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Of course she'll pay you £2000 for emotionally abusing her!

:iconalzircon:
=alzircon Aug 29, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I am so fucking enraged, it's unbelievable. Get ready for a long one.


There's this pretty cool (recently turned) 18-year-old girl at work that I very much like hanging out with. I helped her get out of an incredibly shitty relationship with an emotionally manipulative fuckhead.
A few things to keep in mind:

:bulletred: She's 18, he's 37. When she met him, he lied about his age saying he's 25 and she lied saying she's 20. But, if you look at her, you'd know there's no way she's over 18, because she's very skinny and has a baby face. Unfortunately, the age of consent in UK is 16, otherwise the problem would be easily solvable.

:bulletred: Since she moved away from her mom's place to live on her own, she's been fucked over by her friends/flat mates and pretty much left without a place to live, so when she met the guy, she instantly moved in with him. From then on she's been giving him most of her earnings from Burger King as rent.

:bulletred: The last few months he's been exceptionally horrible, for example: If she would get stuck at work, he would call and accuse her of cheating, calling her a slut, saying: "I know where you are, you whore, how does his dick feels in your mouth?" or waking her up at 3 am (knowing she has work early in the morning) demanding she give him a blowjob. Sadly, she complied because she believed to have loved him.

:bulletred: She comes from a bad area, she's been in shitty relationships all of her life, so in the back of her head she assumes that's how it's supposed to be, so she accepts being treated like that. Plus, she's only 18, still mentally weak.



Tricky part is, he has never hit her. Ever. He never laid a finger on her, so we can't sick the police on him. What he did do was constantly emotionally abuse her, telling her she isn't invested in the relationship enough, that he gives and gives and she's ungrateful. He would threaten to call her mom and tell that the guy she's living with is not a friend, but a boyfriend in his late 30s (which he knew would make the mom flip and ruin the relationship with her daughter). She would come to work (not Burger King anymore) and just break down crying, because she loved him and thought that if she gave him more money and/or blowjobs, then the relationship would work, that's everything would be ok.


The last few weeks she was late for work every day, sobbing in the staff room like she was diagnosed with a terminal sickness and was gonna die in less than a week. She was a mess and could barely do any work.

I spoke with her many times, not suggesting, but blatantly telling her to dump his manipulative ass. She was crying for hours, agreeing with me and at the same time crying out it wasn't fair, that she loved him, why does it have to be like that.

After a week of convincing, she finally did it. She told him in his face EVERYTHING she thought about what he's done to her. She moved out.:la:

After the tears and moving, she calmed down, got over him and is now happy all the time, spending time with me, my boyfriend and our friends.

But last week, this guy has been trying to get back into her life. He's been showing up at her friends' places, looking for her, again demanding she come back to him. After that she told he, quote: "Oh my god, I never realized just how horrible he is, until I hung out with you guys and you're all genuinely nice. I can NOW see the difference. And you guys are so nice and sweet to me." She shed a few happy tears, I gave her a hug.


But now, NOW! THIS FUCKHEAD IS CLAIMING SHE OWES HIM £2000 RENT MONEY! :icongoodrageplz:

She never signed a tenancy agreement, she gave him most of her earnings, she payed for most of the times they went out to restaurants and whatnot and this piece of abusive shit has the NERVE to demand money.

WHAT THE ACTUAL FLYING FUCK.

The really sad thing is that he showed up at work yesterday looking for her and today he called and said he'd come to work to get his money. And she's thinking of actually giving him the money, because he's guilt tripping her.


I saw the guy yesterday. He is a motherfucking psychopath is what he is. He has this very happy innocent look on his face and his general appearance is pleasant. But I've fucking dealt with guys like that before. The angel-face wanker pieces of shit. You can see that there's something off about him, the mask is visible, if you look close enough.

She phoned this morning saying she's scared to go to work, because he said he'd show up. I told her to call security, if he dares step foot in the restaurant and try to interrogate her.

But I can't help but fantasize of different types of ways to murder this sick fuck.:iconfirerageplz:



TL;DR Friend's abusive ex-boyfriend demands money from her, even though she gave him most of her earnings.
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:iconkittythenekoalien:
~KittyTheNekoAlien Aug 30, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I know some of that can have sexual harassment charges. She could also get a restraining order against him because that sounds like he's being a huge stalker too. But because they never got in a contract, she shouldn't be responsible for rent, maybe they can go to court and settle it once and for all.
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=WeluDixon Aug 30, 2012  Student General Artist
If he's coming into work to find her, you could try police now since he's harassing her in a very obvious way. If she hadn't signed a contract and it's his name on the lease, it should his own problem if he doesn't have enough money.
Also as someone else said, making her perform oral sex is at least sexual assault. She should talk to police about that because he'll probably find another weak-willed girl to try the same tricks on if he gets sick of harassing her.
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~ShadowRyghas Aug 30, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
She needs to call the police. That is harrassment, and most places take that VERY seriously. She also needs a restraining order, and she should talk to the boss to have him banned from the grounds. There are many men like that out there sadly... =/ Women too tho.
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:iconcynical-nerd:
He wants undeserved money and has forced BJs. You can bring that to court.
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:iconlittle-wild-one:
This is one of those times where you should gather up your biggest, most intimidating friends and pay him a little 'visit' =P
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:iconalzircon:
=alzircon Sep 4, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
All my biggest intimidating friends already know the story and are eager to find out where he lives.:lol:
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:icondelusional-weirdo:
~Delusional-Weirdo Aug 30, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I cannot put myself in that girl's shoes because I can't imagine myself putting up with someone who's that much of a two-faced degenerate. More than that, I doubt my family would let me isolate myself for any reason and would look for ways to get in contact with me if I went MIA. PLUS, if my older brother, father, or certain sisters of mine ever found out some guy was abusing me like that, either he'd come home to find me and my belongings gone, or he'd be dead by week's end. It's still horrible what she went through, and I'm hoping for a good development out of this, but I actually have a love-hate relationship with these sorts of stories. As much as I feel for the person who's suffering or being wronged, I can't do shit to help 99% of the time, and it makes me angry. :T
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:iconalzircon:
=alzircon Sep 2, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I'm happy that out of two abusive relationships my fiends were in, I managed to get one out.
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:icondelusional-weirdo:
~Delusional-Weirdo Sep 2, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yeah, that always feels good. Sometimes ya really gotta beat it into their head though, and it's frustrating.
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:icongodzilliac68:
Is that creep the owner of the place where he lives or is he a tenant? I don't know about Britain but in several countries you cannot charge rent as a tenant. If it happens to be illegal to do so, I'm sure his landlord will be happy to find out about this. Given that he isn't the owner of course.

Let her file a complaint against him for harassment. It might not do much at first but if she keeps reporting him eventually the authorities will have to respond to this. Not sure if she or her family can afford this but consulting an attorney might not be such a bad idea either.
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