yeah, I don't believe it either. I mean if humans weren't meant to be monogamous, then we wouldn't have jealous lovers. I think overall, it's just an excuse to tell others its okay to cheat on your partner because it's natural. I say give me a fucking break, if I can control my hormones and not want to fuck everyone I see, so can someone else. I can't believe the type of bullshit the media tries to brainwash us with.
I've always told myself if I ever have the desire to have an affair I'd break up with the girl I was with because I clearly didn't care enough about her. People bragging and advocating affairs disgust me. I've known women who submit that it's an act of empowerment and a given right for them, making fun of their significant other whilst gossiping about the latest 20 year old they've had. I've known men who literally hold no concern to the consequences in the slightest while they tell their friends every minute detail and share evidence. Despite never having been cheated on or cheated on anybody else it still infuriates me.
With that mini rant over, when you have a couple who have been moderately comfortably married for a number of years and now have a number of financial ties because of it, I can understand how it becomes easy to fall out of love but impossible to drop out of the relationship. I'm not sure how I feel about affairs in those scenarios. It's the blatant disregard for the others feelings and arrogance that gets me more than anything.
I think you may have touched a nerve I didn't quite know I had
yeah, but if any problems arise, they should either work together to fix the problems or call it quits. Also, I can't say that I will ever understand those people who do it for the thrill. I'd say, want a thrill? Ride a roller coaster instead.
The site only lives on because the people who run it know what is hot these days. Meaning that people do not stick to their love relationships any more and go out with other people behind there lovers back as if it is a fashion statement. Sad, but true.
I remember that serial killer who posted the ad that he was a cannibal and looking for someone to cook and eat. People thought that shit was fake at first until they discovered the man who responded to the ad, was cooked and eaten.
Never said I agree. Yet if they want to cheat, that's how they do it. Its crazy.
Buuut, thats usually the type of people, the thrill, rush, adrenaline. Its all a wonderful thing to them. They're selfish, don't care about the emotional and physical harm they could do to their partner.
I guess it depends on the person, my ex cheated on me, it was long gone and I figured when we broke up what he was like ( as you do of course ), he cheated on me with a girl who he later got engaged with. 2 years later, happy little old me sitting in college gets a phone call from my Mum, he rung up my home phone ( who the hell keeps their ex's number for 3 or so years? ) and said that his fiancée had cheated on him.
They're just facilitating cheating, and those who use it to cheat are just too lazy to fake a relationship status on another site not meant for cheating. Sure they may be being "honest" about wanting to cheat while in a relationship, but that doesn't make them a better person.
i've heard of that site! it makes me sick. it's so disgusting how people will profit off of anything. this kind of thing can even break a family apart. and look at their FAQ: [link]
"Does Ashley Madison encourage infidelity?
No, Ashley Madison does not encourage anyone to stray. In fact, if you are having difficulty with your relationship, you should seek counseling.
However, if you still feel that you will seek a person other than your partner to fill your unmet needs, then we truly believe that our service is the best place to start.
At Ashley Madison, you can communicate with other like-minded adults who may be more sympathetic to your circumstances. You never compromise your safety, privacy or security and will never have to reveal your identity unless you choose to.
You can go at your own pace and change your mind any time you wish. ___________________
Does a service like Ashley Madison make it easier for people to stray?
Of course not. People don't stray because it is easy or convenient. Most stray because they are missing something in their relationship and feel they need or deserve more than their primary partner offers.
Providing a service like ours does not make someone more likely to stray any more than increasing the availability of glassware contributes to alcoholism. No report contradicts this finding. On the other hand, putting up barriers and making it difficult to stray has never discouraged infidelity; if anything, it simply makes people want to even more.
Why does Ashley Madison offer an outlet for people that don't care about their spouses?
Unfortunately, stereotypes about philanderers abound. Most unfaithful people do care about their spouse and will take steps to work out their problems.
Our role is to keep them from taking unnecessary risks while they explore the feelings that got them to our website to begin with. Helping individuals stay safe and anonymous impacts the potential outcome of their decisions." __________________________
it disgusts me so much that they try to pretend that they are doing nothing to help people cheat, when in fact, that's the entire point of the site. and my bs meter really went off when i read about the "stereotype" that people who cheat actually care about their spouse. no actually, all they care about is themselves. if they truly cared about their spouse, they wouldn't cheat.
exactly, the whole purpose of the fucking site is to help them cheat in secret.
And fuck that whole OH YOUR NEEDS ARE NOT BEING MET SO YOU CAN SIGNUP HERE AND GET THEM MET
What a bunch of bullshit. THAT is what counseling is for in the first place. If your needs aren't being met then talk face to face with your spouse. This site is just coming up with bullshit excuses to hide the fact that they want you to cheat on your significant other. The founder of the site said that having an affair is no different than being homosexual or being in an interracial relationship. As far as I'm concerned, he's batshit insane!