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Dads......

:iconlivneeson:
livneeson Featured By Owner Nov 8, 2012
....why do they have to be so emotionally distant?
Any attempt at trying to connect with mine, he responds in an unfriendly/distant way. And he wonders why I never call/message him while he's away.
Mum's are so much better!
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:iconkittysophie:
kittysophie Featured By Owner Nov 15, 2012  Student Digital Artist
well your lucky you even have a dad :)
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:iconnightchildmoonchild:
nightchildmoonchild Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Oddly enough, it was the reverse for me. My mother's emotionally distant/hostile with me, while my father is not. She and I just never get along.
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:iconmikepav:
mikepav Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012
it's not normal that you want to have an emotional connection to your parents. you're weird.
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:iconhorrificsensation:
HorrificSensation Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012
Why dont you consider yourself lucky that you even have a dad that cares so much?!!


>_> fuck.
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:iconmasterplanner:
MasterPlanner Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2012  Professional Artisan Crafter
:iconnelsonplz: My dad is fantastic and awesome and we are still very close.
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:iconbabushka-nipples:
Babushka-Nipples Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012
My dad tries to get into fist fights with me and does this passive-aggressive bullshit constantly, as does my mother who is a crazy pill head.
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:iconlivneeson:
livneeson Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012
That's not nice :(
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:iconsapphire-ashesx:
Sapphire-Ashesx Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012
Stab him, then he'll be more emotionally involved. Trust me.
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:iconlivneeson:
livneeson Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012
:mwahaha:
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Sapphire-Ashesx Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012
:iconpyroglompplz:
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:iconincandescentinsanity:
IncandescentInsanity Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012  Student General Artist
You should be looking at the individuals, not their genders
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:iconlivneeson:
livneeson Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012
I guess so
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:iconengelsblau:
Engelsblau Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012
I wouldn't generalize. I know someone who has got a cold distant mother and a gets along better with her dad. :shrug:

While me, well, I don't hate my dad. I get along with him. But he tends to get pissed at me quick. I get better along with my mom, but I don't think that I could call my dad emotionally distant. He just has his phases.
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:iconlivneeson:
livneeson Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012
I guess I shouldn't generalise, but I don't know, it seems to be more common in dad's than mum's. My dad, his dad, my mums dad, my cousins dad...
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:iconlivneeson:
livneeson Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012
Yeah true....
But I think of my dad's dad, he died a few years ago. They never quite patched things up/forgave each other. Maybe that's why my dad's grown so distant. I mean, he has been odd for long enough, but I guess more so in the last four years (after his dad died).
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:icondivine--apathia:
divine--apathia Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
I haven't seen my dad in years :lol:
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:iconhorrificsensation:
HorrificSensation Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012
me either and some people complain about their dads like this when they dont realize what they have *shakes head* >_>
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:iconlivneeson:
livneeson Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012
I'll probably be saying that one day!
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:icondivine--apathia:
divine--apathia Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
It's not great.
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:icontheleaveshaveeyes:
theleaveshaveeyes Featured By Owner Nov 8, 2012  Professional Photographer
My dad was great when I was a kid but has grown distant. I don't even bother saying "I love you" anymore because he doesn't respond.

It's better than what I get from my mom though. She was abusive, an alcoholic and went out of her way to make me feel inferior to her. She had a stroke 2 years ago and lives in a nursing home. I'm the only one who comes to see her because she drove away everyone else. And she only wants me to come when she wants something.
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:iconlivneeson:
livneeson Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012
Yeah I feel the same with my dad.

Sorry to hear that about your mum :( It would make me very sad if my mum was like that. At least you can look back and know you were there for her, even if she doesn't show appreciation
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:icondeizzan:
Deizzan Featured By Owner Nov 8, 2012
I know what you mean, I'm a lot more comfortable talking to my mum than dad. Dad's Samoan, though, and emotionally distant fathers tend to be par for the course.
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:iconlivneeson:
livneeson Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012
Yeah they seem to be from big farming families too, and also super religious in my dad's case.
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:icondeizzan:
Deizzan Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012
Well, according to a quick peek at wikipedia Samoa is made up of roughly 92-93% Samoan and almost 100% Christian. Those two facts seem to line up with your experiences.
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:iconlivneeson:
livneeson Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012
My dad's heritage is Irish, so I guess it's a similar story with them...
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:icondeizzan:
Deizzan Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012
Sounds about right.
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:icon3wyl:
3wyl Featured By Owner Nov 8, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Ah, I wouldn't even know where to start with my father there. :lol:

Normally, we just say a greeting in the morning and that's that.

Mothers can be worse. :noes:
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:iconlivneeson:
livneeson Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012
Yeah I suppose they can be.....my dad's mum was/is quite nutty...
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:icon3wyl:
3wyl Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
In what way?
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:iconlivneeson:
livneeson Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012
Sad actually, makes even more sense since I saw my cousin (all from same family/grandparents), he seems to be on the same path...
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:icon3wyl:
3wyl Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Ah.. that sucks. =/

:hug:
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:iconlivneeson:
livneeson Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012
Well, literally. Schizo- has 'episodes'. I didn't realise when I was a kid, but now it all makes sense. Apparently she's been that way since a young woman.
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:icon3wyl:
3wyl Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Oh right, I see. =/

Can't really blame her then. It's pretty intense. :hmm:
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:iconlivneeson:
livneeson Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012
Yeah, quite intense!
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:iconhippo-rim-job:
hippo-rim-job Featured By Owner Nov 8, 2012  Hobbyist Artist
I was not an emotionally distant dad. And my ex-wife was an alcholic. :unimpressed:
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:iconlivneeson:
livneeson Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012
That sucks, glad you stepped up to the plate though!
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:iconhippo-rim-job:
hippo-rim-job Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012  Hobbyist Artist
Yes, well someone had to.
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:iconlivneeson:
livneeson Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012
I don't think I should ever have kids....I'd be terrible at it
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:iconhippo-rim-job:
hippo-rim-job Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012  Hobbyist Artist
At least you realize that now, instead of later.
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:iconprosaix:
prosaix Featured By Owner Nov 8, 2012
How would you feel if your child was a troll? Exactly.
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:iconhippo-rim-job:
hippo-rim-job Featured By Owner Nov 8, 2012  Hobbyist Artist
:lol:
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:iconlivneeson:
livneeson Featured By Owner Nov 8, 2012
You again. Troll much?
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:iconcrimeroyale:
CrimeRoyale Featured By Owner Nov 8, 2012  Professional
Wanna hug it out, guy?
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:iconlivneeson:
livneeson Featured By Owner Nov 8, 2012
*Girl.

That's another thing actually, i'm not very touchy feely at all....Dad always liked these sort of controlling hugs, always want to wriggle my way out.
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:iconcrimeroyale:
CrimeRoyale Featured By Owner Nov 8, 2012  Professional
We'll hug gently.
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:iconlivneeson:
livneeson Featured By Owner Nov 8, 2012
:eyes:
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:iconcrimeroyale:
CrimeRoyale Featured By Owner Nov 8, 2012  Professional
Thaaaaat's right. Let it all out. :hug:
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:iconself-epidemic:
Self-Epidemic Featured By Owner Nov 8, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
My Mum is crazy, always miserable and thinks I'm the worst person in the world.

My dad on the other hand is a calm, cool guy who never gets angry, always plays games on the PS3 with my brother, play fighting and doing magic tricks or whatever my brother wants, and being the one to calm situations down.
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:iconlivneeson:
livneeson Featured By Owner Nov 8, 2012
Sorry about your mum :( I always thought mothers were very loving. Your dad sounds nice though :)
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:iconself-epidemic:
Self-Epidemic Featured By Owner Nov 8, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
She has some resentment to sort through. People are different D:
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