kids in the bus (he's also mildly autistic, but we're trying to keep him in the regular classes.)
I would have said something, but that's when he decided to show up, and I just took him home
My highschool was all about accepting diversity, but that's really a front they use. As far as I know, they don't give two shits about people with unseen disorders. When they act like they care, they give the kid some backhanded help and overreact because they're trying hard not to make people suspicious.
If you have depression, some staff members will tell you to "just get over it, you can control your feelings. Stop being lazy and get back to work!" or "There's really nothing to be anxious about!" even when there are some mean people who happen to be almost everywhere you go.
I'm seriously pissed with these people after the way they treated an autistic kid as if he was a misbehaved brat. He takes his time to think, and really hated being told to hurry up. When his parents confronted the situation, the "helper" said "oh, he was doing the talking and got his way" when it was really the other way around. The woman wouldn't let the kid speak and brushed off his polite pleas to stop annoying him and let him concentrate.
All I can say is that I'm really glad I'm no longer a student of that school. Sorry for the rant, I'm just giving my two cents and agreeing with you.
i'll treat you like any other person, disability or no. if you're an asshole, then i treat you as one. don't use your shortcomings as a crutch. just because you think that washing dishes is an amazing feat doesn't make it so. don't expect other people to care.
There's an "uncanny valley" with disabilities and injuries. Someone doesn't have an arm or a leg? Awww poor guy. Let's help. Clearly you should not be cracking jokes because this guy has no fucking legs, dammit. That guy gets beaten up, and the people who do it are lucky if they're not on the bus to military school or Juvenile Hall by the end of the day.
Someone with an "unseen disorder"? Oh they're just faking it. Stop whining ya brat. How come I don't get to go into another room to take my tests? You're just making it up to get attention you little brat. I bet you anything you're just faking it so you get pills and you pop 'em all at once to get high. We're encouraging others to beat you up by not lifting a finger to help when you're stuffed head-first into a trashcan, and then accusing you of making it up to get attention when you come tell on them covered in garbage.
At my school there is quite a few kids with dyslexia, so they get to write tests on the computer, and they get to use the computers spell check. Of course, a lot of the other kids complain loudly, accusing them of faking it to get better grades, and so on.
Next time they do that I'll hit them in the head with the math book.