As a writer, you can't allow fear to hold you back. It is amazing to me how many people have manuscripts buried in closets or drawers. They were excited about them once and dreamed of publishing them, but the dream died because they didn't have the nerve to send the manuscript out. Maybe they were afraid to let anyone see their stuff, or they got a few rejections, or it wasn't quite up to par. Self publishing is no longer vanity publishing and it is more and more often considered legit. I edit or ghostwrite your content for publication and I've been doing it for a number of years. My site is [link]. Take the plunge!
For the longest time when I started out, it was some of #1 and mostly #2; I was afraid of being seen and being embarrassed by it. Probably because I had myself in it (I still do...Only changed the character to just be based on me) and it was horrible writing. Really horrible. And corny.
But then I got over both when I started high-school.
ExilliorFeatured By OwnerDec 8, 2012Hobbyist General Artist
Agreed. It's pretty damn awful when you can't see the faults in your own writing, because you can sprout bellyfuls of nonsense and you wouldn't spot it. That said, in my humble experience, the reason I see holding back most writers from cranking out words is disappointment in what does come out.
I mean my answer to that is the 'duh why don't you just produce what you DO want to see,' but I know perfectly well it's not that easy. I mean, theoretically I know it. At the time I write stuff, I like what I've written. A week later, eew.
ExilliorFeatured By OwnerDec 9, 2012Hobbyist General Artist
... That rarely happens with me nowadays. Normally I know, when I'm writing it, that it's not good, and I can even point out its weaknesses. And I like that about it, because that means that I can edit it into something good.
whatever I do write, I feel is to contribute in part for what I read. I partake in others writing and stand outside the window and look into their minds. So I think it's fair that I open up a porthole on my mind. That's why I post some of my writings.
I'd rather not be seen. If I could just upload everything anonymously, I would.For the simple fact I'd rather people leave comments with no grain of preference. No worry about their friends feelings, or just trying to be nice. Just commenting truthfully.Being able to connect or sympathize with the emotion or subject matter would be the highest honor.That somebody,somewhere was able to put into words, something you feel or felt in a moment in your life.A feeling you thought was beyond words, or expression. But that's me.
That's exactly what it reads like. When writers think this is normal for the crowd, it probably has a strong effect on the attitudes of prospective writers. I bet the average perception of writers being whiny emotional wrecks who do drugs to feed their creativity drives more people away from writing than fears of inadequacy do.
I prefer to look at that last one the other way around. You need to be a special kind of crazy to succeed. If you want to succeed in anything, you have to be willing to take risks most people would 'wisely' steer clear of, and be a workaholic. The problem is, once you achieve your goal, you may well fall off the rails unless you can move on to the next thing you want to focus on.
My dad explained it to me that way. I don't know where he got that single-serving soundbite of wisdom from, but wherever it came from, it's one I'm glad to have learned. For me, it gave greater clarity to one of the points Roosevelt touched upon in his Man in the Arena speech at Sorbonne in 1910.
I also love that it gives me an excuse to do crazy things
Yeah, my fiance always gets upset when I scream at him BACK OFF when I'm writing and he peeks over my shoulder. Perhaps I should word it more nicely, but man I just panic that the idea will wither away. sniff.
With writing it's all down to the fact that I don't like being told I'm wrong, which is a self esteem thing. I don't like being told I made a spelling mistake, even if I did, or that my idea isn't good or whatever.
With visual Art I've always had that boost in knowing within myself I'm good at this, so I'm a bit more pushy about what I want because I know I can make it well. But when it comes to writing my scripts I do worry a bit. It's not the fear of being humiliated, or the aloneness, it's the fear that people will think I'm stupid because I think my script is good. But then I remember people like my art and people like the story so far, so I must be doing something ok.
External Validation is something that builds into my own image of myself, and it's not a requirement for me to have, certainly not with my visual art now, or really ever... but something I intend to be read, it's nice to know I'm going the right direction.
The main thing that can stop me from doing whatever is actually expecting too much from myself, or thinking I expected a client or a while back, university tutors, wanted me to do a certain style of work. Then I'd panic and go "BUT I HATE MY REALISM WORK" and panic some more and put it off and never do it.
Instead of realising they're paying me to do what I do best, not to do exactly what they want. Yes when you get commissioned you're drawing what the client wants, but they didn't hire you to do something you don't do, like for me realistic oil painting. They hired me to do loose fun colourful work so just relax and do it!
Well, when you narrow it down, this all comes to self esteem. I don't think this is true for every writer, but it is true for those that lack confidence in the first place. But that doesn't go for writers alone. It goes for artists in general. Expressing your true feelings in either writing or art make you kind of vulnerable, to a point in which rejection could be harsh.
Eh, only number 1 applies to me and that's because I like my alone time. Even though people try to talk to me, I stay away from them when I am writing or drawing because I want to focus on what I am doing. My close friends and family know and respect that; other people are less likely to do so and when I try to explain, they dismiss me as being a selfish loner (not everyone, but quite a lot of people did). But I'm not really deathly afraid of being seen itself; I mean, if I'm writing just for myself, I wouldn't post my stuff.
I don't really care about being humiliated or alone. I can differentiate between honest and helpful criticism, and just plain bitchy, rude comments. I don't give a damn about the latter.
Oh, and I find it ironic that a person who is "afraid of being seen" is also "afraid of aloneness". How does that even work? =/
I like my alone time, but I'm not "afraid of being seen." Just there are times when a girl needs to think and much as I love my friends, getting wasted doesn't help there. Although kitties totally help. Yes.
Painfully! It's like you want to interact with people, but are too afraid of screwing it up or being judged or whatever. So still the need for it, but a fear that it'll all blow up.
I'm not afraid of being judged. I actually think that other people are too afraid or worried about it. Afraid of screwing it up? Quite a bit. I often speak in a straightforward manner without the soft tone. If someone asks "where is [this] place?", my answer is "turn around that corner and it's right in front of you", not "oh are you lost? want me to go with you?". After the fact, only then will I realize that I sounded rude, etc.
Also, I guess I'm worried about where I'll draw the line between socialization and being by myself? When I start talking with people, sometimes all they want to do is talk more and I can't get away to do other things xD