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Why do people have more friends than me?

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ZurithePersistent Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist
In real life I have a lot of friends. On here I don't have any friends. How come nerds and hetalia geeks get more respect than me. They always get treated nicely. That isn't even fair. I try to make friends with the nerds and hetalia geeks but it doesn't feel right. NONE OF THEM EVEN WANT TO BE MY FRIEND. whats wrong with them. i even try my hardests then i ever tried to make friends with them so i can be a normal. why is the internet so awkward. its less awkward in real life.


ok i just ranted. this isnt asked for questions.
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:iconneurotype:
neurotype Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
:lock: As this is a rant, it is better suited to your journal. FAQ #801: Are there any rules for the Forums?
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:iconferaltao:
FeralTao Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012
First of all, drop the attitude - now. "Why don't people want to be my friend when I look down on them for their interests???" <-- That's the problem. Try focusing on finding people with your interests instead of hanging along on whatever popular fandom you can find to be "normal" since people different from you don't seem to sit well with you.
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:iconzurithepersistent:
ZurithePersistent Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist
what attitude
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:iconle-kaikai:
Le-Kaikai Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012
You have to learn the first fundamental rule of online communication: Interpretation versus Intention.

I'm not involved in whatever drama it is you seemed to have stirred, but what I'm getting from reading the comments is that other people interpret your word choice to be rude, but you seem to intend your words to be in a nicer tone.
Honestly, you have to type online carefully, preferably using a polite, neutral tone (no slang or your regular speaking vocabulary) with people you don't know before gradually introducing them to your own personal dialect. You have to give people a chance to warm up to you and get a feel for your "voice." If you immediately jump in with your own way of speaking, people are more likely to misunderstand you.
For instance, I'm a very sarcastic person in real life, and my tone and word choice reflects that. However, I try my hardest not to express my sarcasm online (especially in the forums) so I lessen the odds of people misunderstanding what I'm trying to say or misinterpreting how I'm trying to say it. On the other hand, when I'm online talking to my friends, I go all out with the informality and slang. It's okay with them because they can, in a sense, hear my voice and know what I mean by it.

Additionally, if you want to be friends with people who follow the Hetalia fandom, you may want to start by joining a few Hetalia groups and asking around to see who likes the same characters you like--and most importantly, not negatively judging people if they like someone you don't.
It also helps if you don't refer to them as "nerds" and "geeks," as some people may take offense to those terms.

Good luck on finding and making friends~<3
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:iconzurithepersistent:
ZurithePersistent Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist
thank you. your the only person who gave me SMART ADVICE.
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:iconle-kaikai:
Le-Kaikai Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012
You're welcome. :)

Though don't discredit anyone else so easily.

~witwitch mentioned how you should look for people with similar interests as you. It is quite common to have friendships built up on similar interests. Most of my friends on dA I'm friends with because of our shared interest of Kingdom Hearts. Even though a fandom was our starting point (and honestly, a lot of friends have come and gone), the few who remained are the ones I have formed true bonds with. I wouldn't trade them for anything. :)

Numerous people bring up a possible communication issue and suggest you should be "nicer." That's a simple fix by carefully choosing your words and asking yourself "Is there any way for someone to take offense to what I'm about to say?" Usually, unless you intend to start a creative discussion, you want to avoid provocation of any sort.
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:iconzurithepersistent:
ZurithePersistent Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist
whats wrong wiht saying my mind. i thought people liked that
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:iconle-kaikai:
Le-Kaikai Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012
There's nothing wrong with saying what's on your mind, it's just how you word it.

For example, the phrase "shut up."
"Shut up" alone is widely recognized to be a rude phrase. Some people consider it whining while others consider it aggressive. Of course, you can toss "shut up" around amongst your friends because, chances are, you're joking when you say it.
Online, you can't predict how anyone will ever take your words. Again with interpretation versus intention.
Instead of saying "shut up," in the sense of telling someone to stop talking, you should instead politely (or neutrally) ask them to kindly stop talking to you.
Or you can simply delete their comment from your inbox and blissfully ignore them. That's also a nice way to avoid conflict.

Basically, you need to be sensitive to others. You need to accept and understand that not everyone online will interpret your words the way you intend them.
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:iconzurithepersistent:
ZurithePersistent Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist
why are people such big babies. why cant they be like me and take insults
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:iconle-kaikai:
Le-Kaikai Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012
Because everyone is different. That's why humans are unique. And not everyone gets along, so why bother trying? Just ignore them and move on. You'll find friends eventually.
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:iconphosielin:
PhosieLin Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Student Digital Artist
:iconthisplz:
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:iconle-kaikai:
Le-Kaikai Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012
:bow:
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:iconjellybean9000:
Jellybean9000 Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Favorite cheese, anyone?
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darkanddefiant Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012
goats cheese or feta.
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:iconvi0letdreamer:
vi0letdreamer Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Student Photographer
I like string cheese!
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:iconcrystalgoldfinch:
CrystalGoldfinch Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Professional General Artist
Cheddar!! :la:
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:icondarkanddefiant:
darkanddefiant Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012
:icongetoutfrogplz:
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:iconzurithepersistent:
ZurithePersistent Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist
its u again hi
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:icondarkanddefiant:
darkanddefiant Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012
how's the little fail troll today?
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:iconshadowmaker-241:
ShadowMaker-241 Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
If you want to rant, then do it in your journals please.

FAQ #801: Are there any rules for the Forums?
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:iconzurithepersistent:
ZurithePersistent Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist
i wasnt ranting i was complaning
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:icondarkanddefiant:
darkanddefiant Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012
no one wants to see that shit. :icongtfoplz:
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:iconshadowmaker-241:
ShadowMaker-241 Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
"ok i just ranted."

It doesn't look like a complaint really.
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:iconzurithepersistent:
ZurithePersistent Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist
i meant complaning but i couldnt find the right word at the time
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:iconshadowmaker-241:
ShadowMaker-241 Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
You sure about that?
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:iconzurithepersistent:
ZurithePersistent Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist
yea
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:iconshadowmaker-241:
ShadowMaker-241 Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Doesn't look like it to me.

Besides, this doesn't promote discussion.
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:iconzurithepersistent:
ZurithePersistent Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist
why dont u moderators just get off my back
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:iconphosielin:
PhosieLin Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Student Digital Artist
"ok i just ranted"
You've got to be kidding me.
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:iconshadowmaker-241:
ShadowMaker-241 Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
I think the word "Persistent" fits well in their username.
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:iconlovebehr:
lovebehr Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012
I sense the anger in your soul. Please, relax and have some ice cream. :iconcuteeyesplz:
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:iconlovebehr:
lovebehr Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012
"ok i just ranted"
according to you, you were in fact ranting. :la:
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:iconlovebehr:
lovebehr Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012
IM A NERD. BE FRIENDS WITH ME. BAWWW
:iconforeveraloneplz:
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:iconzurithepersistent:
ZurithePersistent Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist
no.
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:iconlovebehr:
lovebehr Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012
:iconpatrickplz:
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:iconzurithepersistent:
ZurithePersistent Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist
are u really going to be my friend?
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:iconlovebehr:
lovebehr Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012
Do you really want me to be your friend? :eager:
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:iconbenjamin-biddix:
Benjamin-Biddix Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
:noes: :megaphone: BECAUSE YOU ARE ALWAYS SO RICEY!
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:iconcrystalgoldfinch:
CrystalGoldfinch Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Professional General Artist
:icongtfoplz:
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:iconkizziesama:
Kizziesama Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012
Do you want friends or do you want people to kiss your ass? :O I don't know why you would try to make friends with people you would address as "nerd and hetalia geeks". Already sounds like a bad start right there.
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:iconzurithepersistent:
ZurithePersistent Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist
i want to be friends with hetalia people because the have the most fun.
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:iconkizziesama:
Kizziesama Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012
Then maybe try a little sincerity about it :shrug:
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:iconzurithepersistent:
ZurithePersistent Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist
whats sincerity
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:iconkizziesama:
Kizziesama Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012
Mmmyeah, I'm pretty sure you know why people have an issue with you :hmm:
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:iconzurithepersistent:
ZurithePersistent Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist
no
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:iconphosielin:
PhosieLin Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Student Digital Artist
Wait...I'm sorry...I thought you hated Hetalia with every fiber of your ricey soul?
I must have read all the hate you've posted about them wrong. You want to be friends with them? Seriously?
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:iconzurithepersistent:
ZurithePersistent Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist
no i dont
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:iconhikara-ratashi:
Hikara-Ratashi Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012
:iconfacepalmplz: Seriously?



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:iconpenhuin:
Penhuin Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
You don't bother to be friendly :lol:
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:iconvi0letdreamer:
vi0letdreamer Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Student Photographer
Because you're being an idiot. You post a thread asking for peoples' opinions, and when they tell you what they think, you tell them to shut up. Try being, oh I don't know, NICE?
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