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Attacking the "majority" is not right, makes you look like shits, and imo it needs to stop

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I finally grew the balls to make this complaint. I am anticipating no less than, not a shit storm, but a shit hurricane by making this. So don't let me down, Complaints.

I have been an LGBT ally since middle school, when prop 8 was the hot topic in my state of California. When I went to church I wrote on their "Vote yes on 8" signs to stop the hate. I would always argue about it whenever it was brought up. Intolerance to the LGBT community, and denial of their rights, was one of the major factors in me becoming an atheist. I was proud to be an ally, and I always will be despite this utter bullshit I am about to talk about.

Which is why, I believe, I am taking the sudden attack on cisgendered heterosexuals pretty badly. I have fought for people who hate me for what I am. Wait, people actually do that? Yes [link] they [link] do [link] Feel free to check out more tags on Tumblr like that. Those links alone were enough to make me feel awfully shitty about myself.

Yes, I am the majority. No, I have never been oppressed. But you have to admit, there's a shitload of generalizations and insults people simply love to throw us because of what we are. We're "boring" baby machines that have all the marriage problems and domestic violence and blah blah blah so on. Also "die cis scum". What the fuck?

Okay, I get it, people are mean and you're pissed. But for you to up and call us babies for being irritated at these statements, say we have no right to be offended, and not care about our feelings as a group is really a godawful thing to do. And it's hypocrisy, because I thought insulting a group as a whole is SO WRONG. Guess it doesn't apply to majorities :|

There's also the belief that, because I am in the majority, I can't be bullied OR whatever bullying I have experienced is "nothing" compared to what you've been through. Wow. I was bullied for years as a kid. I had things thrown at me, people prank calling me, the whole class making fun of me, etc. I wanted to kill myself. As a 5th grader. You're going to tell me that's not as bad? That I deserved it? To this day I still do not know what enticed those people to do that to me. And currently my brother, suffering from autism, is getting his fair share of bullies because of the social issues he was born with. It's to the point where he's changing schools. Go on, please tell me how he deserves it or it's "not as bad" as what you went through. Bullying is bullying is bullying.

I understand there is still government discrimination against the LGBT community. No shit. But we do not live in a dictatorship. YOU have a say in this.

Which brings up another point. I'm pretty sure some of you social justice warriors still do not care if you "hurt the poor widdle heterosexual's feelings". Okay, great, but do you not get that we vote on this issue too? That you need the "evil majority" to take your side to get what you want whether you like it or not? Shit like this does not get you allies. Acting like little shits doesn't make anyone go "Okay, I'll help support your cause now." You're hurting the cause. Hurting it. Destroying it! Undoing the steps towards the goal that both LGBT and allies want: equal rights.

Why can't we take steps towards unity? Ignore the "homophobes" and focus on the relationships with allies. Convince others to change their minds with love and logical arguments, not hate and separation. Together we CAN make the world a better place for the LGBT community. You just have to work with us "stupid cishets".

TL;DR It's a rant on how people think it's just to insult the majority of "cisgendered heteros" but, in my OPINION, why it sucks for us and why it needs to stop.

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:icondrkate:
Have you considered that they are inverting the power hierarchy and normative "jokes" about minorities to show the majority just how fucking offensive and harmful the jokes are? You should also consider the fact that writing up a huge screed about how you're so offended instead of taking the time to learn about why they're so upset shows just how bad of an ally you are? If you don't want to listen, learn, and defer to lived experience, you aren't an ally.
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:iconkitsumekat:
Why should she be an ally to people who hate her? That's like a black person bashing white people when their friend is white.
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:iconbitbee:
the giving people a taste of their own medicine approach works so much better when the people were giving you the metaphorical medicine in the first place
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:icondayandevarlo:
~DayanDeVarlo Jul 5, 2012  Student Digital Artist
People love being assholes.
What I absolutely can't stand is the "I'm the most oppressed person EVER" contest. Are there big money prizes or did I miss something? Oh, and some folks' eagerness to get offended at the least offensive things is astonishing.

On a side note, if you judge people based on qualities they have no influence over, how can you expect people not to do the same about you?
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:iconherbaldrink:
It really really doesn't look good on you guys when we go around and see gay people making misogynistic or misandric comments talking about how they want to be accepted for who they are, yet go around insulting heterosexual people and proclaiming that "Het is Ew." Personally I find that to be unfortunate implications - that you want us to accept and tolerate you, but you don't want to accept and tolerate back.


I drew a political cartoon where someone was being crushed under a boot, and the person was thinking, "I want to be the person wearing the boot." It's too true.
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~theCoin-operatedGirl Jul 4, 2012  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
Honestly, some of the stuff I see on tumblr makes me sick, including all of the hate some people point towards the majority (but mostly the pro-ana shit).

What I think the bottom line and moral of the story is: Everyone needs to stop hating because hate only brings more hate. HOWEVER, at least the hate of the majority is usually found after someone spends their whole life dealing with people who are ignorant and hate the minorities out of fear and disgust over something they can't control. I still think that shits wrong though, and no amount of "well, you aren't being oppressed blah blah blah" will change my mind. If you want hate to stop, you stop hating. Period.
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`MPsai Jul 3, 2012   Digital Artist
I'm gay and I find this "cisgender" thing brow-raising. Hell I'm not even sure the "T" belongs on LGBT as gender dysphoria is pretty different from sexual orientation. I don't think it's as wide-spread as you may think and seems to be primarily people who are desperate to be "different."
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~SyntheticMemory Jul 3, 2012  Student Artist
I know this might be less comforting and it probably isn't this huge, world-shaking observation, but people on the receiving end of bigotry tend to become bigots themselves, in a sort of irrational act of revenge that makes no sense to anyone. I think that the more primal reactions we have leads to the logic that the original bigots will understand the plight they're placing on the people they're being bigots towards if they experience it themselves. Which is illogical because the bigots will simply use it as a way to justify being bigots. Tolerance and time are pathways to change, but we want it now.

Sincerely, a member of the LGBT community who vehemently despises how a great deal of members within the community act.
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*stagworks Jul 3, 2012  Student Digital Artist
yes. just agreement in its simplest form.
i hate to say, "YOU NEED THE MAJORITY TO HELP YOU" because it just makes me feel that there's some form of being better. the poor oppressed masses are too helpless, & they need us suburban white people to help them because they can't do it themselves! but in this case, if straight people are the majority, then yes. banding together, joining forces, whatever. the whole honey & vinegar thing you said.
whatever, though. when there's LGBT+ equality we'll know it wasn't helped along by this blog.
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~Tidal-Wave-Art Jul 3, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I still don't understand what a cis-gender is. Can someone please explain it to me? :saddummy:
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