Oddly enough, I've found watching youtube videos to be MOST helpful here! When people are recorded in a natural setting as opposed to a movie or an instructional video, you get a great look at word choice and body language. In fact, I just posted a snippet of dialogue from my in-progress novel on my blog. [link]
I completely understand that. It is just when the dialogue becomes too much or when it doesn't sound like an actual conversation. I'm working around the issue, reading and rereading my previous text to assure myself that it doesn't sound, well...too choppy or just bad dialogue. In this case the old cliche comes in handy, "practice makes perfect."
Yes, yes there is. Thank you very much and I understand that it is irritating to hear about such petty issues that entail common sense, but I just was hoping to get a correlation that might hold some cipher to a hidden chasm of literary knowledge or, you know just some positive advice.