Well, I'd say that the problem isn't really how geared towards relationships media is, rather how people are being indoctrinated with non-existent relationships. Movie-relationships and The Mythical Great Love Of Your Life that will in a magical way make your life wonderful and make you a happy and balanced individual without any real effort on your behalf. This makes some people and especially kiddies between 15 and 25 unable to deal with their partners as real people instead of magical-fix-me-ups which is a recipe for being forever alone. And then we get them in the HWL-forum whining about how every person of the opposite gender is horrible, conceited and is totally missing out on their awesomeness when they really only care about what they think these people will do for them.
I don't understand society's fixation on it, either. What really grinds my gears is when people misuse and abuse the word entirely. For example: 12 year old children telling each other, "I love you, I want to be by your side forever." I mean, you've got your whole life for that. Enjoy being a kid. God, that really gets me going. I'm often ashamed of a lot of my generation.
You can never exaggerate the meaning of love to for people. I think that the problem is rather how the rather specific romantic love has been made up to be able to replace all other kinds of love that we as humans can have for each other. The problem is that one person can't fulfill all the needs of another.
Love being a home or not really depends on the nature of the relationship. My parents are super-hardcore Catholics, so it's probably not a good idea to let them know I have a boyfriend until I'm out of the house and independent.
Actually, physical contact relieves stress almost instantly (faster and better than any drug available to man), releases every "happy hormone" your body has, including oxytocin, the "bonding and trust" hormone, defuses overly intense emotions and allows greater focus.
Having someone likeminded to talk to keeps you rational and realistic and allows you to grow as an individual far more than talking to someone with a completely different POV ever will.
Now add the fact that we live in a cold and alienating society where even brushing another human being is "sexual harrassment". Humans are social animals in a non-social environment. Many don't really have another human to turn to. And they long for it. Is it any wonder that people seek the solutions to their problems in ill-conceived views of romance?
For a lot of outcasts family are considered "the evil" and friends almost always end up disappearing or falling out, though. What I'm wondering is how they KEEP faith in romance. Everything that disappoints them is rejected (friends fall out, family angers, pets die...), but romance, no matter how many times it hurts them, is seen as the pinnacle of human social interaction. Maybe it's because even a purely sexual relationship feels so good while it lasts. Maybe humans largely lack the ability to dislike/avoid romance, due to biological pressures. Who knows. *shrug* But it IS odd how those who are disappointed in everything still feel romance is worth striving for.
It may not "cure" those conditions by itself, it is incredibly helpful to have someone there. I used to be horribly anxious about going outside(with the exception of school. False sense of security and all that.)and my boyfriend has been great for helping me to slowly get over it these past 3 years. I used to have panic attacks even just trying to go down the street with my friends. And now I can barely even remember the last time I was that anxious about anything, really.
To me, it's just a different feeling. It's like it means more to me because I know that he doesn't have to put up with my problems and he can leave me any time, but he doesn't. Even though there's really nothing in it for him, he helps me just because he wants me to be happy.
I don't know if I just had a bad therapist, but I feel like my relationship has helped my problems much more than professional help ever did. I worried that I'd get too dependent on him, but shockingly I haven't. He's been away at college on the other side of the country and I haven't gone back to the way I was. I guess I can say that he helped me help myself in a way that I don't think friends could have.