Some heavy women can be more beautiful than those that are skinny, tbh. "Fat" really depends on the persons built. For instance, I don't look fat. But I am overweight, thus I am.
I still feel I'm pretty though and I've had guys interests before, after and even now. If you mean obese then yeah, I'm not so into that. Some people can't help it for mental illness or their body doesn't work like most people does. For example; not telling them when they are full - thus always hungry to the point of pain.
Personally, I feel a sense of humour smile and a pair of bright eyes can make anyone attractive.
I have a bit of jiggle. But I see people at Walmart who have to rely on those scooter type things. They like barely fit on them. They have oxygen tanks and I just wonder how they go about normal activities through the day.
I have no problem with fat - of course, if it's threatening your life, then do something about it. Unfortunately, some people prefer to die fat. I shrug it off because it was his/her decision. Sure, I'm bias because I'm considerably fat, but it comes down to the fact that I have a metabolism disorder. I've had issues with food for years and having acid reflex is very much a bitch. I do what I can to watch what I eat. Unfortunately I have the problem where my body is all, 'I DONT WANNA EAT' for a day or more. So, I screw myself up and eat a bit more than I should with my next meal (whenever it is). Also that my body can't tell me very well when I'm hungry and if I feel like throwing up, that's when I eat (I've gone through so many school days without eating because I hated the cafeteria and I had to focus on something else than nausea).
My mom's side of the family and my dad's side of the family have so many problems. Then out of nowhere I get hit with all these problems while I have a brother who eats taco bell at midnight, mcdonalds every day (they're both disgusting in my opinion), drinks a twelve-pack of soda in two days, and the list goes on. He's skinny and has no issues. I'll hopefully be able to fix that in college. As of now, it's harder to get a good meal plan going because I work so much. I can't exactly make myself food at midnight with my parents asleep. Once my mom is up, she's up, and I don't want to deal with her crabby attitude. When and if I get a meal break, I can luckily grab myself a piece of fruit/vegetable. I have to be careful with eating any frozen meals because they either exceed my carbohydrate count or can cause me acid reflex. Thing is, if I even got rid of the fat, it wouldn't get rid of my problems.
It feels weird to be one of the seldom few who won't be drinking alcohol and/or smoking because it would screw me up worst.
I will say this: I'd rather be with a fat guy/girl who is heaving with every step than a skinny male/female who is always trying to kill me.
XtcOverdoseFeatured By OwnerMay 23, 2012Hobbyist General Artist
Calling people ugly stretched wastes of skin isn't being shallow or crass, its being a dick. I find that if you pay attention to peoples personality you forget what they look like, I guess that might just be me. Its not as if you're forced to talk to people that are overweight. If you really find it that utterly repulsive then just ignore them. If you're talking about fat people not being sexually appealing, the same rule applies. Don't date them, although I can't see how it matters that much how they look. If everyone only wanted to go out with people because of how they looked, how many people do you think would go out with you? Why is it only girls? Is it cool for guys to be fat but not girls?
Some people can't help gaining weight. My mother AND father have hypothyroidism based from Grave's Disease that often causes huge weight gain. That is genetic and there is really nothing other than medication and a healthy lifestyle.
I have a less severe version of my parents disease, so keeping weight off is very difficult although I'm an active person. Don't be so quick to judge.
I just don't understand people that weigh like, over 300 lbs or so. That's just insane. I don't even want to imagine how lazy you have to be or how much you have to eat in order to get like that. And plus, I notice when I gain like 5-10 lbs, so they HAVE to realize that they are ballooning up and just do nothing about it And before anybody says it, I understand that sometimes medical conditions cause people to gain more weight, and they are the exception since they don't really have full control over their weight.
If you're thin and have always been thin then it makes sense why you realize when you gain a few pounds. When I was about 12-14 my family didn't own a scale,and I wasn't body/health conscious. SOMEHOW in those two years I managed to go from being a skinny (practicaly scrawny)little girl to a womens size 12-14. My family doesn't eat overly fattening foods on the regular, and we don't have a car which means lots of walking. Thankfully I've "excersized my way" into size 6-8. But sometimes people just don't notice it.
People like YOU gives me the creeps...and you're stupid. Thinking that fat ugly girls thinks they can gets away with everything!? wtf...where did you get THAT idea?? Fat girls are always being judged no matter what they do or where they go. We're always criticized, hated and bullied. Skinny girls are the ones who gets away with everything and they KNOW it. No matter how shallow or bitchy they are they can get away with everything for being "attractive".
You hating on a fat girls JUST because of appearance is the worst cruel thing you could ever say. Sure, some fat girls allow themselves to let go and it is their fault, but you shouldn't hate them. In fact, it's none of your business. Many girls who are naturally stick thin gets upset when thicker girls judges them and accuses them of being bulimic or anorexic. Same thing with bigger girls, we get upset when we get judged, hated and accused of eating super unhealthy every day,
I'm a fat ugly girl, but I have Thyroids problems. Sure I don't eat SUPER HEALTHY and I'm certainly not strict with my diet. But I do eat healthier than most skinny people. All of my friends are skinny, yet I eat healthier than them. My weight constantly goes up and down no matter what I do. It's really frustrating and then people like you bashes on big girls for no reason. Gosh
See I have no problem with people being honest about what they find attractive, I do however, have issues with people being dicks about it. Everyone has a type, thats cool, but refering to people as 'ugly stretched wastes of skin' is revolting. Why men feel it necessary to judge everyone on a standrd of who they want to bed will never cease to frustrate me, so glad I dont swing that way, women are far more open to imperfections. And I mean, being realistic is nice too...I have a super fat male friend, he's a total slob, hardly ever shaves, doesn't work out, eats complete junk....and expects amazingly hot girls to pile on him, its weird. I'm fat, always will be, but I keep in shape & stay active....never expect anyone gorgeous to think I'm worth a second glance, but I dont like to be considered a 'ugly stretched waste of skin' either.
There is however always this: that the fat woman looks worse in the eyes of a man, than what a fat man looks in the eyes of a woman.
Men, being so... "shallow" (using your words) see nothing else but a bed partner, they don't want someone who'd squish them! Goodness, no! Not even they'd prove to be the kindest person in the world, billion times more modest than your average attractive girl who wants "oh, everything in the mall". Did you know that "ugly fat girls" in general, are cheaper to have arround than an attractive one, because they don't go to extreme financial sums to hide their imperfections. :/
You haven't define these... "ugly fat girls". What do you consider disgusting about them, what appalls you and why do you see only stretched wastes of skin? Can you judge a book by its? Well, can you?
I can tell that you are really an intolerant person.
Not being attracted to overweight people isn't being crass or shallow, calling them 'ugly stretched wastes of skin' is.
I can't really speak from experience, being a 6'3 beanpole, but everyone has their type. I have met some people who use their weight as a shield against behavioral issues, but they are few and far in between.
You can be shallow as you want, but don't be a dick. Try enjoying a person's personality, and you'll enjoy life more. People aren't only good for looking at and screwing, else we wouldn't have evolved as a race.
Imagine if that all people thought of you as was eye candy? It would feel nice for a while, but having your intelligence disregarded would become torture. Sadly, I've already disregarded your intelligence, and I don't even have anything to look at.
i used to be a nice person. a wholesome person. but people mistake hospitality and respectfulness for weakness don't they?
it's a vicious cycle, nice guy gets fucked over by the bitch, which turns him into the asshole, who fucks over a nice girl, who turns into a bitch, who then fucks over a nice guy, etc.
i have a few friends who are "overweight" and they are very nice, amazing personalities, and they don't walk around and act like the world owes them a favor. 2 out of 3 of them are single moms who work their asses off and take care of their children like supermoms.
seeing people like that, and see beautiful people who have ugly insides, makes me wonder about the condition of our culture.
so now i no longer care. i love my family, i love my wife, my daughter, my younger brother, and my dogs, but that's it. i no longer make the mistake of mixing friends and associates.
now i'm more guarded, and the worse i treat women, the more they want my time, does that make sense? no, but it's the way of the world. (the same goes for a young, intelligent, 22 year old girl who just want to snort coke and get fucked, but hey, it's a free country)
welcome to deviantart, you'll find a lot of interesting people here.
I've been a deviant for years, I just started up this account to use on the forum. I find it interesting the blend of people that wander onto the help with life forums.
The people who mistake such things for weakness are looking for weakness in order to better someone, those people are better left behind. Nice guys get fucked over by bitches in order to appreciate the girl next door who they never looked at before.
Yes, people do respond to being belittled, but that is a cheap, easy tactic that loses it's effectiveness the longer you do it. Eventually people realize that they are wasting their time.
Our culture IS ugly, but it's a conditioned culture. It can, if there is enough effort, be reconditioned. I think it's possible, even though most people have stopped caring.
You've got a point there. People shouldn't expect to get what they want, they should expect to get what they ARE. An overweight girl shouldn't be mad because shes rejected by a muscular guy, same goes for overweight men. If you want someone a certain body weight, you have to BE that body weight. Just plain fact. (I know there are exceptions, this is just generally)